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<h2>Underage drinking and teen drinking is glamorized in high school movies with pool parties full of red plastic cups, body shots, and ice luges filled with vodka.</h2><p>Evaluating consequences and making safe choices isn&#39;t always a skill that teenagers possess, and laws limiting the consumption or purchase of alcoholic beverages are intended to protect young people from dangerous and life-threatening situations. Still, many parents are realistic enough to understand that even if their kids aren&#39;t chugging beer and doing carthweels off a basement bar, they will at least encounter alcohol at some point before they&#39;re of age.</p><p>Some parents choose to combat this dilemma by letting their kids safely drink before they&#39;re allowed inside a bar as avoiding &quot;the forbidden fruit&quot; mentality can dust off the sparkly sheen of blacking out, leaving your shoes in a cab, throwing your phone in the river and waking up with a stranger who insists you got married last night. So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to allow her teenage daughter to drink, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oyg3z8/aita_for_allowing_my_daughter_to_drink_alcohol/">AITA</a> for allowing my daughter to drink alcohol?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m the mother of a 17 year old girl. The legal drinking age where we live is 18 but the average age kids start drinking is 13, usually in a field somewhere with gut-rotting cider and a parent at home worried sick about where the child is.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My daughter never did this, but she did start drinking in controlled environments (she looks significantly older than what she is so being asked for ID has never been an issue) like pubs and at home or at friends houses when she was 15.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m pretty laid back when it comes to rules like that, mostly because my parents were extremely strict and got mad at me for everything. My rules on substances are no hard drugs, no aftershock and no tequila.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>But I don&#39;t get mad if my daughter tells me she&#39;s expiremented with certain things. I&#39;ve created a safe space for my daughter, she tells me pretty much everything and I respect her boundaries and privacy.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve raised a very responsible young adult and I&#39;m extremely proud of her and glad for the relationship we&#39;ve got. The problem is with her father. He&#39;s American and wasn&#39;t in her life much until last march when he came to visit his parents in my country and ended up being trapped here and decided to move here permanently. She was 16 at the time.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>He called over last Friday night completely unannounced, when myself and my daughter were having a few drinks with my partner and one of her friends and he was absolutely appalled at the sight of our daughter having a beer. He stormed out and on Saturday morning, I got a text saying that he was going to contact child services about this and that it was completely wrong of me to allow this and participate with her.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I told him my daughter having a few drinks at home is not actually illegal here and technically there&#39;s no minimum drinking age when supervised by a parent. I also reminded him he&#39;s not her legal guardian and wasn&#39;t in her life from the ages of 2 to 16 so he doesn&#39;t get much of a say.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Needless to say, he thinks I&#39;m a massive a-hole for allowing my daughter to drink alcohol under the legal age. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>For me personally I say NTA (Not the As*hole). I truly feel like doing something bad and getting away with it is 99% of the reason why kids do it. If you take the mystery away, teach them safety and responsibility from the get go you&rsquo;re far more likely to end up with adults who know how to drink responsibility.</p> <p>Granted that&rsquo;s not in every single case some folks are just wired to overindulge, not knowing when to stop. It&rsquo;s also no to say allow your teenagers to go on benders every other weekend. I&rsquo;m just saying giving them a safe space knowing they can come to you for anything leads for a much healthier parent/child relationship and a lower probability of substance and alcohol abuse problems. - FoxUniCarKilo</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA my family is American but also took the European approach. Teenagers were always offered wine, champagne, margaritas, etc when the adults were drinking at family events and holidays. It was never treated as a big deal and it helped you learn what your tolerance was under controlled adult supervision.</p> <p>My sister doesn&rsquo;t drink because she doesn&rsquo;t like the taste, but myself and cousins all went to college and were perfectly fine because we knew how to drink responsibly unlike some fellow students who grew up sheltered. My aunt even gave me tips on which alcohols not to mix lol so as not to make yourself sick before I went off to school.</p> <p>I think as long as you modeling responsible drinking in front of her, it&rsquo;s actually beneficial. Plus it&rsquo;s important for her to know that if she ever does overindulge and needs to call for help that you are available and won&rsquo;t be angry. - Val41795</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. It takes the taboo and thrill out of it. I 100% believe that here in the US, drinking culture among teens/young adults is way worse than it should be because it&#39;s seen as some sort of &quot;right of passage&quot; when you turn 21 instead of something to be enjoyed responsibly. - MixtureGlum</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. A controlled environment at 16 or 17 is way better than an uncontrolled (party) one a few years later. - ksiv22</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA - you are teaching your daughter to drink responsibly instead of assuming the alcohol fairy will magically teach her on her 18th (or 21st) birthday. Well done. - RedditDK2</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this mom isn&#39;t wrong to allow her daughter (who is almost the legal drinking age in her country) to consume alcohol in the safety of her own home with parental supervision. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she's wrong to let daughter drink alcohol after dad flips out.

Underage drinking and teen drinking is glamorized in high school movies with pool parties full of red plastic cups, body shots, and ice luges filled with vodka.Evaluating consequences and making safe choices isn&#39;t always a skill that teenagers possess, and laws limiting the consumption or purchase of alcoholic beverages are intended to protect young people from dangerous and life-threatening situations. Still, many parents are realistic enough to understand that even if their kids aren&#39;t chugging beer and doing carthweels off a basement bar, they will at least encounter alcohol at some point before they&#39;re of age.Some parents choose to combat this dilemma by letting their kids safely drink before they&#39;re allowed inside a bar as avoiding &quot;the forbidden fruit&quot; mentality can dust off the sparkly sheen of blacking out, leaving your shoes in a cab, throwing your phone in the river and waking up with a stranger who insists you got married last night. So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to allow her teenage daughter to drink, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA for allowing my daughter to drink alcohol? I&#39;m the mother of a 17 year old girl. The legal drinking age where we live is 18 but the average age kids start drinking is 13, usually in a field somewhere with gut-rotting cider and a parent at home worried sick about where the child is.   My daughter never did this, but she did start drinking in controlled environments (she looks significantly older than what she is so being asked for ID has never been an issue) like pubs and at home or at friends houses when she was 15.   I&#39;m pretty laid back when it comes to rules like that, mostly because my parents were extremely strict and got mad at me for everything. My rules on substances are no hard drugs, no aftershock and no tequila.   But I don&#39;t get mad if my daughter tells me she&#39;s expiremented with certain things. I&#39;ve created a safe space for my daughter, she tells me pretty much everything and I respect her boundaries and privacy.   I&#39;ve raised a very responsible young adult and I&#39;m extremely proud of her and glad for the relationship we&#39;ve got. The problem is with her father. He&#39;s American and wasn&#39;t in her life much until last march when he came to visit his parents in my country and ended up being trapped here and decided to move here permanently. She was 16 at the time.   He called over last Friday night completely unannounced, when myself and my daughter were having a few drinks with my partner and one of her friends and he was absolutely appalled at the sight of our daughter having a beer. He stormed out and on Saturday morning, I got a text saying that he was going to contact child services about this and that it was completely wrong of me to allow this and participate with her.   I told him my daughter having a few drinks at home is not actually illegal here and technically there&#39;s no minimum drinking age when supervised by a parent. I also reminded him he&#39;s not her legal guardian and wasn&#39;t in her life from the ages of 2 to 16 so he doesn&#39;t get much of a say.   Needless to say, he thinks I&#39;m a massive a-hole for allowing my daughter to drink alcohol under the legal age. AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: For me personally I say NTA (Not the As*hole). I truly feel like doing something bad and getting away with it is 99% of the reason why kids do it. If you take the mystery away, teach them safety and responsibility from the get go you&rsquo;re far more likely to end up with adults who know how to drink responsibility. Granted that&rsquo;s not in every single case some folks are just wired to overindulge, not knowing when to stop. It&rsquo;s also no to say allow your teenagers to go on benders every other weekend. I&rsquo;m just saying giving them a safe space knowing they can come to you for anything leads for a much healthier parent/child relationship and a lower probability of substance and alcohol abuse problems. - FoxUniCarKilo   NTA my family is American but also took the European approach. Teenagers were always offered wine, champagne, margaritas, etc when the adults were drinking at family events and holidays. It was never treated as a big deal and it helped you learn what your tolerance was under controlled adult supervision. My sister doesn&rsquo;t drink because she doesn&rsquo;t like the taste, but myself and cousins all went to college and were perfectly fine because we knew how to drink responsibly unlike some fellow students who grew up sheltered. My aunt even gave me tips on which alcohols not to mix lol so as not to make yourself sick before I went off to school. I think as long as you modeling responsible drinking in front of her, it&rsquo;s actually beneficial. Plus it&rsquo;s important for her to know that if she ever does overindulge and needs to call for help that you are available and won&rsquo;t be angry. - Val41795   NTA. It takes the taboo and thrill out of it. I 100% believe that here in the US, drinking culture among teens/young adults is way worse than it should be because it&#39;s seen as some sort of &quot;right of passage&quot; when you turn 21 instead of something to be enjoyed responsibly. - MixtureGlum   NTA. A controlled environment at 16 or 17 is way better than an uncontrolled (party) one a few years later. - ksiv22   NTA - you are teaching your daughter to drink responsibly instead of assuming the alcohol fairy will magically teach her on her 18th (or 21st) birthday. Well done. - RedditDK2 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this mom isn&#39;t wrong to allow her daughter (who is almost the legal drinking age in her country) to consume alcohol in the safety of her own home with parental supervision. Good luck, everyone!

Underage drinking and teen drinking is glamorized in high school movies with pool parties full of red plastic cups, body shots, and ice luges filled with vodka.  Evaluating consequences and making safe choices isn&#39;t always a skill that...