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Mom asks if she should've dressed her newborns in 'nice clothes' for sister's wedding.

Mom asks if she should've dressed her newborns in 'nice clothes' for sister's wedding.


Does a Black Tie wedding dress code include babies who haven't lived long enough on the planet to know what a wedding is?

We've all heard of the 'Bridezillas' who enforce strict rules for their wedding guests that include tattoo cover-ups, hair dye, or extreme requirements for gifts and financial contributions but newborn baby attire? That's a new one.

So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not she was wrong

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not dressing my sons in wedding appropriate clothing?

I have twin 4 week old sons as of Saturday, they were out of the NICU just over a week at this point. Taking may precautions my sister still wanted our family to attend her wedding. I agreed so long as many boundaries were in place as the boys don't have great immune systems yet.

They were originally dressed in nice-ish baby clothes. I found some onesies that looked like button-up shirts then paired them with leggings that looked like jeans, called it good enough, they are literal babies and my options were limited.

Half way through the ceremony Baby A pooped up his back, my husband and I switched babies and he went with the diaper bag to tend to Baby A.

We didn't have back-up nice clothes, at this point just sleepers. The sleepers we had looked like a tuxedo printed on them (think those cheesy shirts). My sister expressed her dismay at their outfits.

So we found two more sleepers in the diaper bag that was more baby looking, one with stripes and one with turtles. We left not long after as this was my first time out of the house since having the boys and I felt overwhelmed and the boys were getting cranky.

My sister has sent me a long winded text that had she known I was going to make a joke of her wedding she would not have asked me to come.

My sister is 20 years older than me and has 4 daughters, she has told me a handful of times how easy boys are in comparison to girls so I shouldn't be struggling and should've just gotten more nice clothes packed for them.

It's hard to believe that a fellow mother wouldn't understand how babies can unfortunately be babies at inconvenient moments...

Would this bride also lose her mind if a newborn baby girl wore a white dress to her wedding? Babies don't even have real wardrobes as they can't even lift their own heads up yet. Perhaps she is salty about twin babies being natural spotlight-hoggers on a day that is supposed to be 'hers?'

Of course, the jury of internet strangers were scandalized by this entitled bridal nonsense. Here's what people had to say:

4 week old babies who just got out of NICU, and they were brought to a wedding? For the clothing, NTA (Not the As*hole). For taking them to a wedding in the first place, YTA (You're the As*hole). Harsh to hear, but so foolish. - Beck2010

ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) - Her for severely overreacting and being entirely unreasonable... You for taking incredibly small babies to a public event when their immune systems can hardly protect at all. Sorry, but it's incredibly unwise to drag 4 week old babies out for large gatherings...especially babies barely a week out of the INTENSIVE CARE unit. - trinalie73

NTA - your sister is totally in the wrong for reacting this way. She’s also the AH for saying “boys are easier” - TitaTili

NTA - your sister should be thankful that you prioritized attending her event so soon after you got out of the hospital, not berating you for not going how ever many extra miles she decided to demand. If your babies weren't bare-assed turreting poop into the wedding party, you did fine. - P1xt

ESH - your sister for nit-picking over what newborn infants were wearing (trust me, no one at the reception cared. They’re babies- and 4 week old ones at that. They could have been wearing just a diaper and no one would give a hoot). And you for bringing infants just out of NICU to a wedding. - ladygreyowl13

So, there you have it!

While the opinions were mixed for this one, most people agreed that all parties were at fault. Newborns shouldn't be involved in wedding festivities and if they are, it definitely shouldn't matter what they wear. Good luck, everyone!

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