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<p>Maintaining a happy and cordial relationship with neighbors is crucial if you want to have a peaceful neighborhood experience. The challenge is navigating the myriad of personalities and figuring out where your boundaries lie.</p><p>In order to keep the peace, compromises must be sometimes made, but some neighbors have more demanding expectations than others, which means it can be tricky to figure out where to compromise and where to tow your own boundaries.</p><h2>In a recent post on the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nbwjyf/aita_for_telling_my_neighbor_to_get_fed_when_he/" target="_blank">Am I The A**hole subreddit</a>, a man asked if he was wrong for refusing to remove his doorbell camera after his neighbor asked him to.</h2><blockquote> <p>AITA for telling my neighbor to get f***ed when he told me to remove my doorbell camera?​​​​​​</p> </blockquote><h2>OP shared that a string of neighborhood robberies inspired him to buy a doorbell camera.</h2><blockquote> <p>So lately, there have been a number of burglaries in the area I live in. My wife and I were among those who got burglarized and most of the stuff we lost were packages and electronics. My wife and I both work long hours so we&#39;re not home most of the time and despite taking precautions, we still are concerned for the safety of our belongings as well as other things.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Not long after buying the camera, OP and his wife were able to catch a few of the thieves, and even recognized a few of them.</h2><blockquote> <p>So, I decided to get a doorbell camera which frankly has become a necessity and it&#39;s cheap to buy ($199) and easy to install. And so far we were able to catch a number of thieves in act (to my surprise some of them I knew personally and were from the area) which helped lot in getting our stuff back.</p> </blockquote><h2>When OP shared his findings with the neighbors, one of the neighbors freaked out because the camera had brief footage of his wife knocking to visit OP&#39;s wife.</h2><p>The neighbor then demanded OP take it down.</p><blockquote> <p>Onto the issue: So my neighbor and I were discussing this with few other neighbors and I showed him a video that was taken by the camera to explain how we were able to identify the individuals who tried to steal stuff. I was fast-forwarding the footage but he suddenly freaked out and pointed at his wife who was at the door to visit my wife. I was confused when he asked how long I been keeping this video/and if I made copies of it. He then proceeded to tell me it did not feel right to see his wife being recorded by the doorbell cam and the fact that I didn&#39;t get rid of this part since it had nothing to do with catching the thieves made him uncomfortable.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>OP apologized for any misunderstanding and promised the neighbor it wasn&#39;t personal, and the camera catches brief footage of anyone who comes to the door.</h2><blockquote> <p>I apologized for any misunderstanding and promised that it had nothing to do with his wife we had few people stand at our door who were shown on our cam so it wasn&#39;t just his wife. He cut the conversation and left. Then came back in the evening to ask for how long I will be keeping this camera. I asked why and he said he wasn&#39;t sure about his wife being recorded and asked me to remove it. I said no then he suggested I install one inside but I still said no. He got all pissed and said that I was acting inappropriately and mean after he came to me with his concerns expecting me to understand that he doesn&#39;t want me having &#39;footages&#39; of his wife.</p> </blockquote><h2>The neighbor doubled down, insisting OP remove the camera, and OP said if the neighbor is so concerned about his wife being on camera then she could stop coming over.</h2><p>OP also told his neighbor to &quot;get f-ed&quot; and stop bringing up the issue.</p><blockquote> <p>I told him his wife can stop coming over if he was so worried but he went on about never telling his wife what to do or where to go. He insisted I remove the cam but I told him to get f-ed and never bring this up again. He left and got others involved, they told me I should be more considerate of my neighbors feelings and understand where he&#39;s coming from but I stood my ground and refused to remove the camera. My wife thinks I was being a jerk to our neighbor and his wife and have some respect for them but I don&#39;t think I was being disrespectful. Was I?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Now, OP&#39;s neighbor has gotten more neighbors involved, and many of them agree that OP wasn&#39;t considerate enough.</h2><p>Even his wife thinks OP took it too far, so naturally, he brought it to the internet.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Crazyhowthatworks304/">Crazyhowthatworks304</a> thinks OP&#39;s neighbor might be one of the thieves, based on his reaction.</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. What the hell? Lol. Is he the one who was stealing your stuff? Or maybe his wife and that&#39;s why he was questioning how long you had it? You have the right to have your security camera. You stood your ground and that guy is acting incredibly crazy.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RoseTyler38/">RoseTyler38</a> one hundred percent thinks the neighbor was planning to steal from OP or has something to hide.</h2><blockquote> <p>That&#39;s a very strong reaction for someone who is 100% innocent. Think about it OP. My spicy senses are telling me he plans on stealing your stuff soon and is just upset that you can catch thieves. He&#39;s making up BS excuses for you removing your camera. NTA. I would figure out a way to imply to him that his strong reaction seems sus to you.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Veridical_Perception/">Veridical_Perception</a> thinks it&#39;s weird that OP&#39;s neighbor is so stressed since surveillance is pretty normalized everywhere.</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA.</p> <p>As you pointed out, if he&#39;s concerned about his wife being on camera, she doesn&#39;t need to come over.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Also, realistically, dude needs to realize that we are all filmed every day when out in public. Stores, streets, anywhere in public is now filmed with security cameras.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I find it ridiculous that people think that making unreasonable demands under the guise of &quot;needing to understand where they&#39;re coming from&quot; has become de rigueur, not to mention his actual concern is just flat out nutty, paranoid, and a bit creepy - what does he think you&#39;re doing with the footage?</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/warmgreyverylight/">warmgreyverylight</a> thinks it&#39;s weird OP&#39;s neighbor is so pressed when his own wife doesn&#39;t seem to mind being documented.</h2><blockquote> <p>I think it&#39;s very telling that he said &quot;I don&#39;t tell my wife what to do&quot; as a response to your perfectly reasonable suggestion that his wife not come over if it&#39;s a concern.</p> <p>Not because he should be telling his wife what to do, obviously! But his answer means that he&#39;s not leaving it up to his wife to decide what to do about it. He may not even have told her. To him, you having footage of his wife is a concern to <em>him</em>&mdash;for himself, not for his wife&#39;s sake.</p> <p>So, yeah. He&#39;s a creep who thinks he owns his wife and all images of her.</p> <p>Obviously, you have a right to have this device on your own porch, and they can just not come over if they don&#39;t like it. NTA.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>It feels clear that the internet is on OP&#39;s side, hopefully, OP&#39;s wife and the neighbors will come aroud.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong for refusing to remove doorbell camera after neighbor asked him to.

Maintaining a happy and cordial relationship with neighbors is crucial if you want to have a peaceful neighborhood experience. The challenge is navigating the myriad of personalities and figuring out where your boundaries lie.In order to keep the peace, compromises must be sometimes made, but some neighbors have more demanding expectations than others, which means it can be tricky to figure out where to compromise and where to tow your own boundaries.In a recent post on the Am I The A**hole subreddit, a man asked if he was wrong for refusing to remove his doorbell camera after his neighbor asked him to. AITA for telling my neighbor to get f***ed when he told me to remove my doorbell camera?​​​​​​ OP shared that a string of neighborhood robberies inspired him to buy a doorbell camera. So lately, there have been a number of burglaries in the area I live in. My wife and I were among those who got burglarized and most of the stuff we lost were packages and electronics. My wife and I both work long hours so we&#39;re not home most of the time and despite taking precautions, we still are concerned for the safety of our belongings as well as other things. Not long after buying the camera, OP and his wife were able to catch a few of the thieves, and even recognized a few of them. So, I decided to get a doorbell camera which frankly has become a necessity and it&#39;s cheap to buy ($199) and easy to install. And so far we were able to catch a number of thieves in act (to my surprise some of them I knew personally and were from the area) which helped lot in getting our stuff back. When OP shared his findings with the neighbors, one of the neighbors freaked out because the camera had brief footage of his wife knocking to visit OP&#39;s wife.The neighbor then demanded OP take it down. Onto the issue: So my neighbor and I were discussing this with few other neighbors and I showed him a video that was taken by the camera to explain how we were able to identify the individuals who tried to steal stuff. I was fast-forwarding the footage but he suddenly freaked out and pointed at his wife who was at the door to visit my wife. I was confused when he asked how long I been keeping this video/and if I made copies of it. He then proceeded to tell me it did not feel right to see his wife being recorded by the doorbell cam and the fact that I didn&#39;t get rid of this part since it had nothing to do with catching the thieves made him uncomfortable. OP apologized for any misunderstanding and promised the neighbor it wasn&#39;t personal, and the camera catches brief footage of anyone who comes to the door. I apologized for any misunderstanding and promised that it had nothing to do with his wife we had few people stand at our door who were shown on our cam so it wasn&#39;t just his wife. He cut the conversation and left. Then came back in the evening to ask for how long I will be keeping this camera. I asked why and he said he wasn&#39;t sure about his wife being recorded and asked me to remove it. I said no then he suggested I install one inside but I still said no. He got all pissed and said that I was acting inappropriately and mean after he came to me with his concerns expecting me to understand that he doesn&#39;t want me having &#39;footages&#39; of his wife. The neighbor doubled down, insisting OP remove the camera, and OP said if the neighbor is so concerned about his wife being on camera then she could stop coming over.OP also told his neighbor to &quot;get f-ed&quot; and stop bringing up the issue. I told him his wife can stop coming over if he was so worried but he went on about never telling his wife what to do or where to go. He insisted I remove the cam but I told him to get f-ed and never bring this up again. He left and got others involved, they told me I should be more considerate of my neighbors feelings and understand where he&#39;s coming from but I stood my ground and refused to remove the camera. My wife thinks I was being a jerk to our neighbor and his wife and have some respect for them but I don&#39;t think I was being disrespectful. Was I? Now, OP&#39;s neighbor has gotten more neighbors involved, and many of them agree that OP wasn&#39;t considerate enough.Even his wife thinks OP took it too far, so naturally, he brought it to the internet.Crazyhowthatworks304 thinks OP&#39;s neighbor might be one of the thieves, based on his reaction. NTA. What the hell? Lol. Is he the one who was stealing your stuff? Or maybe his wife and that&#39;s why he was questioning how long you had it? You have the right to have your security camera. You stood your ground and that guy is acting incredibly crazy.  RoseTyler38 one hundred percent thinks the neighbor was planning to steal from OP or has something to hide. That&#39;s a very strong reaction for someone who is 100% innocent. Think about it OP. My spicy senses are telling me he plans on stealing your stuff soon and is just upset that you can catch thieves. He&#39;s making up BS excuses for you removing your camera. NTA. I would figure out a way to imply to him that his strong reaction seems sus to you.  Veridical_Perception thinks it&#39;s weird that OP&#39;s neighbor is so stressed since surveillance is pretty normalized everywhere. NTA. As you pointed out, if he&#39;s concerned about his wife being on camera, she doesn&#39;t need to come over.  Also, realistically, dude needs to realize that we are all filmed every day when out in public. Stores, streets, anywhere in public is now filmed with security cameras.  I find it ridiculous that people think that making unreasonable demands under the guise of &quot;needing to understand where they&#39;re coming from&quot; has become de rigueur, not to mention his actual concern is just flat out nutty, paranoid, and a bit creepy - what does he think you&#39;re doing with the footage? warmgreyverylight thinks it&#39;s weird OP&#39;s neighbor is so pressed when his own wife doesn&#39;t seem to mind being documented. I think it&#39;s very telling that he said &quot;I don&#39;t tell my wife what to do&quot; as a response to your perfectly reasonable suggestion that his wife not come over if it&#39;s a concern. Not because he should be telling his wife what to do, obviously! But his answer means that he&#39;s not leaving it up to his wife to decide what to do about it. He may not even have told her. To him, you having footage of his wife is a concern to him&mdash;for himself, not for his wife&#39;s sake. So, yeah. He&#39;s a creep who thinks he owns his wife and all images of her. Obviously, you have a right to have this device on your own porch, and they can just not come over if they don&#39;t like it. NTA. It feels clear that the internet is on OP&#39;s side, hopefully, OP&#39;s wife and the neighbors will come aroud.