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<h2>Dividing up household expenses with your partner isn&#39;t exactly the most romantic part of being in a relationship, but it&#39;s often necessary to have a clear understanding of your expected contribution before a 3 AM war in the kitchen occurs...</h2><p>So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to assume that her daughter shouldn&#39;t have to split the bills with her soon-to-be husband, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/snqzzh/aita_for_thinking_my_daughter_shouldnt_pay_rent/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for thinking my daughter shouldn&rsquo;t pay rent?</h2><blockquote> <p>I have been a stay-at-home mom my whole marriage. My husband pays the bills. I keep house and raise my little ones. I also do things like money management and our taxes because I have an accounting degree.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My oldest daughter calls me because she just recently moved in with her fianc&eacute; and he told her she has to pay half of rent and utilities. He makes a lot more than her because she&rsquo;s working part time so she has time to plan her dream wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Both his parents work and I know his mom makes more than his dad. My daughter (Sarah 24) and I were thrown back when she realized she had to split all of the bills in the marriage and pay for things like her wedding dress. It&rsquo;s put a damper on our wedding planning.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I tried talking to her fianc&eacute; (Luke 32) saying his family situation was unique since his mom was making more. He rebuffed me saying it&rsquo;s unrealistic to think he would work and Sarah could just spend all of her free time wedding planning. He said she has a degree and she should get a full time job.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Sarah and him both went to school for accounting and that&rsquo;s how he met her was at her internship. He works about 60 hours a week and I explained that with wedding planning asking her to work that much way too much on a girl her age.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>His mother is feeding him the new wave feminism and I don&rsquo;t think it&rsquo;s a good life balance for this young couple. His mom is feeding my daughter that in this world you have to work hard and have tough love for your kids.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Sarah called crying because her mother-in-law yelled at her for being a gold digger and Sarah has moved back in with her best friend. My daughter is saying I gave her bad advice and now Luke wants to call off the wedding and wants his ring back.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s blaming it on me but I think Luke shouldn&rsquo;t have asked my daughter to pay half of his bills on top of wedding planning.</p> </blockquote><h2>This mom certainly seems a bit confused about what year it is and how much time someone actually needs to plan a wedding...</h2><p>Sure, weddings are stressful and elaborate events that often require hours of agonizing over bakery websites, florists, venues, and catering options, but does that mean someone should drop their career to have more time to choose a floral arch?</p><p>Splitting the bills is fairly standard for many couples, but the way her daughter and her soon-to-be husband choose to split finances is ultimately none of this mom&#39;s business. When children are involved or there is massive income inequality in a couple then adjustments can be made, but expecting her daughter to live rent-free while choosing a dress is pretty unheard of.</p><h2>Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this spicy financial debate regarding traditional gender roles. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) as you gave terrible advise. A wedding is not a valid excuse to not work and plenty of people her age work those sort of hours. I&rsquo;m not surprised that he called off the wedding as no one in their right mind would want to deal with someone who acts so entitled. - c3ry5</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Too much for a girl her age? What are you implying? She&#39;s too young to take on the responsibilities? If that&#39;s the case then she shouldn&#39;t be getting married in the first place... - Asitiaaa</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>&ldquo;It&rsquo;s put a damper on our wedding planning.&rdquo; May have been a slip of the tongue, but it said everything. This isn&rsquo;t your wedding, this isn&rsquo;t your marriage, their family dynamics are not yours. You&rsquo;re asking them to go by your lifestyle, not develop their own. If your daughter is living with Luke, it&rsquo;s not solely Luke&rsquo;s rent. Let go already. YTA. - COAZRanger</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA. First, you shouldn&#39;t have tried to meddle in your daughter&#39;s relationship. Second, not every relationship needs to be like yours. Third, many working women still find time to plan weddings. You should have just comforted your daughter and stayed out of it. You had no business talking to her fianc&eacute;.- GrymDraig</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Times have changed and women are equal now. He wasn&#39;t asking her to pay half of his bills, he was asking her to pay her share of the joint bills. It&#39;s not the 1950&#39;s anymore, and most people expect an equal 50/50 partnership. - thatdoesntseemright1</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA for getting so involved with your daughter&#39;s relationship. You can provide her a listening ear and advice, you cannot reach out to her fianc&eacute; and attempt to negotiate on your daughter&#39;s behalf. If she&#39;s ready to get married, she&#39;s ready to deal with these sorts of discussions about finances with her partner on her own.</p> <p>I&#39;d also argue your advice isn&#39;t very good. Planning a wedding is not sufficient cause to only be working part time, and it&#39;s absolutely reasonable that she pay for wedding expenses like her dress. If she wants a partner who is going to fund her life of leisure, then she needs to date someone who isn&#39;t Luke. - Obiterdicta</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this mom is completely in the wrong for inserting herself into her daughter&#39;s personal life and projecting her relationship dynamic and financial dependence onto her daughter. Every couple is different and this conflict isn&#39;t her concern, especially when her daughter chose to work part-time. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong to say daughter should take time off work to plan wedding.

Dividing up household expenses with your partner isn&#39;t exactly the most romantic part of being in a relationship, but it&#39;s often necessary to have a clear understanding of your expected contribution before a 3 AM war in the kitchen occurs...So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to assume that her daughter shouldn&#39;t have to split the bills with her soon-to-be husband, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for thinking my daughter shouldn&rsquo;t pay rent? I have been a stay-at-home mom my whole marriage. My husband pays the bills. I keep house and raise my little ones. I also do things like money management and our taxes because I have an accounting degree.   My oldest daughter calls me because she just recently moved in with her fianc&eacute; and he told her she has to pay half of rent and utilities. He makes a lot more than her because she&rsquo;s working part time so she has time to plan her dream wedding.   Both his parents work and I know his mom makes more than his dad. My daughter (Sarah 24) and I were thrown back when she realized she had to split all of the bills in the marriage and pay for things like her wedding dress. It&rsquo;s put a damper on our wedding planning.   I tried talking to her fianc&eacute; (Luke 32) saying his family situation was unique since his mom was making more. He rebuffed me saying it&rsquo;s unrealistic to think he would work and Sarah could just spend all of her free time wedding planning. He said she has a degree and she should get a full time job.   Sarah and him both went to school for accounting and that&rsquo;s how he met her was at her internship. He works about 60 hours a week and I explained that with wedding planning asking her to work that much way too much on a girl her age.   His mother is feeding him the new wave feminism and I don&rsquo;t think it&rsquo;s a good life balance for this young couple. His mom is feeding my daughter that in this world you have to work hard and have tough love for your kids.   Sarah called crying because her mother-in-law yelled at her for being a gold digger and Sarah has moved back in with her best friend. My daughter is saying I gave her bad advice and now Luke wants to call off the wedding and wants his ring back.   She&rsquo;s blaming it on me but I think Luke shouldn&rsquo;t have asked my daughter to pay half of his bills on top of wedding planning. This mom certainly seems a bit confused about what year it is and how much time someone actually needs to plan a wedding...Sure, weddings are stressful and elaborate events that often require hours of agonizing over bakery websites, florists, venues, and catering options, but does that mean someone should drop their career to have more time to choose a floral arch?Splitting the bills is fairly standard for many couples, but the way her daughter and her soon-to-be husband choose to split finances is ultimately none of this mom&#39;s business. When children are involved or there is massive income inequality in a couple then adjustments can be made, but expecting her daughter to live rent-free while choosing a dress is pretty unheard of.Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this spicy financial debate regarding traditional gender roles. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) as you gave terrible advise. A wedding is not a valid excuse to not work and plenty of people her age work those sort of hours. I&rsquo;m not surprised that he called off the wedding as no one in their right mind would want to deal with someone who acts so entitled. - c3ry5   YTA. Too much for a girl her age? What are you implying? She&#39;s too young to take on the responsibilities? If that&#39;s the case then she shouldn&#39;t be getting married in the first place... - Asitiaaa   &ldquo;It&rsquo;s put a damper on our wedding planning.&rdquo; May have been a slip of the tongue, but it said everything. This isn&rsquo;t your wedding, this isn&rsquo;t your marriage, their family dynamics are not yours. You&rsquo;re asking them to go by your lifestyle, not develop their own. If your daughter is living with Luke, it&rsquo;s not solely Luke&rsquo;s rent. Let go already. YTA. - COAZRanger   YTA. First, you shouldn&#39;t have tried to meddle in your daughter&#39;s relationship. Second, not every relationship needs to be like yours. Third, many working women still find time to plan weddings. You should have just comforted your daughter and stayed out of it. You had no business talking to her fianc&eacute;.- GrymDraig   YTA. Times have changed and women are equal now. He wasn&#39;t asking her to pay half of his bills, he was asking her to pay her share of the joint bills. It&#39;s not the 1950&#39;s anymore, and most people expect an equal 50/50 partnership. - thatdoesntseemright1   YTA for getting so involved with your daughter&#39;s relationship. You can provide her a listening ear and advice, you cannot reach out to her fianc&eacute; and attempt to negotiate on your daughter&#39;s behalf. If she&#39;s ready to get married, she&#39;s ready to deal with these sorts of discussions about finances with her partner on her own. I&#39;d also argue your advice isn&#39;t very good. Planning a wedding is not sufficient cause to only be working part time, and it&#39;s absolutely reasonable that she pay for wedding expenses like her dress. If she wants a partner who is going to fund her life of leisure, then she needs to date someone who isn&#39;t Luke. - Obiterdicta So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this mom is completely in the wrong for inserting herself into her daughter&#39;s personal life and projecting her relationship dynamic and financial dependence onto her daughter. Every couple is different and this conflict isn&#39;t her concern, especially when her daughter chose to work part-time. Good luck, everyone!

Dividing up household expenses with your partner isn&#39;t exactly the most romantic part of being in a relationship, but it&#39;s often necessary to have a clear understanding of your expected contribution before a 3 AM war in the kitchen...

Mom asks if she was wrong to say daughter should take time off work to plan wedding.

Dividing up household expenses with your partner isn't exactly the most romantic part of being in a relationship, but it's often necessary to have a clear understanding of your expected contribution before a 3 AM war in the kitchen occurs...

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for thinking my daughter shouldn’t pay rent?