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<h2>Being a teenage girl is stressful enough without your dad telling you that your uniform for ballet class is &quot;inappropriate.&quot;</h2><p>The trope of overprotective fathers threatening to beat their daughter&#39;s first love with a bat for looking at them or telling their 14-year-old girl she can&#39;t leave the house in shorts and a tank top because of how &quot;men&quot; will &quot;look,&quot; is never a healthy parenting technique. Sexualizing teenagers and making them feel uncomfortable in their own bodies during a time when they&#39;re already in a state of insecurity and confusion about their looks is not &quot;protecting&quot; them, it&#39;s only making them feel less safe.</p><p>It&#39;s during a person&#39;s teenage years that they often sharpen their talents and skills and prepare for their future career, so fostering a teen&#39;s interests and supporting their chosen sports or activities is key for parents during that time. So, when a concerned mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about a conflict she got into with her ex-husband over their daughter&#39;s ballet attire, people were quick to offer advice.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/k9li1f/aita_for_threatening_to_go_to_court_because_my_ex/">AITA</a> for threatening to go to court because my ex is trying to make my daughter &ldquo;cover up&rdquo; at dance?</h2><blockquote> <p>My daughter (15) is a very talented dancer. She&rsquo;s won a decent amount of scholarship money already and wants to get a BFA, so she&rsquo;s very serious about dance and we spend about 20-30 hours per week in the studio.</p> <p>There are different dress codes for different styles of dance, but she often wears a sports bra, spandex shorts, and either tights or no tights. This is what all the girls on the team wear.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My daughter let me know that her father would insist that she wear one of his t shirts over her dance outfit because her current outfit is inappropriate. I confronted him because the teachers are clear that they need to be able to see her leg/abdominal muscles while she&rsquo;s dancing to make sure she&rsquo;s using the muscles properly.</p> <p>Her father said that The clothes are inappropriate for kids and said that he will pull her out of dance on his days if she doesn&rsquo;t cover up during practice. My daughter is devastated by this and is worried that she will he kicked off her advanced group if she isn&rsquo;t dressed the way the instructors want.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p> </p> <p>I am on my daughters side and I told my ex that he&rsquo;s being creepy and weird and this is fine. All the kids wear the same outfits and it&rsquo;s not inappropriate at all, so there&rsquo;s no reason to act like it is. He&rsquo;s doubled down and my daughter expressed that she no longer wants to go to his house if he won&rsquo;t let her go to dance. I told my ex I would take it to court to make sure my daughter can stay in dance. He called me a crazy dance mom. AITA for taking this to court?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole)</p> <p>Wonder if he would feel the same way about it if it was his <em>son</em> wearing a fitted <em>wrestling</em> uniform.</p> <p>My guess, probably not.</p> <p>He&#39;s being weird and sexualizing his daughter. Plenty of sports have revealing uniforms, and if this is a problem for him, maybe somebody should remind him it&#39;s 2020 not 1920. - sweatshower</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your ex sounds like what he&#39;s <em>really</em> doing is trying to exert control over both you and your daughter. You&#39;re not a crazy dance mom for standing up for your daughter and trying to keep him from ruining something she loves. Call his bluff. - badb-crow</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA</p> <p>Your daughter, while still very young, has every right at this point to decide if she wants to spend time with him or not. This is very much her hill to die on if that&#39;s her choice and you&#39;re doing exactly what you should by backing her up on it. - KarathSolus</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA, and more importantly at this age, your daughter is old enough to decide whether she wants to see her dad or not. If she wants a modified visitation schedule, speak to your lawyer about that. - Adept-One-819</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA She&#39;s 15 and he&#39;s making her body a battleground. This is a great way for them to end up estranged even if you don&#39;t step in - MikkiTh</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA Not at all. His behavior is creepy and his threats are cruel. - TypicalManagement680</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this mom is not at all in the wrong for protecting her daughter&#39;s passion, and wearing the proper uniform in dance goes beyond the actual look of it, it&#39;s about movement and safety. If she refuses to wear the right attire to class it could threaten not only her achievement but also her health. This dad seriously needs to explore why he feels it&#39;s &quot;inappropriate&quot; for his teenage daughter to wear a leotard in tights in her chosen sport. Good luck, everyone!</p><h2> </h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she's wrong to threaten ex with court for forcing their teen daughter to 'cover up' for ballet.

Being a teenage girl is stressful enough without your dad telling you that your uniform for ballet class is &quot;inappropriate.&quot;The trope of overprotective fathers threatening to beat their daughter&#39;s first love with a bat for looking at them or telling their 14-year-old girl she can&#39;t leave the house in shorts and a tank top because of how &quot;men&quot; will &quot;look,&quot; is never a healthy parenting technique. Sexualizing teenagers and making them feel uncomfortable in their own bodies during a time when they&#39;re already in a state of insecurity and confusion about their looks is not &quot;protecting&quot; them, it&#39;s only making them feel less safe.It&#39;s during a person&#39;s teenage years that they often sharpen their talents and skills and prepare for their future career, so fostering a teen&#39;s interests and supporting their chosen sports or activities is key for parents during that time. So, when a concerned mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about a conflict she got into with her ex-husband over their daughter&#39;s ballet attire, people were quick to offer advice.AITA for threatening to go to court because my ex is trying to make my daughter &ldquo;cover up&rdquo; at dance? My daughter (15) is a very talented dancer. She&rsquo;s won a decent amount of scholarship money already and wants to get a BFA, so she&rsquo;s very serious about dance and we spend about 20-30 hours per week in the studio. There are different dress codes for different styles of dance, but she often wears a sports bra, spandex shorts, and either tights or no tights. This is what all the girls on the team wear.   My daughter let me know that her father would insist that she wear one of his t shirts over her dance outfit because her current outfit is inappropriate. I confronted him because the teachers are clear that they need to be able to see her leg/abdominal muscles while she&rsquo;s dancing to make sure she&rsquo;s using the muscles properly. Her father said that The clothes are inappropriate for kids and said that he will pull her out of dance on his days if she doesn&rsquo;t cover up during practice. My daughter is devastated by this and is worried that she will he kicked off her advanced group if she isn&rsquo;t dressed the way the instructors want.     I am on my daughters side and I told my ex that he&rsquo;s being creepy and weird and this is fine. All the kids wear the same outfits and it&rsquo;s not inappropriate at all, so there&rsquo;s no reason to act like it is. He&rsquo;s doubled down and my daughter expressed that she no longer wants to go to his house if he won&rsquo;t let her go to dance. I told my ex I would take it to court to make sure my daughter can stay in dance. He called me a crazy dance mom. AITA for taking this to court? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) Wonder if he would feel the same way about it if it was his son wearing a fitted wrestling uniform. My guess, probably not. He&#39;s being weird and sexualizing his daughter. Plenty of sports have revealing uniforms, and if this is a problem for him, maybe somebody should remind him it&#39;s 2020 not 1920. - sweatshower  NTA. Your ex sounds like what he&#39;s really doing is trying to exert control over both you and your daughter. You&#39;re not a crazy dance mom for standing up for your daughter and trying to keep him from ruining something she loves. Call his bluff. - badb-crow  NTA Your daughter, while still very young, has every right at this point to decide if she wants to spend time with him or not. This is very much her hill to die on if that&#39;s her choice and you&#39;re doing exactly what you should by backing her up on it. - KarathSolus  NTA, and more importantly at this age, your daughter is old enough to decide whether she wants to see her dad or not. If she wants a modified visitation schedule, speak to your lawyer about that. - Adept-One-819  NTA She&#39;s 15 and he&#39;s making her body a battleground. This is a great way for them to end up estranged even if you don&#39;t step in - MikkiTh  NTA Not at all. His behavior is creepy and his threats are cruel. - TypicalManagement680 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this mom is not at all in the wrong for protecting her daughter&#39;s passion, and wearing the proper uniform in dance goes beyond the actual look of it, it&#39;s about movement and safety. If she refuses to wear the right attire to class it could threaten not only her achievement but also her health. This dad seriously needs to explore why he feels it&#39;s &quot;inappropriate&quot; for his teenage daughter to wear a leotard in tights in her chosen sport. Good luck, everyone! 

Being a teenage girl is stressful enough without your dad telling you that your uniform for ballet class is &quot;inappropriate.&quot;  The trope of overprotective fathers threatening to beat their daughter&#39;s first love with a bat for...