Setting clear boundaries with family can be awkward, especially when it involves financial matters, but if your relatives are taking advantage of your labor and your time, it's best to address the problem before it escalates into a brawl at the Thanksgiving table. So, when a frustrated husband and uncle decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole" about whether or not he was wrong to be honest
So my wife and her family are very close, they have two family dinners a week at her parents house, in attendance are her parents, her brother, her sister, my wife, myself and four children: two seven year olds, a three year old and a two year old (ours). Both of her siblings are single parents which feeds into this problem a bit.
I didn't originally mind these dinners but because I am my nephews & nieces favorite person, they have morphed into a situation where I look after and play with all the kids while my wife, her siblings and her parents sit at the table being adults while I have to be a babysitter.