While traditions are a beautiful way of preserving a family's memories, traditions do need to change with the times every now and then. Why does the eldest male in the family typically get diamond engagement rings to give to a woman? Let the women in the family have those rings, it means more to them to wear their own family member's ring!
So, when a distressed mother of a trans teenage daughter, a cis teen daughter and cis young adult son consulted the moral underbelly of the internet (Reddit's Am I the As*hole?) section about a dispute at dinner over a diamond necklace, people were ready to give her advice.
I have 3 kids Susan (17), Jessica (mtf for 4 years 18), and Matt (21). There's a tradition on my side of the family where the oldest daughter in the family gets a beautiful diamond necklace when they turn 18. Okay, so I was having dinner with my family last night when Susan casually asked me if she could please wear the necklace to her junior prom. I told her she could and joked that it doesn't matter because in a year it will be hers. This is where Jessica chimed in and said, "how come I'm not going to get it? I am the oldest daughter." This made us all quiet and I didn't really know what to say as I've never really thought about it since I always planned on giving it to Susan .