Sometimes no matter how hard you try to steer the conversation away from religion, politics, or money, you end up swifty spiraling into an uncomfortable situation. Comparing salaries with friends, watching as your partner reveals private information about your joint income, or bragging about a raise or purchase can turn an otherwise fun couples dinner into an anxiety-riddled disaster. Being honest about money is critical for a healthy relationship, but it's important to discuss financial goals, debt, or spending habits before resentments brew and bubble over.
So, when a frustrated husband decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole?" about his wife's opinion of their finances, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
I (31M) have been with my wife (30F) for 10 years now and she always has had this habit of making me look bad with our finances. Whenever anything regarding spending money comes up she will always say how broke we are and she doesn't have the money to do this or buy that. The thing is we are doing well financially. We have decent jobs and combine our salary is roughly $125k/yr.