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<p>Destination weddings can be incredibly romantic and scenic for the couple getting hitched, but also wildly expensive for all the loved ones making the trek. In most cases, the costs of travel and lodging fall on the guests, and if you&#39;re not flush with vacation money a destination wedding might be your only trip all year.</p><p>This can pose a conflict of interest if you&#39;re working on cooking up your own romantic trip and don&#39;t want to put it off for another year, which brings us to the burning question of this post: is it a tacky move to propose while on a destination wedding vacation?</p><h2>In a recent post on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/chqcaw/aita_for_proposing_to_my_gf_while_on_a_vacation/" target="_blank">the Am I The Asshole subreddit</a>, a man shared how he proposed to his fiance while on vacation for her sister&#39;s destination wedding last year.</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>&quot;AITA for proposing to my gf while on a vacation for a destination wedding?&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;This was a year ago - I feel like I&#39;d like some feedback from people. Since people said this is important - adding it here: I proposed two days after the wedding.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The Carribean destination wedding was for OP&#39;s fiance&#39;s youngest sister, and it was overall a laid-back atmosphere.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;To set the stage - we went to the Caribbean for a destination wedding for my gf&#39;s sister. The wedding was always propositioned to us as &quot;our vacation but we just have to show up for a wedding on saturday for an hour&quot;, that was the description from the bride to be.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>OP bought his engagement ring the day before they left for the trip, with plans to ask permission from his fiance&#39;s father during the vacation.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;I got a ring the day before leaving for the wedding - my plan was actually to propose on the plane ride home or right when we got home. I brought the ring with me on the trip because I wanted to show her Dad when I asked for permission. My fiance is the oldest of 3 sisters, and was maid of honor a year prior in her middle sister&#39;s wedding. This was the wedding for her youngest sister.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>On the first day of the trip, OP got reamed out by one of his fiance&#39;s sisters for even bringing the ring in the first place.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;The first day we got there - I went to her middle sister (not the bride) and her husband because I was super excited and wanted to share. I told them I had an engagement ring and before I could say anything else - her sister started berating me.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;Do not propose while you are here, I will kill you if you do that. I will make sure my whole family hates you.&quot;</p> <p>That is almost verbatim. I didn&#39;t say anything further; changed the subject and dropped it.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>OP went on to share that his plan was to propose a few days after the wedding, in part because it&#39;s rare to be around the whole family.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Her parents aren&#39;t around much so I only see them during holidays - so I still wanted to get permission as this seemed liked a good window. The wedding was Saturday, everything went well and was great. People started to leave on monday, we were leaving tuesday - so I took an opportunity to walk back to my room when her Dad was doing the same thing.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>When OP showed his fiance&#39;s dad the ring, he was immediately met with support.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;I asked him, he got the biggest smile and gave me a huge hug - it was so awesome. The love and excitement her Dad was pouring out made me feel so much better about everything; that moment is still really dear to my heart to this day.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;He wanted to see the ring - so I showed him, he asked what/when/where so I told him my plans. He said I should do it while we were here and got excited - I should at dinner later, when their side of the family is mostly still there.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>OP ended up asking the bride and groom how they felt about him propising at the tail end of the trip, and they said it was fine, as long as it didn&#39;t go down at a group dinner.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;I hesitated but didn&#39;t shoot it down - he was so excited and happy. I told him I&#39;d have to check with the bride/groom to make sure - I didn&#39;t want to step on any toes. I asked them, after a few hours they text messaged me it was ok - just not at dinner.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;So I proposed later that evening, in private, she says yes - we hang by the pool at night and celebrate. Cut forward a month - her sisters stop talking to her; they hate me because I proposed. I waited to even talk to her dad until people started leaving the resort, half the people were already gone the night I proposed.</p> <p>AITA?&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>In the end, OP ended up proposing in private by the pool. However, the timing of his proposal upset both of her sisters so much the past year of engagement has been deeply tense.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;EDIT: I&#39;ll add info I keep seeing asked</p> <p>1 - The wedding trip was not paid for, the guests had to provide themselves resort/flights (it was all inclusive). It was expensive and it was our only vacation for the foreseeable future.</p> <p>2 - I have reached out to the sisters multiple times - the sisters are talking but they have not talked to me, yet.</p> <p>3 - I had issued multiple apologies to them separately and together the past year</p> <p>4 - I proposed in private, two days after the wedding ceremony, the night before everyone left (and the day that people started to leave)&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>Now, with their wedding fast approaching, and family tensions still boiling, OP wonders if he made a bad decision.</h2><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/chqcaw/aita_for_proposing_to_my_gf_while_on_a_vacation/" target="_blank">justforkicks63</a> thinks OP did nothing wrong, since he explicitly asked for permission.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA- he asked the sisters if it would be alright to ask after the dinner...the answer was Yes! Her Dad is the one that asked he do it before the whole family left so I see no problem. Congratulations on your wedding&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/chmilz/">chmilz</a> thinks it was completely reasonable, given the proposal happened days after the wedding.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Agree, NTA. I got married at an all-inclusive destination wedding, and have been to multiple destination weddings. Each and every one was billed as &quot;join us for a wedding while enjoying your own vacation&quot;. OP was extremely respectful to no overshadow anyone. If someone did that on the last night of my wedding vacation, with my blessing, and some irrelevant (read: not the bride or groom) person lost their shit, I would have told them to chill and proceeded to be happy for the friends/family who got engaged with my blessing.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/slowbroiledtoast/">slowbroiledtoast</a> truly thinks no one was in the wrong here, and OP was just trying to take advantage of the scenery.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;All these comments stating that you&rsquo;re the asshole, but honestly I see it as NAH. In my mind, I&rsquo;m thinking that destination weddings are expensive and the location is incredible and the fact that you waited two days after the wedding reception to do it privately makes it seem okay to me. The bride has the right to be mad that it was close to the wedding but what I&rsquo;m reading is someone who wanted to use an opportunity to propose somewhere nice and didn&rsquo;t do it ima fashion that would even slightly overshadow the wedding.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Tashiara/">Tashiara</a> thinks it&#39;s completely selfish of the sisters to lash out at OP when he was respectful.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Nta - The kind of people who are saying you proposed at the wedding are the kind of people who celebrate their birth week instead of their birthday. The proposal wasnt at the wedding. It was in private after an intimate family dinner days after. What better place. What is there an unspoken number of days one must wait after attending a wedding to propose??&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mrsmkay/">Mrsmkay</a>&#39;s friend got engaged the day after her destination wedding and she was thrilled.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA- and I say this from my own experience too. We had a wedding abroad and my bridesmaid&rsquo;s boyfriend spoke to me one night before the actual wedding and told me he wanted to propose during the holiday and wanted to check we were ok with it. I was so excited for him and my friend and told him to go for it and as long as we weren&rsquo;t literally walking down the aisle at the time I didn&rsquo;t care when or how he did it.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;He actually proposed the night after the wedding while it was just the two of them going out for dinner. I was so excited all night waiting for the phone call from my friend to tell me that she&rsquo;d gotten engaged and it made the whole holiday even more special. I don&rsquo;t know why anybody wouldn&rsquo;t be happy for someone close to them about such a happy event. They traveled for us so why would I want to begrudge them their own special event??&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>Hopefully, for both OP&#39;s sake and the sake of his fiance, her sisters come around before they have their own wedding.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong for proposing to fiance during her sister's destination wedding trip.

Destination weddings can be incredibly romantic and scenic for the couple getting hitched, but also wildly expensive for all the loved ones making the trek. In most cases, the costs of travel and lodging fall on the guests, and if you&#39;re not flush with vacation money a destination wedding might be your only trip all year.This can pose a conflict of interest if you&#39;re working on cooking up your own romantic trip and don&#39;t want to put it off for another year, which brings us to the burning question of this post: is it a tacky move to propose while on a destination wedding vacation?In a recent post on the Am I The Asshole subreddit, a man shared how he proposed to his fiance while on vacation for her sister&#39;s destination wedding last year.  &quot;AITA for proposing to my gf while on a vacation for a destination wedding?&quot;  &quot;This was a year ago - I feel like I&#39;d like some feedback from people. Since people said this is important - adding it here: I proposed two days after the wedding.&quot; The Carribean destination wedding was for OP&#39;s fiance&#39;s youngest sister, and it was overall a laid-back atmosphere. &quot;To set the stage - we went to the Caribbean for a destination wedding for my gf&#39;s sister. The wedding was always propositioned to us as &quot;our vacation but we just have to show up for a wedding on saturday for an hour&quot;, that was the description from the bride to be.&quot; OP bought his engagement ring the day before they left for the trip, with plans to ask permission from his fiance&#39;s father during the vacation. &quot;I got a ring the day before leaving for the wedding - my plan was actually to propose on the plane ride home or right when we got home. I brought the ring with me on the trip because I wanted to show her Dad when I asked for permission. My fiance is the oldest of 3 sisters, and was maid of honor a year prior in her middle sister&#39;s wedding. This was the wedding for her youngest sister.&quot; On the first day of the trip, OP got reamed out by one of his fiance&#39;s sisters for even bringing the ring in the first place. &quot;The first day we got there - I went to her middle sister (not the bride) and her husband because I was super excited and wanted to share. I told them I had an engagement ring and before I could say anything else - her sister started berating me.&quot;  &quot;Do not propose while you are here, I will kill you if you do that. I will make sure my whole family hates you.&quot; That is almost verbatim. I didn&#39;t say anything further; changed the subject and dropped it.&quot; OP went on to share that his plan was to propose a few days after the wedding, in part because it&#39;s rare to be around the whole family. &quot;Her parents aren&#39;t around much so I only see them during holidays - so I still wanted to get permission as this seemed liked a good window. The wedding was Saturday, everything went well and was great. People started to leave on monday, we were leaving tuesday - so I took an opportunity to walk back to my room when her Dad was doing the same thing.&quot; When OP showed his fiance&#39;s dad the ring, he was immediately met with support. &quot;I asked him, he got the biggest smile and gave me a huge hug - it was so awesome. The love and excitement her Dad was pouring out made me feel so much better about everything; that moment is still really dear to my heart to this day.&quot;  &quot;He wanted to see the ring - so I showed him, he asked what/when/where so I told him my plans. He said I should do it while we were here and got excited - I should at dinner later, when their side of the family is mostly still there.&quot; OP ended up asking the bride and groom how they felt about him propising at the tail end of the trip, and they said it was fine, as long as it didn&#39;t go down at a group dinner. &quot;I hesitated but didn&#39;t shoot it down - he was so excited and happy. I told him I&#39;d have to check with the bride/groom to make sure - I didn&#39;t want to step on any toes. I asked them, after a few hours they text messaged me it was ok - just not at dinner.&quot;  &quot;So I proposed later that evening, in private, she says yes - we hang by the pool at night and celebrate. Cut forward a month - her sisters stop talking to her; they hate me because I proposed. I waited to even talk to her dad until people started leaving the resort, half the people were already gone the night I proposed. AITA?&quot; In the end, OP ended up proposing in private by the pool. However, the timing of his proposal upset both of her sisters so much the past year of engagement has been deeply tense. &quot;EDIT: I&#39;ll add info I keep seeing asked 1 - The wedding trip was not paid for, the guests had to provide themselves resort/flights (it was all inclusive). It was expensive and it was our only vacation for the foreseeable future. 2 - I have reached out to the sisters multiple times - the sisters are talking but they have not talked to me, yet. 3 - I had issued multiple apologies to them separately and together the past year 4 - I proposed in private, two days after the wedding ceremony, the night before everyone left (and the day that people started to leave)&quot; Now, with their wedding fast approaching, and family tensions still boiling, OP wonders if he made a bad decision.justforkicks63 thinks OP did nothing wrong, since he explicitly asked for permission. &quot;NTA- he asked the sisters if it would be alright to ask after the dinner...the answer was Yes! Her Dad is the one that asked he do it before the whole family left so I see no problem. Congratulations on your wedding&quot; chmilz thinks it was completely reasonable, given the proposal happened days after the wedding. &quot;Agree, NTA. I got married at an all-inclusive destination wedding, and have been to multiple destination weddings. Each and every one was billed as &quot;join us for a wedding while enjoying your own vacation&quot;. OP was extremely respectful to no overshadow anyone. If someone did that on the last night of my wedding vacation, with my blessing, and some irrelevant (read: not the bride or groom) person lost their shit, I would have told them to chill and proceeded to be happy for the friends/family who got engaged with my blessing.&quot; slowbroiledtoast truly thinks no one was in the wrong here, and OP was just trying to take advantage of the scenery. &quot;All these comments stating that you&rsquo;re the asshole, but honestly I see it as NAH. In my mind, I&rsquo;m thinking that destination weddings are expensive and the location is incredible and the fact that you waited two days after the wedding reception to do it privately makes it seem okay to me. The bride has the right to be mad that it was close to the wedding but what I&rsquo;m reading is someone who wanted to use an opportunity to propose somewhere nice and didn&rsquo;t do it ima fashion that would even slightly overshadow the wedding.&quot; Tashiara thinks it&#39;s completely selfish of the sisters to lash out at OP when he was respectful. &quot;Nta - The kind of people who are saying you proposed at the wedding are the kind of people who celebrate their birth week instead of their birthday. The proposal wasnt at the wedding. It was in private after an intimate family dinner days after. What better place. What is there an unspoken number of days one must wait after attending a wedding to propose??&quot; Mrsmkay&#39;s friend got engaged the day after her destination wedding and she was thrilled. &quot;NTA- and I say this from my own experience too. We had a wedding abroad and my bridesmaid&rsquo;s boyfriend spoke to me one night before the actual wedding and told me he wanted to propose during the holiday and wanted to check we were ok with it. I was so excited for him and my friend and told him to go for it and as long as we weren&rsquo;t literally walking down the aisle at the time I didn&rsquo;t care when or how he did it.&quot;  &quot;He actually proposed the night after the wedding while it was just the two of them going out for dinner. I was so excited all night waiting for the phone call from my friend to tell me that she&rsquo;d gotten engaged and it made the whole holiday even more special. I don&rsquo;t know why anybody wouldn&rsquo;t be happy for someone close to them about such a happy event. They traveled for us so why would I want to begrudge them their own special event??&quot; Hopefully, for both OP&#39;s sake and the sake of his fiance, her sisters come around before they have their own wedding.

Destination weddings can be incredibly romantic and scenic for the couple getting hitched, but also wildly expensive for all the loved ones making the trek.