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<h2>Teaching your children to be inclusive and accepting of others is critically important, but when they&#39;re forced to compromise so much socially that their birthday party is ruined by a kid throwing their cake on the floor, it might be time to set some clearer boundaries.</h2><p>So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy about whether or not she&#39;d be wrong to exclude a special needs child from her daughter&#39;s birthday party, people were there to help deem a verdict.</p><h2>AITA for throwing my daughter a second birthday party after the special needs girl I asked her to invite ruined her first party?</h2><blockquote> <p>My daughter turned 12 a few weeks ago, and for her birthday party, she wanted pizza, a double feature movie at the drive in and ending the night with a sleepover and game night. I told her she could invite 4 friends. I suggested she invite &quot;Molly&quot;, a girl who just moved to the area and is in my daughter&#39;s class.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I even admitted Molly&#39;s mom had told me Molly was having a hard time making friends since the move. Molly has cerebral palsy and some developmental and intellectual delays, but overall seemed very sweet. My daughter agreed to invite Molly, but I think it was only because I asked.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>While Molly seemed to be a a very sweet kid, she was absolutely awful at the party. She cried when we we didn&#39;t get a pizza with her favorite toppings, and then stole the first slice of cake meant for my daughter. Things got worse at the movie. The first movie (Cruella) was too scary for Molly and she started freaking out and crying multiple times throughout the movie.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I tried to calm her down, suggesting we take a walk to the snack bar during the scary parts or close her eyes, but she was inconsolable. I tried calling Molly&#39;s mom a few times to pick her up, but I didn&#39;t get an answer.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Eventually we ended up having to leave before the second movie (Black Widow) , which was the movie my daughter really wanted to see. That night at our house things still got worse. Molly threw a Wii remote after she lost at just dance, and didn&#39;t want to play any of the games the other girls did.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>The next morning I called Molly&#39;s parents to pick her up early. Her mom apologized for Molly&#39;s behavior admitting she is prone to outburst when she gets overstimulated, but she had been doing so much better lately in her the therapy. A few days later though, Molly&#39;s mom told me that she can&#39;t stop talking about the party and how much fun she had.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>That evening, after all the other girls had left, my daughter was clearly upset about having her birthday ruined. I felt bad for asking her to invite Molly, so I told her the next weekend, I would take her and her friends out for pizza and to see Black Widow in the theater to make it up to her, but my partner thinks this is a real jerk move.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>He pointed out that sometimes life isn&#39;t fair and things get ruined. He also doesn&#39;t think it&#39;s a good idea to show our daughter it&#39;s ok to exclude people who are different. Anyway, I&#39;m a little torn here.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). You&rsquo;re not &ldquo;re-doing&rdquo; the birthday to exclude Molly. You&rsquo;re taking your daughter and friends out for pizza, and to see a movie they really want to see but Molly doesn&rsquo;t. - Lumpy_Branch_552</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>This is a tough one but NTA. I think that Molly isn&#39;t ready for a group setting such as a birthday party/sleepover type thing. I think it was terrible that Molly&#39;s mother couldn&#39;t be reached and suspect that Molly&#39;s mother already knew that her daughter behaved in this manner. She may need more therapy.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>It wasn&#39;t fair for your daughter to miss having such a great time for her birthday. I think it would be just fine for you to have another party for her. - sophi52760</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your daughter was nice enough to agree to invite a kid she barely knew who was having trouble making friends because you asked her to. That kid ruined your daughter&rsquo;s birthday party. You are giving her a do-over because she deserves a better birthday than she had and, let&rsquo;s face it, Molly wouldn&rsquo;t have been there in the first place had you not made her feel sympathetic towards her. - cara180455</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) for telling her to invite one rando in a small party to begin with. What were you thinking? I think you do owe her something. Ignore your husband. You caused this, so you are responsible for the outcome. Not &quot;life.&quot; - 3340bronqen</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA for forcing your daughter to invite someone she otherwise wouldn&rsquo;t have to HER birthday party. I get wanting to be kind and inclusive but it was poor form. - sockmaster420</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA You don&rsquo;t have to invite everyone to every event just because you know them. - Amsycurl</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were slightly mixed here, most people agreed that this mom wouldn&#39;t be wrong to re-do her daughter&#39;s birthday party to make up for forcing her to invite someone she didn&#39;t know. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she should redo daughter’s bday party after special needs kid ruins it.

Teaching your children to be inclusive and accepting of others is critically important, but when they&#39;re forced to compromise so much socially that their birthday party is ruined by a kid throwing their cake on the floor, it might be time to set some clearer boundaries.So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy about whether or not she&#39;d be wrong to exclude a special needs child from her daughter&#39;s birthday party, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA for throwing my daughter a second birthday party after the special needs girl I asked her to invite ruined her first party? My daughter turned 12 a few weeks ago, and for her birthday party, she wanted pizza, a double feature movie at the drive in and ending the night with a sleepover and game night. I told her she could invite 4 friends. I suggested she invite &quot;Molly&quot;, a girl who just moved to the area and is in my daughter&#39;s class.   I even admitted Molly&#39;s mom had told me Molly was having a hard time making friends since the move. Molly has cerebral palsy and some developmental and intellectual delays, but overall seemed very sweet. My daughter agreed to invite Molly, but I think it was only because I asked.   While Molly seemed to be a a very sweet kid, she was absolutely awful at the party. She cried when we we didn&#39;t get a pizza with her favorite toppings, and then stole the first slice of cake meant for my daughter. Things got worse at the movie. The first movie (Cruella) was too scary for Molly and she started freaking out and crying multiple times throughout the movie.   I tried to calm her down, suggesting we take a walk to the snack bar during the scary parts or close her eyes, but she was inconsolable. I tried calling Molly&#39;s mom a few times to pick her up, but I didn&#39;t get an answer.  Eventually we ended up having to leave before the second movie (Black Widow) , which was the movie my daughter really wanted to see. That night at our house things still got worse. Molly threw a Wii remote after she lost at just dance, and didn&#39;t want to play any of the games the other girls did.   The next morning I called Molly&#39;s parents to pick her up early. Her mom apologized for Molly&#39;s behavior admitting she is prone to outburst when she gets overstimulated, but she had been doing so much better lately in her the therapy. A few days later though, Molly&#39;s mom told me that she can&#39;t stop talking about the party and how much fun she had.   That evening, after all the other girls had left, my daughter was clearly upset about having her birthday ruined. I felt bad for asking her to invite Molly, so I told her the next weekend, I would take her and her friends out for pizza and to see Black Widow in the theater to make it up to her, but my partner thinks this is a real jerk move.  He pointed out that sometimes life isn&#39;t fair and things get ruined. He also doesn&#39;t think it&#39;s a good idea to show our daughter it&#39;s ok to exclude people who are different. Anyway, I&#39;m a little torn here. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). You&rsquo;re not &ldquo;re-doing&rdquo; the birthday to exclude Molly. You&rsquo;re taking your daughter and friends out for pizza, and to see a movie they really want to see but Molly doesn&rsquo;t. - Lumpy_Branch_552   This is a tough one but NTA. I think that Molly isn&#39;t ready for a group setting such as a birthday party/sleepover type thing. I think it was terrible that Molly&#39;s mother couldn&#39;t be reached and suspect that Molly&#39;s mother already knew that her daughter behaved in this manner. She may need more therapy.  It wasn&#39;t fair for your daughter to miss having such a great time for her birthday. I think it would be just fine for you to have another party for her. - sophi52760   NTA. Your daughter was nice enough to agree to invite a kid she barely knew who was having trouble making friends because you asked her to. That kid ruined your daughter&rsquo;s birthday party. You are giving her a do-over because she deserves a better birthday than she had and, let&rsquo;s face it, Molly wouldn&rsquo;t have been there in the first place had you not made her feel sympathetic towards her. - cara180455   YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) for telling her to invite one rando in a small party to begin with. What were you thinking? I think you do owe her something. Ignore your husband. You caused this, so you are responsible for the outcome. Not &quot;life.&quot; - 3340bronqen   YTA for forcing your daughter to invite someone she otherwise wouldn&rsquo;t have to HER birthday party. I get wanting to be kind and inclusive but it was poor form. - sockmaster420   NTA You don&rsquo;t have to invite everyone to every event just because you know them. - Amsycurl So, there you have it!While the opinions were slightly mixed here, most people agreed that this mom wouldn&#39;t be wrong to re-do her daughter&#39;s birthday party to make up for forcing her to invite someone she didn&#39;t know. Good luck, everyone!

Teaching your children to be inclusive and accepting of others is critically important, but when they&#39;re forced to compromise so much socially that their birthday party is ruined by a kid throwing their cake on the floor, it might be...