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Man yells at pregnant wife after she refuses to help him look for his runaway dog.

Man yells at pregnant wife after she refuses to help him look for his runaway dog.


Hell hath no fury like a dog person scorned.

It's not uncommon for fights to break out when someone doesn't match their partner's enthusiasm for the dog, since dogs can easily be considered family members in many households.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a man asked if he was wrong for snapping and yelling at his pregnant fiance after she refused to look for his dog with him.

He wrote:

AITA for screaming at my pregnant fiance for not helping me find my dog, who had run off?

My fiance (28f) is currently 5 months pregnant and has been both fatigued and nauseous lately. I get why she didn't want to help me look for the dog but I can't get over the lack of empathy and bordering selfish behavior of this either.

My dog (6-year-old Heeler/Corgi mix) runs off at least once a week. Usually, my fiance will help me find her but it's not without protest. I honestly didn't even know how she was getting out of our fenced yard so I installed cameras and found that she was scaling the 8ft fence. I ended up attaching 'spinners' to the top of the fence thinking that would solve the issue but it didn't.

I brought her out today and was playing with her when my phone rang. I was inside just long enough to grab my phone and my dog had gotten out.

I immediately went in search for her, thinking she couldn't have gotten far but I couldn't find her anywhere so I went back to the house and asked my fiance, who was curled up on the sofa, to come help me. She immediately said no. She said she was tired of chasing the dog, that she isn't dealing with it anymore, and that I should have been out there watching her.

I explained to her that I had been watching her and simply stepped away for point two seconds to grab my phone just inside the sliding door and she had escaped.

She again said it wasn't her problem and she's not exhausting herself anymore to search for my dog. I won't even say it was unexpected because as I said, in the past she has always had a problem with helping me search but she's never said no.

She just complained about it. At first, I went and searched myself. After maybe a half hour I came back and asked her again to come help me. She snapped 'I said no! I am so tired of chasing that dog around multiple times a week when I'm already exhausted and throwing up constantly.'

I was panicked and unleashed some yelling, which involved me telling her she was a b**ch who lacked empathy and that I was thoroughly disappointed with my decision to be with someone so heartless.

It was out of pure fear and panic on my part and I did apologize later, after I found my dog, but she said 'Go f*ck yourself' and won't talk to me. AITA?

Everyone is on my side except my sister, who says I'm a 'f*%king prick' because it's not my pregnant fiance's responsibility to 'chase around your f*@king mutt' and said she would have left immediately if her BF ever said what I did to her.

People had a lot of opinions about this one.

Motor_Business483 wrote:

YTA. 'My dog (6yo Heeler/Corgi mix) runs off at least once a week' that point. YOU are the AH for not training him better. Rehome him, he deserves a better owner. She is right, that is not an emergency, that is a habit.

nyellincm wrote:

YTA she is pregnant. As a man, you’ll never understand. This is YOUR dog. YOU got distracted by a phone call. This is how accidents happen. YOU got distracted.

Then when you didn’t get help for finding your dog YET AGAIN you unleashed your anger on your pregnant wife. OP you are so in the wrong here. Either train your dog better or give it a better home.

What happens when the baby is born and the dog gets out? Are you going to leave your baby alone to chase after your dog? No. You are the AH here. Rehome the dog and focus on your wife and baby. AH move.

Also Fiance if you read this pack a back and leave this guy. Imagine how he’ll be without sleep and a screaming baby. This guy isn’t worth your time.

baffled_soap wrote:

This actually makes me worried for the baby. OP knows that bad things happen (the dog escapes) when he doesn’t supervise the dog outside. Yet OP still chose to leave the dog outside unattended because his phone was ringing inside.

This doesn’t bode well for things like bath time, where choosing to leave a baby unattended “really quickly” can have devastating consequences.

ImStealingTheTowels wrote:

'My dog (6yo Heeler/Corgi mix) runs off at least once a week.' Then you need to better train your dog to not run off instead of expecting your pregnant fiancée to bear the responsibility for your mistakes.

'I was panicked and unleashed some yelling, which involved me telling her she was a b*tch who lacked empathy and that I was thoroughly disappointed with my decision to be with someone so heartless.'

I'd leave you over this, 100%. This is abusive behaviour that is not excused by the fact you were panicking. You clearly have no idea how to keep your dog from running away, but that is NOT your fiancée's problem, and if I were her I'd be utterly sick of you too. YTA.

MadoogsL wrote:

YTA. YOU are the one who lacks empathy. She feels sick and you berate her to find a dog that YOU lost? Then when she doesn't follow your command, you start verbally assaulting her? Check yourself.

And no one is buying the 'I only called her a b**ch because I was scared 🥺' bulls#*t either. No you're just an **shole when you don't get your way. You know, instead of screaming at her, you could've been out looking for your dog.

Edit - I agree with other commenters too. You're also an irresponsible dog owner. Do better in that department or else the dog could one day get seriously hurt. If you can't do better, find someone who can and give her up.

notmappedout wrote:

Yeah, of course YTA. you decided verbally abusing your pregnant girlfriend was an acceptable option out of the many you had. It's weird that you think there's any chance you aren't an a**hole.

Clearly, there is no planet on which OP is NTA here, he is a big, giant, delusional AH, and needs to rehome his dog and seriously unlearn his emotional patterns if he wants any chance of salvaging his relationship.

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