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<p>Break-ups are never easy, and it&#39;s even harder when there are issues of money involved. When you dish out the money to plan a vacation with a partner you always run the risk that you&#39;ll break up before the trip, but that risk literally applies to any planning as a couple.</p><p>It obviously sucks to lose a large wad of cash on a trip that is canceled or dampened by the painful existence of a break up, but it&#39;s generally far more emotionally messy to force a trip with an ex right after cutting ties.</p><h2>In a recent post on the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cnizn5/aita_for_still_wanting_to_go_to_hawaii_after/" target="_blank">Am I The *sshole subreddit</a>, a guy asked if he&#39;s wrong for wanting to go to Hawaii with his ex-girlfriend right after dumping her.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;AITA for still wanting to go to Hawaii after breaking up with my girlfriend?&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>In the post, OP shared that he covered $1,700 of a $2,500 vacation package for his ex-girlfriend&#39;s sister&#39;s wedding in Hawaii.</h2><p>Of course, now that he&#39;s broken off the relationship of two and a half years, it makes the logistics of the trip deeply awkward.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;My girlfriend and I had been together for 2 and a half years. Before my decision to break up we had bought a vacation package together for her sisters wedding in Maui. She was short on splitting the cost so I covered $1,700 of the $2,500 total cost.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Now that he&#39;s dumped his ex, she understandably doesn&#39;t want him to go with her to Hawaii.</h2><p>However, she hasn&#39;t offered to pay him back at all for the trip, so now OP wants to at least take advantage of the airfare he purchased.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;After the breakup she would not allow me to go with her because it was my choice to end the relationship and she would not be paying me back for any part of the trip. I insisted that I should still be able to go because of the amount I paid towards the trip.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>While OP doesn&#39;t plan to crash his ex&#39;s sister&#39;s wedding, he still was hoping to share the hotel room and crash on the couch during the trip.</h2><p>His ex, on the other hand, claimed it would ruin her sister&#39;s wedding to see him hanging around the hotel during the evening.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;All I wanted to do was go to Hawaii sleep on the couch of the hotel we had in the evening and be gone the rest of the day. She made the argument I would be ruining her sisters wedding, which none of her family was staying at the same hotel we had booked and had no plans to hang out or be a part of any part of the wedding.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>After a difficult discussion, OP said that his ex canceled his ticket without warning him or refunding any of his money.</h2><p>Now, he is unsure what to do.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;She then canceled my ticket without telling me and I will never see any of the $1,700 back or the money she got back for my plane ticket.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>NikkiSharpe thinks OP should take his ex to small claims court.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA. If it was just a vacation, I&#39;d say cancel her ticket since you paid for most of it. But since it&#39;s to go to her sister&#39;s wedding, I say take her to small claims court for the amount you paid.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/justputonsomemusic/">justputonsomemusic</a> thinks OP should suck it up and move on, since it&#39;s his ex&#39;s sister&#39;s wedding.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Going against popular opinion here, but YTA. You dumped her. Now you want to tag along with her to Hawaii just to get your moneys worth?&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;Think about it from her perspective:</p> <p>It&#39;s her sister&#39;s wedding, a special occasion that she had been looking forward to to spend time with family, friends, and with you. Now she is going alone. Do you know how much it sucks going to a wedding as newly single (even if it&#39;s been a few months)?&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;You dumped her. The relationship is over. And everyone knows that the best way to get through a breakup is to have <strong>zero contact</strong> with the ex.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;Getting away to Hawaii for the wedding is her chance at getting away from it all. Now, she has to see your obnoxious arse on the couch in her hotel room every morning and night she is there.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;So basically she is going to her sister&#39;s wedding, will be constantly reminded that she is now single and the dumpee, and THEN come back to her hotel room at the end of a long day and see YOU on the bloody couch.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;Write the $1,700 off as a life lesson, and in the future either get travel insurance or only book if you have no plans on dumping your next girlfriend.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/huhhhwhatttttttt/">huhhhwhatttttttt</a> thinks both OP and his ex suck in this situation.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;ESH. It&rsquo;s not like they are married. It&rsquo;s still his money. Technically, she did steal it. He isn&rsquo;t obligated to stay in a relationship with her. He has the right to break up with her. They aren&rsquo;t married. They didn&rsquo;t sign a contract. For all we know she could of cheated on him. Etc. It&rsquo;s weird that he wants to be in the same hotel, same flight, and same room.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/GetBumRushedMate/">GetBumRushedMate</a> thinks OP was tacky to dump his ex before her sister&#39;s wedding and make it about money.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Am I missing something or what? Because from my experience and the people I know who have flown and booked a hotel, you don&#39;t see that money back if you cancel. Unless you try to dispute through the bank or through the flying agency they&#39;re using. I&#39;ve been told and experienced myself that refunding was $0. But in my case it was a hotel. But from others, I&#39;ve heard they got $0 refunded until they went into the flying agency they booked it with and asked for a refund.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;Also I agree that OP is the asshole here. Like bruh, did he really just dump his ex before the trip? That was planned ahead of time? I get the feeling OP is hiding something else. But that&#39;s just my ignorant ass talking.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/rdows365/">rdows365</a> thinks OP is completely to blame for his predicament.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;I agree. YTA. If he was so concerned about his $1700 and the trip to Hawaii in general, he should have waited to break up with her. If she broke up with him, I&#39;d have a different opinion. But because he made the choice, he should have known that she would not want him at her sister&#39;s wedding, and therefore he would not be going to Hawaii. He had already agreed to pay the $1700. Maybe she wouldn&#39;t have gone to Hawaii at all if he hadn&#39;t helped her out.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;Also, people are forgetting that the total trip cost was $2500, so his half was $1250. If anything, she should reimburse him for the additional $450 to make them even, and he should forfeit the $1250 for his half, since, again, he broke up with her.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>Regardless of whether this ends with OP letting go of the $1,700 and calling it a day, or pushing the issue in a small claims court, it&#39;ll be uncomfortable all around.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

A man dumped his girlfriend but asks if he can still go on her sister's wedding trip in Hawaii.

Break-ups are never easy, and it&#39;s even harder when there are issues of money involved. When you dish out the money to plan a vacation with a partner you always run the risk that you&#39;ll break up before the trip, but that risk literally applies to any planning as a couple.It obviously sucks to lose a large wad of cash on a trip that is canceled or dampened by the painful existence of a break up, but it&#39;s generally far more emotionally messy to force a trip with an ex right after cutting ties.In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a guy asked if he&#39;s wrong for wanting to go to Hawaii with his ex-girlfriend right after dumping her. &quot;AITA for still wanting to go to Hawaii after breaking up with my girlfriend?&quot; In the post, OP shared that he covered $1,700 of a $2,500 vacation package for his ex-girlfriend&#39;s sister&#39;s wedding in Hawaii.Of course, now that he&#39;s broken off the relationship of two and a half years, it makes the logistics of the trip deeply awkward. &quot;My girlfriend and I had been together for 2 and a half years. Before my decision to break up we had bought a vacation package together for her sisters wedding in Maui. She was short on splitting the cost so I covered $1,700 of the $2,500 total cost.&quot; Now that he&#39;s dumped his ex, she understandably doesn&#39;t want him to go with her to Hawaii.However, she hasn&#39;t offered to pay him back at all for the trip, so now OP wants to at least take advantage of the airfare he purchased. &quot;After the breakup she would not allow me to go with her because it was my choice to end the relationship and she would not be paying me back for any part of the trip. I insisted that I should still be able to go because of the amount I paid towards the trip.&quot; While OP doesn&#39;t plan to crash his ex&#39;s sister&#39;s wedding, he still was hoping to share the hotel room and crash on the couch during the trip.His ex, on the other hand, claimed it would ruin her sister&#39;s wedding to see him hanging around the hotel during the evening. &quot;All I wanted to do was go to Hawaii sleep on the couch of the hotel we had in the evening and be gone the rest of the day. She made the argument I would be ruining her sisters wedding, which none of her family was staying at the same hotel we had booked and had no plans to hang out or be a part of any part of the wedding.&quot; After a difficult discussion, OP said that his ex canceled his ticket without warning him or refunding any of his money.Now, he is unsure what to do. &quot;She then canceled my ticket without telling me and I will never see any of the $1,700 back or the money she got back for my plane ticket.&quot; NikkiSharpe thinks OP should take his ex to small claims court. &quot;NTA. If it was just a vacation, I&#39;d say cancel her ticket since you paid for most of it. But since it&#39;s to go to her sister&#39;s wedding, I say take her to small claims court for the amount you paid.&quot; justputonsomemusic thinks OP should suck it up and move on, since it&#39;s his ex&#39;s sister&#39;s wedding. &quot;Going against popular opinion here, but YTA. You dumped her. Now you want to tag along with her to Hawaii just to get your moneys worth?&quot;  &quot;Think about it from her perspective: It&#39;s her sister&#39;s wedding, a special occasion that she had been looking forward to to spend time with family, friends, and with you. Now she is going alone. Do you know how much it sucks going to a wedding as newly single (even if it&#39;s been a few months)?&quot;  &quot;You dumped her. The relationship is over. And everyone knows that the best way to get through a breakup is to have zero contact with the ex.&quot;  &quot;Getting away to Hawaii for the wedding is her chance at getting away from it all. Now, she has to see your obnoxious arse on the couch in her hotel room every morning and night she is there.&quot;  &quot;So basically she is going to her sister&#39;s wedding, will be constantly reminded that she is now single and the dumpee, and THEN come back to her hotel room at the end of a long day and see YOU on the bloody couch.&quot;  &quot;Write the $1,700 off as a life lesson, and in the future either get travel insurance or only book if you have no plans on dumping your next girlfriend.&quot; huhhhwhatttttttt thinks both OP and his ex suck in this situation. &quot;ESH. It&rsquo;s not like they are married. It&rsquo;s still his money. Technically, she did steal it. He isn&rsquo;t obligated to stay in a relationship with her. He has the right to break up with her. They aren&rsquo;t married. They didn&rsquo;t sign a contract. For all we know she could of cheated on him. Etc. It&rsquo;s weird that he wants to be in the same hotel, same flight, and same room.&quot; GetBumRushedMate thinks OP was tacky to dump his ex before her sister&#39;s wedding and make it about money. &quot;Am I missing something or what? Because from my experience and the people I know who have flown and booked a hotel, you don&#39;t see that money back if you cancel. Unless you try to dispute through the bank or through the flying agency they&#39;re using. I&#39;ve been told and experienced myself that refunding was $0. But in my case it was a hotel. But from others, I&#39;ve heard they got $0 refunded until they went into the flying agency they booked it with and asked for a refund.&quot;  &quot;Also I agree that OP is the asshole here. Like bruh, did he really just dump his ex before the trip? That was planned ahead of time? I get the feeling OP is hiding something else. But that&#39;s just my ignorant ass talking.&quot; rdows365 thinks OP is completely to blame for his predicament. &quot;I agree. YTA. If he was so concerned about his $1700 and the trip to Hawaii in general, he should have waited to break up with her. If she broke up with him, I&#39;d have a different opinion. But because he made the choice, he should have known that she would not want him at her sister&#39;s wedding, and therefore he would not be going to Hawaii. He had already agreed to pay the $1700. Maybe she wouldn&#39;t have gone to Hawaii at all if he hadn&#39;t helped her out.&quot;  &quot;Also, people are forgetting that the total trip cost was $2500, so his half was $1250. If anything, she should reimburse him for the additional $450 to make them even, and he should forfeit the $1250 for his half, since, again, he broke up with her.&quot; Regardless of whether this ends with OP letting go of the $1,700 and calling it a day, or pushing the issue in a small claims court, it&#39;ll be uncomfortable all around.

Break-ups are never easy, and it's even harder when there are issues of money involved.

A man dumped his girlfriend but asks if he can still go on her sister's wedding trip in Hawaii.

In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a guy asked if he's wrong for wanting to go to Hawaii with his ex-girlfriend right after dumping her.

In the post, OP shared that he covered $1,700 of a $2,500 vacation package for his ex-girlfriend's sister's wedding in Hawaii.