Man tells off ex-wife after she gives list of foods to not feed daughter at his house.

Co-parenting after you've separated can be tough emotionally.

It can be challenging to not channel feelings of irritation and resentment into co-parenting dynamics, particularly if it feels like your ex is already doing so.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a man asked if he's wrong for feeding his daughter onions after his ex instructed him not to.

He wrote:

AITA for feeding my daughter onions?

My ex likes to tell me what I should and shouldn't do on my custody days, and I generally ignore her, because there is a reason we divorced. She has a list of food she doesn't want our daughter to eat, and I don't pay attention to her list.

I drop our daughter off at school Monday mornings, and her mother picks her up. She called me yesterday to say she was cleaning our daughter's lunchbox and found onion slivers and asked if any of the lunch I packed her had onions.

I said yes, it did. She said that onions were on her list. I said I didn't care. She said onions make our daughter smell bad when she sweats and kids will bully her. I said that at my house our daughter showers, and she might try that at her house as well.

She called me a spiteful prick and told me no more onions. Our daughter likes onions, so I'm going to ignore her. A part of me does wonder if I was petty though.

It pisses me off when she tells me what to do, so maybe that is clouding my judgement.

gastropodia42 wrote:

NTA. If the onions really cause her to smell bad, she would have known without finding the slivers.

liv-WRLD999 wrote:

NTA. It's one thing if onions giver her an allergic/bad reaction but it's completely different if she just doesn't want her to 'smell bad' after eating them.

No_Blood_6147 wrote:

From the title I assumed you were forcing onions on a kid who doesn’t like them. If she likes onions and you are including a food she likes in her lunchbox, you are NTA.

olavla wrote:

NTA. There's no requirement after divorce that forces you to use a list of approved ingredients by your ex.

Next, the question is: is the food that I have my daughter eat so rare or bizarre that it is a cause for concern? Onions -> no.

Other questions that you can evaluate:

Are onions unhealthy in the quantity she eats it? No.

Is it commonly known that eating onions leads to bullying for kids? No.

Does eating onions make your sweat smell? I'd even say no to this.

Conclusion: NTA.

MelkorHimself wrote:

NTA. If your ex feels so strongly about it, she can waste thousands of dollars going back to court to amend the custody agreement with food restrictions.

Sapphire_Renee wrote:

NTA It's wildly inappropriate to restrict a child's diet over something like smell? Everyone stinks???

It seems clear the internet agrees with OP, even if his communication style was petty.