Grief is a horrible and inexplicable experience that buries you in waves of sadness and disassociation, and can make the concept of returning to "normal" seem impossible. While some losses hit people harder than others, comparing tragedy is a senseless activity that attempts to quantify pain in a way erases its complexities.
Losing a child feels different than losing a parent, just as losing a close friend feels different than losing an aunt - all grief is filtered through individual relationship and your own personality. So, when people try to measure pain or assume sameness because you've both experienced loss it can be incredibly triggering.
AITA for telling a friend that her dog dying is not the same as my kid?
Looking at the title I know you’ll probably think NTA, but there’s a bit of context involved.
Naturally, she is in the throes of grieving, so friends have been visiting and offering consoling words.