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<h2>Worrying about your kids even after they&#39;ve grown up and are technically adults is normal for most parents, but threatening your 21-year-old&#39;s job because they didn&#39;t text you back is definitely crossing a boundary.</h2><p>It can be hard to see the person who used to throw temper tantrums in the grocery store aisle over fruit snacks grow up into a working adult who pays taxes and complains about their shoulder pain, but accepting that your adult children are old enough to make their own choices is a critical transition.</p><p>So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to call her son&#39;s boss when he was late coming back from work, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oxxyrg/aita_for_calling_my_sons_boss/">AITA</a> For Calling My Son&#39;s Boss?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m a widow living with my son Jason (21) in an apartment. He works a day job from 8am to 2pm. Lately he&#39;s been having problems with his car breaking down for several reasons. He is planning on getting it fixed at the end of this month.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>So the situation took place yesterday. When Jason was at work and didn&#39;t come home til 5. He&#39;s usually home at 2:30pm. I called him several times starting from 2:30pm but got no response. I tried every 10 minutes but he didn&#39;t pick up. I started getting worried and at 4pm I called his friend who&#39;s a co worker of his but he said he didn&#39;t know wether Jason got off work or not and he already called Jason but got no response. It occurred to me to call his boss as last resort because I legitimately started worrying because, like I said, the car Jason drives isn&#39;t stable.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I asked Jason&#39;s friend to text me his boss&#39;s number and I made the call almost immediately. His boss told me Jason was working extra hours til 5 and assured me everything was fine. Just that Jason had been busy with work.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Jason came home, stayed quiet when eating his meal and pretty much ignored my questions about why he didn&#39;t bother to text back and ease my worried, racing mind. He looked at me then told me he&#39;s planning on moving out soon. I was taken aback. I don&#39;t pressure him to pay rent or take his time to help with anything.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I asked why and he blew up suddenly saying he was not a kid and that I should&#39;ve never called his boss and made a fool of him like that just because he was 2 hrs or so late for lunch. He called me controlling and paranoid. He said this doesn&#39;t seem to work because despite the fact that he&#39;s an adult I still treat him like a 10 year old chasing after him whenever he goes just because he lives with me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>He said I needed to understand his need for freedom and claimed I have no respect for him as an adult. I argued that it wasn&#39;t like I was treating him like a kid but was just worried and quite honestly frustrated to not receive a text back after I stated I was worried for him. I mean he could&#39;ve been involved in an accident for all I know.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>He said &quot;those thoughts&quot; were my problem and insisted on moving out next month. We haven&#39;t talked all day and he spent his time in his room by himself.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole). It sounds like he&#39;s sorta on the money here. If he&#39;s at work, he&#39;s probably busy. You shouldn&#39;t expect a response every time you get a message, most work places have a no cellphone policy anyway.</p> <p>It sounds like he probably has many other examples of why he feels he has no freedom as a 21 year old which is why he wants to move out. - McWhacker</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA, I&#39;m guessing this story from your son&#39;s perspective is a little different, with more stories of you being overbearing. It&#39;s understandable to be concerned about your son but maybe wait on sounding the alarm until it&#39;s been a little longer than 2 hours. If my mom called my phone every 10 minutes, called my coworker and my boss because I got stuck at work for a few extra hours i&#39;d be extremely annoyed. - mr_lakeshow</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Your son spelled everything out for you, yet you still don&rsquo;t get it. I understand worrying, but calling his coworker and boss was over top. You are treating him like a little kid and embarrassing him in front of his boss because &ldquo;his mommy was calling to check on him.&rdquo; - DisneyAddict2021</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA. You are suffocating your son. Of course he wants to move out- he can&#39;t breath with you around. I understand you were worried, but calling every 10 minutes for hours? You couldn&#39;t even give him a little space and trust him enough to get back to you? Your son is right, that behavior <em>is</em> on you, and despite your good intentions, nobody needs to deal with it. - anchovie_macncheese</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). He&rsquo;s 21 so you never should have called his boss. That&rsquo;s humiliating for him. However when you live with someone, a quick text saying I&rsquo;m working late is what he should have done. I&rsquo;m sure that he could have done that on a break. - NalaPrincess</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>ESH. Texting every 10 minutes is annoying as all heck, but the first couple of hours are crucial to find a missing person if something bad happens. He is an adult and while this was overbearing a &quot;mom I&#39;m fine&quot; text would sufficed - he could have easily sent it during a loo break. He drives a faulty car and has a set routine. After a half hour, with no response, most people would call. After an hour without response I&#39;m pretty much everyone&#39;s worry and panic would start escalating.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>He didn&#39;t have to tell OP where he was or what he was doing, but texting her he is alive and well would have prevented the barrage of texts. Maybe calling the boss after the friend rather than idk the general workplace to ask if he left is overkill, but anyone who says they wouldn&#39;t get worried sick and even take drastic measures when a person didn&#39;t make it to a meeting point one hour after the usual and also didn&#39;t reply for a whole hour is a lying liar who lies. - RebelGrrrrl</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people agreed that this mom definitely crossed a line by calling her son&#39;s boss, but if he always comes home at the same time it wasn&#39;t exactly unreasonable for her to start to worry. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong to call son’s boss to ask why he wasn’t home yet.

Worrying about your kids even after they&#39;ve grown up and are technically adults is normal for most parents, but threatening your 21-year-old&#39;s job because they didn&#39;t text you back is definitely crossing a boundary.It can be hard to see the person who used to throw temper tantrums in the grocery store aisle over fruit snacks grow up into a working adult who pays taxes and complains about their shoulder pain, but accepting that your adult children are old enough to make their own choices is a critical transition.So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to call her son&#39;s boss when he was late coming back from work, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA For Calling My Son&#39;s Boss? I&#39;m a widow living with my son Jason (21) in an apartment. He works a day job from 8am to 2pm. Lately he&#39;s been having problems with his car breaking down for several reasons. He is planning on getting it fixed at the end of this month.   So the situation took place yesterday. When Jason was at work and didn&#39;t come home til 5. He&#39;s usually home at 2:30pm. I called him several times starting from 2:30pm but got no response. I tried every 10 minutes but he didn&#39;t pick up. I started getting worried and at 4pm I called his friend who&#39;s a co worker of his but he said he didn&#39;t know wether Jason got off work or not and he already called Jason but got no response. It occurred to me to call his boss as last resort because I legitimately started worrying because, like I said, the car Jason drives isn&#39;t stable.   I asked Jason&#39;s friend to text me his boss&#39;s number and I made the call almost immediately. His boss told me Jason was working extra hours til 5 and assured me everything was fine. Just that Jason had been busy with work.   Jason came home, stayed quiet when eating his meal and pretty much ignored my questions about why he didn&#39;t bother to text back and ease my worried, racing mind. He looked at me then told me he&#39;s planning on moving out soon. I was taken aback. I don&#39;t pressure him to pay rent or take his time to help with anything.   I asked why and he blew up suddenly saying he was not a kid and that I should&#39;ve never called his boss and made a fool of him like that just because he was 2 hrs or so late for lunch. He called me controlling and paranoid. He said this doesn&#39;t seem to work because despite the fact that he&#39;s an adult I still treat him like a 10 year old chasing after him whenever he goes just because he lives with me.   He said I needed to understand his need for freedom and claimed I have no respect for him as an adult. I argued that it wasn&#39;t like I was treating him like a kid but was just worried and quite honestly frustrated to not receive a text back after I stated I was worried for him. I mean he could&#39;ve been involved in an accident for all I know.   He said &quot;those thoughts&quot; were my problem and insisted on moving out next month. We haven&#39;t talked all day and he spent his time in his room by himself. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole). It sounds like he&#39;s sorta on the money here. If he&#39;s at work, he&#39;s probably busy. You shouldn&#39;t expect a response every time you get a message, most work places have a no cellphone policy anyway. It sounds like he probably has many other examples of why he feels he has no freedom as a 21 year old which is why he wants to move out. - McWhacker   YTA, I&#39;m guessing this story from your son&#39;s perspective is a little different, with more stories of you being overbearing. It&#39;s understandable to be concerned about your son but maybe wait on sounding the alarm until it&#39;s been a little longer than 2 hours. If my mom called my phone every 10 minutes, called my coworker and my boss because I got stuck at work for a few extra hours i&#39;d be extremely annoyed. - mr_lakeshow   YTA. Your son spelled everything out for you, yet you still don&rsquo;t get it. I understand worrying, but calling his coworker and boss was over top. You are treating him like a little kid and embarrassing him in front of his boss because &ldquo;his mommy was calling to check on him.&rdquo; - DisneyAddict2021   YTA. You are suffocating your son. Of course he wants to move out- he can&#39;t breath with you around. I understand you were worried, but calling every 10 minutes for hours? You couldn&#39;t even give him a little space and trust him enough to get back to you? Your son is right, that behavior is on you, and despite your good intentions, nobody needs to deal with it. - anchovie_macncheese   ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). He&rsquo;s 21 so you never should have called his boss. That&rsquo;s humiliating for him. However when you live with someone, a quick text saying I&rsquo;m working late is what he should have done. I&rsquo;m sure that he could have done that on a break. - NalaPrincess  ESH. Texting every 10 minutes is annoying as all heck, but the first couple of hours are crucial to find a missing person if something bad happens. He is an adult and while this was overbearing a &quot;mom I&#39;m fine&quot; text would sufficed - he could have easily sent it during a loo break. He drives a faulty car and has a set routine. After a half hour, with no response, most people would call. After an hour without response I&#39;m pretty much everyone&#39;s worry and panic would start escalating.   He didn&#39;t have to tell OP where he was or what he was doing, but texting her he is alive and well would have prevented the barrage of texts. Maybe calling the boss after the friend rather than idk the general workplace to ask if he left is overkill, but anyone who says they wouldn&#39;t get worried sick and even take drastic measures when a person didn&#39;t make it to a meeting point one hour after the usual and also didn&#39;t reply for a whole hour is a lying liar who lies. - RebelGrrrrl So, there you have it!While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people agreed that this mom definitely crossed a line by calling her son&#39;s boss, but if he always comes home at the same time it wasn&#39;t exactly unreasonable for her to start to worry. Good luck, everyone!

Worrying about your kids even after they&#39;ve grown up and are technically adults is normal for most parents, but threatening your 21-year-old&#39;s job because they didn&#39;t text you back is definitely crossing a boundary.  It can be...

Mom asks if she was wrong to call son’s boss to ask why he wasn’t home yet.

Worrying about your kids even after they've grown up and are technically adults is normal for most parents, but threatening your 21-year-old's job because they didn't text you back is definitely crossing a boundary.

AITA For Calling My Son's Boss?