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<p> </p><h2>There are many different types of weddings from a casual backyard ceremony to a 500-person festival, but one thing we can all agree on is that it&#39;s never a good idea to upset the bride...</h2><p>So, when a conflicted man decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to force his girlfriend to change before attending a wedding, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2>AITA (Am I the As*hole) for &quot;demanding&quot; my girlfriend change her dress for a wedding?</h2><blockquote> <p>This happened during this weekend, me being in my early thirties and my gf in her late twenties. I was invited to a wedding ceremony of a colleague and could bring someone with me.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I asked my GF that I&#39;ve been dating for a year if she would like to join me and she was really happy because she apparently loves weddings. Since we don&#39;t live together I drove to pick her up so we&#39;d have some time to spare before the ceremony.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>As she comes out she looks really beautiful and has obviously put in time to fix her hair and make-up. She&#39;s also wearing an off-white dress that was rather ornate. As she got in, I told her that she looked stunning, but I asked if she could change to a different colored dress for the ceremony.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m not one for etiquette by far, but one of the few things I have heard everywhere is that you should not wear a white dress to a wedding unless you&#39;re the bride. She became pretty upset and wanted to know what was wrong with her dress.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I said that it would be inappropriate to wear a white or off-white dress unless you&#39;re the bride - and that it&#39;s like wedding-law or something, trying to be lighthearted about it.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She rolled her eyes and said that it was an outdated tradition about women and virginity and that when her friends got married everyone wore white and that it&#39;s not a big thing anymore.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I told her that I don&#39;t know what the dress code is for this ceremony, but since it&#39;s not saying &quot;all white clothes&quot; I still thought she should change to another color but white or &quot;almost-white&quot; - because my colleague was getting married and we had no idea how she felt about it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My gf became really upset and told me that I was trying to control what she was wearing and that it was abusive, which honestly made me really upset and hurt. I said something along the lines of &quot;F*ck, well you shouldn&#39;t go to a wedding with an abuser then&quot; and then I told her to f*ck off out of my car.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She began to cry and wanted to apologize and give me a hug, but I just told her to get out, which she did (to clarify we never left the driveway by her home, I did not drop her off in the middle of nowhere or anything like that).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I drove off and she called and texted me a bunch. I answered &quot;I don&#39;t want to talk right now&quot; and then turned my phone off and attended the ceremony. The bride was the only one that was wearing white so I feel as if my gut feeling was the right one.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>When I got home my phone had blown up by texts from her and her best friend saying that I was being inconsiderate and controlling and should apologize for my behavior.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve vented to a few friends - most of them agreeing with me but some have said that it was an as*hole thing to tell her that she could not wear her dress - because it had nothing to do with me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I feel as if I was in the right since it was my colleagues wedding and it was better to be safe than sorry, but I&#39;m also not sure if I was being an asshole about the situation. So, reddit AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Sure, the big white wedding and cupcake-style ballgown as a symbol of purity is an outdated tradition, but that doesn&#39;t mean every bride would be pleased to have a guest they don&#39;t even know wearing a wedding dress to her wedding...</h2><p>Wedding etiquette can be a complicated and confusing mess of bridal shower, bachelorette party, and reception rules but in general, doing anything to take attention away from the couple getting married is considered a faux pas. Proposing, announcing a pregnancy, inserting yourself into the speeches after many mimosas, and wearing white are all potential disasters.</p><p>The couple getting married usually spends a lot of time and money to make their wedding a fun and joyous celebration, and distracting the other guests from their special day to unpack why everyone keeps assuming you&#39;re the bride probably won&#39;t go over well in the bridesmaid group chats. This man&#39;s instincts were correct here, but perhaps he could&#39;ve told her more delicately?</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this wedding drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your GF should have known better. Unless you KNOW the couple AND it&rsquo;s a request, you don&rsquo;t wear white. She also overreacted and you did the right thing by asking her to not go and to get out of your car. - Mother_of_Dogs3</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Calling someone an abuser is a massive allegation, and making such unfounded allegations is a form of abuse in and of itself. It shouldn&#39;t be taken lightly. - swordfish2021</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Absolutely NTA - and your GF sounds like an attention-seeking nightmare. Literally everyone knows you&rsquo;re not supposed to wear white to a wedding. Even if she magically had not heard this rule, the second you mentioned it - a reasonable person would have changed dresses just to be safe.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She clearly wanted to be center of attention/create drama&hellip; and when you wouldn&rsquo;t allow it, she created drama another way. I would honestly end this relationship unless you want to end up married to one of those MILs who wear white to their son&rsquo;s wedding and then act mystified when the bride gets upset! - beeeeeebee</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA - I&rsquo;m suspicious of her motives here because EVERYONE knows you don&rsquo;t wear white to a wedding. - OrangeCubit</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man was correct to stop this drama before it unfolded, especially since his girlfriend was a plus-one to a co-worker&#39;s event.</p><h2>Later, he updated the post to include an update:</h2><blockquote> <p><strong>UPDATE:</strong> I never expected this thread to get this many replies. I am incredibly thankful for all of you that have reached out and commented, and I really really appreciate that you&#39;ve taken the time to tell me. My GF found out about the thread (don&#39;t know if she knew my handle, or just found it) and we talked over the phone. She apologized and I apologized and it was a pretty good talk.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She asked if she could come over, and I said no and that it would be best for us to go our separate ways. She got upset and asked why I wouldn&#39;t even try to work it out. I basically just said good bye and then she said my d*ck was small which actually made me laugh after what had been a pretty mature conversation and then she hung up.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m pretty sad about it, she really made me feel happy but as many of you have commented - if this was our first disagreement and she called me abusive how would future disagreements look? I was hurt, but if she did think I was being abusive, it would be the right thing to do, and if she did not think I was being abusive and said it anyway I would not want to be with her. So anyway I think things worked out for the best for us both.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p>Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he was wrong to insist GF not wear white dress to colleague's wedding.

 There are many different types of weddings from a casual backyard ceremony to a 500-person festival, but one thing we can all agree on is that it&#39;s never a good idea to upset the bride...So, when a conflicted man decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to force his girlfriend to change before attending a wedding, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for &quot;demanding&quot; my girlfriend change her dress for a wedding? This happened during this weekend, me being in my early thirties and my gf in her late twenties. I was invited to a wedding ceremony of a colleague and could bring someone with me.   I asked my GF that I&#39;ve been dating for a year if she would like to join me and she was really happy because she apparently loves weddings. Since we don&#39;t live together I drove to pick her up so we&#39;d have some time to spare before the ceremony.   As she comes out she looks really beautiful and has obviously put in time to fix her hair and make-up. She&#39;s also wearing an off-white dress that was rather ornate. As she got in, I told her that she looked stunning, but I asked if she could change to a different colored dress for the ceremony.   I&#39;m not one for etiquette by far, but one of the few things I have heard everywhere is that you should not wear a white dress to a wedding unless you&#39;re the bride. She became pretty upset and wanted to know what was wrong with her dress.   I said that it would be inappropriate to wear a white or off-white dress unless you&#39;re the bride - and that it&#39;s like wedding-law or something, trying to be lighthearted about it.   She rolled her eyes and said that it was an outdated tradition about women and virginity and that when her friends got married everyone wore white and that it&#39;s not a big thing anymore.   I told her that I don&#39;t know what the dress code is for this ceremony, but since it&#39;s not saying &quot;all white clothes&quot; I still thought she should change to another color but white or &quot;almost-white&quot; - because my colleague was getting married and we had no idea how she felt about it.   My gf became really upset and told me that I was trying to control what she was wearing and that it was abusive, which honestly made me really upset and hurt. I said something along the lines of &quot;F*ck, well you shouldn&#39;t go to a wedding with an abuser then&quot; and then I told her to f*ck off out of my car.   She began to cry and wanted to apologize and give me a hug, but I just told her to get out, which she did (to clarify we never left the driveway by her home, I did not drop her off in the middle of nowhere or anything like that).   I drove off and she called and texted me a bunch. I answered &quot;I don&#39;t want to talk right now&quot; and then turned my phone off and attended the ceremony. The bride was the only one that was wearing white so I feel as if my gut feeling was the right one.   When I got home my phone had blown up by texts from her and her best friend saying that I was being inconsiderate and controlling and should apologize for my behavior.   I&#39;ve vented to a few friends - most of them agreeing with me but some have said that it was an as*hole thing to tell her that she could not wear her dress - because it had nothing to do with me.   I feel as if I was in the right since it was my colleagues wedding and it was better to be safe than sorry, but I&#39;m also not sure if I was being an asshole about the situation. So, reddit AITA? Sure, the big white wedding and cupcake-style ballgown as a symbol of purity is an outdated tradition, but that doesn&#39;t mean every bride would be pleased to have a guest they don&#39;t even know wearing a wedding dress to her wedding...Wedding etiquette can be a complicated and confusing mess of bridal shower, bachelorette party, and reception rules but in general, doing anything to take attention away from the couple getting married is considered a faux pas. Proposing, announcing a pregnancy, inserting yourself into the speeches after many mimosas, and wearing white are all potential disasters.The couple getting married usually spends a lot of time and money to make their wedding a fun and joyous celebration, and distracting the other guests from their special day to unpack why everyone keeps assuming you&#39;re the bride probably won&#39;t go over well in the bridesmaid group chats. This man&#39;s instincts were correct here, but perhaps he could&#39;ve told her more delicately?Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this wedding drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA. Your GF should have known better. Unless you KNOW the couple AND it&rsquo;s a request, you don&rsquo;t wear white. She also overreacted and you did the right thing by asking her to not go and to get out of your car. - Mother_of_Dogs3   NTA. Calling someone an abuser is a massive allegation, and making such unfounded allegations is a form of abuse in and of itself. It shouldn&#39;t be taken lightly. - swordfish2021   Absolutely NTA - and your GF sounds like an attention-seeking nightmare. Literally everyone knows you&rsquo;re not supposed to wear white to a wedding. Even if she magically had not heard this rule, the second you mentioned it - a reasonable person would have changed dresses just to be safe.   She clearly wanted to be center of attention/create drama&hellip; and when you wouldn&rsquo;t allow it, she created drama another way. I would honestly end this relationship unless you want to end up married to one of those MILs who wear white to their son&rsquo;s wedding and then act mystified when the bride gets upset! - beeeeeebee   NTA - I&rsquo;m suspicious of her motives here because EVERYONE knows you don&rsquo;t wear white to a wedding. - OrangeCubit So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man was correct to stop this drama before it unfolded, especially since his girlfriend was a plus-one to a co-worker&#39;s event.Later, he updated the post to include an update: UPDATE: I never expected this thread to get this many replies. I am incredibly thankful for all of you that have reached out and commented, and I really really appreciate that you&#39;ve taken the time to tell me. My GF found out about the thread (don&#39;t know if she knew my handle, or just found it) and we talked over the phone. She apologized and I apologized and it was a pretty good talk.   She asked if she could come over, and I said no and that it would be best for us to go our separate ways. She got upset and asked why I wouldn&#39;t even try to work it out. I basically just said good bye and then she said my d*ck was small which actually made me laugh after what had been a pretty mature conversation and then she hung up.   I&#39;m pretty sad about it, she really made me feel happy but as many of you have commented - if this was our first disagreement and she called me abusive how would future disagreements look? I was hurt, but if she did think I was being abusive, it would be the right thing to do, and if she did not think I was being abusive and said it anyway I would not want to be with her. So anyway I think things worked out for the best for us both.  Good luck, everyone!

There are many different types of weddings from a casual backyard ceremony to a 500-person festival, but one thing we can all agree on is that it&#39;s never a good idea to upset the bride...  So, when a conflicted man decided to consult...

Man asks if he was wrong to insist GF not wear white dress to colleague's wedding.

There are many different types of weddings from a casual backyard ceremony to a 500-person festival, but one thing we can all agree on is that it's never a good idea to upset the bride...

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for "demanding" my girlfriend change her dress for a wedding?