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<h2>Tipping can often be a divisive subject as many people resent the fact that 20% of the bill for restaurant or bar service is standard in the United States.</h2><p>There are some situations when a customer feels justified in their choice to not leave a tip and that can spark a debate that floods the comment sections on all social media apps. So, when a conflicted man decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy about whether or not he was wrong to stiff a rude bartender on a tip, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2>AITA for not tipping a bartender on a big tab?</h2><blockquote> <p>My friends and are play bar-league softball during the summer. We are all in our mid 20s and have had this same team for about 5-years. This year we decided to sign up for a tournament about an hour from where we live. After our games were done on Saturday, we decided to go to a bar to grab some food and drinks.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To make things easier for the bar, we just put everything on one tab and would figure out payment amongst ourselves with Venmo and cash. We usually rotate who puts the tab on their card and this time it was me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>One of my friends, Tommy, has a stutter and a lisp. I&#39;ve known him since grade school and he&#39;s a great guy and a solid infielder. But if you don&#39;t know him it can be kind of difficult to understand him sometimes and even more so when he&#39;s had a few beers or if he gets flustered about something</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So our team is at the bar getting a bunch of food and drinks and someone sends Tommy up to the bar to get another round of pitchers. The rest of us were playing pool and darts and after a few minutes we hear a commotion from the bar area and see Tommy and the bartender kind of arguing. I go over with another friend to see what&#39;s going on.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The bartender tells me that he&#39;s not going to serve Tommy anymore because he&#39;s clearly drunk and can&#39;t understand a word he&#39;s saying. We had been at the bar a little over an hour and none of us were wasted. Maybe a little tipsy, but nowhere near the point of being cut-off. Tommy looks really embarrassed and is trying to explain himself but is struggling to get the words out.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My other friend and I try to explain to the bartender that he has a speech impediment and it&#39;s just the way he is. But the bartender isn&#39;t having it and tells us that he&#39;s not going to kick Tommy out, but if he sees Tommy drinking anything he&#39;s going to make him leave. So I tell the bartender to close my tab and that we will all just leave.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Tommy and my other friend go to gather the rest of the guys and I close the tab, which at this point was almost $400 because we had 12 guys there who all got food and drinks. I pay the correct amount, but don&#39;t tip a single cent.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>As we are leaving the bartender calls me out on not leaving a tip and calls me an as*hole. I told him that he was the one who lost out on a big tip because he was being an as*hole. I told him all he had to do was listen to us and be a little understanding and he would&#39;ve gotten a huge tip from us, but he decided to be a jerk to our friend. He had a few more choice words for me as I was leaving, but I just walked out.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Tommy was really embarrassed and was trying to apologize to all of us and was almost near tears. We told him that none of this was his fault and that the bartender was just a jerk. I&#39;ve worked in food-service before and understand that missing out on a tip on a tab like that is a big deal, but the guy was a jerk to my friend and I am not going to reward that with a tip, no matter how big the tab is.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). This was a case of disability discrimination, and you did the right thing. - Ok_Smell_8260</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA NTA NTA. Send an email to the company&#39;s management. I would outline the behavior of their staff and how this treatment makes you not want to return to their establishment. Thank you for being a good friend. He did not deserve to be treated like that. - dreadedbeedee</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. As a person who has a speech impediment, I feel for this situation. People judge a person harshly for their speech impediment. There are many other conditions and a service person has to be mindful that they can mimic signs of intoxication.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So yea, if the bartender was not so ignorant and listened to you, then you would have tipped. But he chose to be ignorant and ignore your explanation to discriminate so sucks to be him - no tip!- Hangingoutwithyou</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>As a bartender, if someone approached me and was slurring and stuttering, my first thought would be that they&#39;re too drunk. I&#39;m given a hundred excuses a week about why people can continue drinking.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If I suspect some one is too drunk, then I legally cannot continue serving them. If I do serve someone who I suspect is drunk continue drinking, then me and my employer are liable. So it&#39;s unfortunate that this happened, but the bartender was just doing his job. - InevitableGood6</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) - The bartender was doing their job. Bars can get in deep sh*t if a person does something stupid while drunk (DUI crash for instance). Unfortunately he probably didn&#39;t believe you as people lie a lot when they want to keep drinking (I&#39;ve spent a lot of time in bars). Not leaving a tip was sh*tty. On the flip side, the bartender was also sh*tty for making a scene about it. - Bucky215</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) - You sent the guy with a speech impediment to order and didn&#39;t realize how that could be a problem? The bartender has a responsibility to cut people off when they are exhibiting signs of being drunk. Having worked as a bartender, you and your friend trying to explain the situation would sound like complete BS. So yeah YTA for not tipping on a $400 check. - soitsmydayoff</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH here, except Tommy. Yes, the bartender could have been more understanding, as well as dug deeper, but you are asking him to risk their job (or his business, if they are the owner) based on the words of 12 tipsy guys clearly there after a game to have a little fun. If Tommy&rsquo;s impediment does sound similar to an overserved patron, <em>of course</em> the bartender is going to play its safe here. Neither Tommy nor the bartender had all the information to prevent this 100% of the time, but the other 11 of you could have sorted this out beforehand, and did not. - JudgeJudAITA</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people could understand that the bartender was just doing the job, even if he didn&#39;t insist on not serving Tommy, calling out the lack of tip was unprofessional. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he was wrong to not tip bartender who was rude to his friend.

Tipping can often be a divisive subject as many people resent the fact that 20% of the bill for restaurant or bar service is standard in the United States.There are some situations when a customer feels justified in their choice to not leave a tip and that can spark a debate that floods the comment sections on all social media apps. So, when a conflicted man decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy about whether or not he was wrong to stiff a rude bartender on a tip, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA for not tipping a bartender on a big tab? My friends and are play bar-league softball during the summer. We are all in our mid 20s and have had this same team for about 5-years. This year we decided to sign up for a tournament about an hour from where we live. After our games were done on Saturday, we decided to go to a bar to grab some food and drinks.  To make things easier for the bar, we just put everything on one tab and would figure out payment amongst ourselves with Venmo and cash. We usually rotate who puts the tab on their card and this time it was me.  One of my friends, Tommy, has a stutter and a lisp. I&#39;ve known him since grade school and he&#39;s a great guy and a solid infielder. But if you don&#39;t know him it can be kind of difficult to understand him sometimes and even more so when he&#39;s had a few beers or if he gets flustered about something  So our team is at the bar getting a bunch of food and drinks and someone sends Tommy up to the bar to get another round of pitchers. The rest of us were playing pool and darts and after a few minutes we hear a commotion from the bar area and see Tommy and the bartender kind of arguing. I go over with another friend to see what&#39;s going on.  The bartender tells me that he&#39;s not going to serve Tommy anymore because he&#39;s clearly drunk and can&#39;t understand a word he&#39;s saying. We had been at the bar a little over an hour and none of us were wasted. Maybe a little tipsy, but nowhere near the point of being cut-off. Tommy looks really embarrassed and is trying to explain himself but is struggling to get the words out.  My other friend and I try to explain to the bartender that he has a speech impediment and it&#39;s just the way he is. But the bartender isn&#39;t having it and tells us that he&#39;s not going to kick Tommy out, but if he sees Tommy drinking anything he&#39;s going to make him leave. So I tell the bartender to close my tab and that we will all just leave.  Tommy and my other friend go to gather the rest of the guys and I close the tab, which at this point was almost $400 because we had 12 guys there who all got food and drinks. I pay the correct amount, but don&#39;t tip a single cent.  As we are leaving the bartender calls me out on not leaving a tip and calls me an as*hole. I told him that he was the one who lost out on a big tip because he was being an as*hole. I told him all he had to do was listen to us and be a little understanding and he would&#39;ve gotten a huge tip from us, but he decided to be a jerk to our friend. He had a few more choice words for me as I was leaving, but I just walked out.  Tommy was really embarrassed and was trying to apologize to all of us and was almost near tears. We told him that none of this was his fault and that the bartender was just a jerk. I&#39;ve worked in food-service before and understand that missing out on a tip on a tab like that is a big deal, but the guy was a jerk to my friend and I am not going to reward that with a tip, no matter how big the tab is. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). This was a case of disability discrimination, and you did the right thing. - Ok_Smell_8260  NTA NTA NTA. Send an email to the company&#39;s management. I would outline the behavior of their staff and how this treatment makes you not want to return to their establishment. Thank you for being a good friend. He did not deserve to be treated like that. - dreadedbeedee  NTA. As a person who has a speech impediment, I feel for this situation. People judge a person harshly for their speech impediment. There are many other conditions and a service person has to be mindful that they can mimic signs of intoxication.  So yea, if the bartender was not so ignorant and listened to you, then you would have tipped. But he chose to be ignorant and ignore your explanation to discriminate so sucks to be him - no tip!- Hangingoutwithyou  As a bartender, if someone approached me and was slurring and stuttering, my first thought would be that they&#39;re too drunk. I&#39;m given a hundred excuses a week about why people can continue drinking.  If I suspect some one is too drunk, then I legally cannot continue serving them. If I do serve someone who I suspect is drunk continue drinking, then me and my employer are liable. So it&#39;s unfortunate that this happened, but the bartender was just doing his job. - InevitableGood6  ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) - The bartender was doing their job. Bars can get in deep sh*t if a person does something stupid while drunk (DUI crash for instance). Unfortunately he probably didn&#39;t believe you as people lie a lot when they want to keep drinking (I&#39;ve spent a lot of time in bars). Not leaving a tip was sh*tty. On the flip side, the bartender was also sh*tty for making a scene about it. - Bucky215  YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) - You sent the guy with a speech impediment to order and didn&#39;t realize how that could be a problem? The bartender has a responsibility to cut people off when they are exhibiting signs of being drunk. Having worked as a bartender, you and your friend trying to explain the situation would sound like complete BS. So yeah YTA for not tipping on a $400 check. - soitsmydayoff   ESH here, except Tommy. Yes, the bartender could have been more understanding, as well as dug deeper, but you are asking him to risk their job (or his business, if they are the owner) based on the words of 12 tipsy guys clearly there after a game to have a little fun. If Tommy&rsquo;s impediment does sound similar to an overserved patron, of course the bartender is going to play its safe here. Neither Tommy nor the bartender had all the information to prevent this 100% of the time, but the other 11 of you could have sorted this out beforehand, and did not. - JudgeJudAITA So, there you have it!While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people could understand that the bartender was just doing the job, even if he didn&#39;t insist on not serving Tommy, calling out the lack of tip was unprofessional. Good luck, everyone!

Tipping can often be a divisive subject as many people resent the fact that 20% of the bill for restaurant or bar service is standard in the United States.  There are some situations when a customer feels justified in their choice to not...