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<p> </p><h2>Being a parent sometimes means letting go of having white shirts without food stains, clean carpets or regularly washed hair.</h2><p>Kids, while adorable and often wise-beyond-their-years, can also be hurricanes of spaghetti-o destruction who wake you up in the middle of the night to tell you why they threw up in the antique vase in the living room. Dealing with bodily functions you never knew a human being could possibly produce and a journey in head lice scares, weird worms, unwashed hands and sticky everything is often just part of raising kids. Still, there can sometimes be a fine line between teaching your kids proper hygiene and shaming them for messes that are out of their control.</p><p>So, when a frustrated new parent decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about how she tolerates changing her baby&#39;s diapers, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>AITA for changing my baby while wearing gloves and a mask?</h2><blockquote> <p>This issue has been going on for a few months and now our families are involved. I don&#39;t think I&#39;m the as*hole but could really use some unbiased advice here. I (28F) and my wife (29F) just had our first child about 4 months ago--my wife was the one who gave birth. I love my daughter so much and would do anything for her.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>We both work from home and therefore split childcare pretty much 50/50. If she&#39;s busy and the baby is crying or needs food/changing, I take care of it and vice versa. The issue though is diaper changes.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve always been really really squeamish and sensitive to bad smells. (My wife knows, I even fainted briefly while she was giving birth!) Therefore if it&#39;s my turn for the change, I have a get-up that helps me get through it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I wear disposable gloves, a mask and put a minty smelling salve underneath my nose before I get started. I keep all this in the changing room and diaper bag if we are out of the house, so it only takes me a couple of seconds to get &quot;suited up.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My wife has become more and more insistent that I &quot;get over it&quot; and &quot;grow up&quot; because in her mind, I am not bonding with our daughter. When she changes her, she likes to linger and talk sweetly to her and caress her--I don&#39;t because I find it very difficult to get through already. But I love spending time with my daughter otherwise--I hold her and read to her and play with her a lot.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My mom and MIL came over the other day and I feel like my mom and my wife ganged up on me about this issue. My mom said that I was acting like a toxic man and that she was ashamed of how I was acting.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My MIL was more sympathetic but said that I&#39;d get used to it and that exposure therapy was the best thing to &quot;help.&quot; I don&#39;t think what I&#39;m doing is wrong--again I have no issue changing the baby when needed--but maybe I am being really cold and stunting her development in some way?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>Seriously, anything that gets you through the diaper phase. I don&#39;t care if you have to put on a level 3 HAZMAT suit. If you&#39;re standing up and doing the job, it doesn&#39;t matter how you do it. Plus... it might keep the pee out of your ear... true story... I&#39;ll be forever scarred. - YanniRocks</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole) but I think you need to realize that parenting entails discomfort in many respects, and this is the least of them. If you&#39;re having trouble enduring diaper changes, you&#39;re in for a heck of a ride. There&#39;s far more to parenting than simply holding, reading with, and playing with your baby. - SomeoneYouDontKnow70</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>It sounds like you found a way to cope with a sensory issue while still providing your child with care. I don&#39;t see how that&#39;s a bad thing. NTA - literalgarbageyo</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA at this point, the baby doesn&#39;t care and things are getting done. But as a parent I&#39;d exercise caution when carrying that into when the kid is more self- and socially-aware, I&#39;m thinking the months leading up to potty training, and while they&#39;re training and having accidents. Just be careful/aware of the message you convey to kiddo at that point, and make sure it doesn&#39;t lead to shame about their normal bodily functions. - PangolinSignal3674</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA changing a kids diaper is not a &quot;bonding&quot; experience. It&#39;s a job IMO and should be done as quickly and efficiently as possible. - DarthMurdok</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Most people agreed that this woman wasn&#39;t wrong to change her baby in whatever way makes her comfortable, but she probably should prepare herself for years of messy bodily functions. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she's wrong to only change baby's diapers with gloves and a mask.

 Being a parent sometimes means letting go of having white shirts without food stains, clean carpets or regularly washed hair.Kids, while adorable and often wise-beyond-their-years, can also be hurricanes of spaghetti-o destruction who wake you up in the middle of the night to tell you why they threw up in the antique vase in the living room. Dealing with bodily functions you never knew a human being could possibly produce and a journey in head lice scares, weird worms, unwashed hands and sticky everything is often just part of raising kids. Still, there can sometimes be a fine line between teaching your kids proper hygiene and shaming them for messes that are out of their control.So, when a frustrated new parent decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about how she tolerates changing her baby&#39;s diapers, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA for changing my baby while wearing gloves and a mask? This issue has been going on for a few months and now our families are involved. I don&#39;t think I&#39;m the as*hole but could really use some unbiased advice here. I (28F) and my wife (29F) just had our first child about 4 months ago--my wife was the one who gave birth. I love my daughter so much and would do anything for her.   We both work from home and therefore split childcare pretty much 50/50. If she&#39;s busy and the baby is crying or needs food/changing, I take care of it and vice versa. The issue though is diaper changes.   I&#39;ve always been really really squeamish and sensitive to bad smells. (My wife knows, I even fainted briefly while she was giving birth!) Therefore if it&#39;s my turn for the change, I have a get-up that helps me get through it.   I wear disposable gloves, a mask and put a minty smelling salve underneath my nose before I get started. I keep all this in the changing room and diaper bag if we are out of the house, so it only takes me a couple of seconds to get &quot;suited up.&quot;   My wife has become more and more insistent that I &quot;get over it&quot; and &quot;grow up&quot; because in her mind, I am not bonding with our daughter. When she changes her, she likes to linger and talk sweetly to her and caress her--I don&#39;t because I find it very difficult to get through already. But I love spending time with my daughter otherwise--I hold her and read to her and play with her a lot.   My mom and MIL came over the other day and I feel like my mom and my wife ganged up on me about this issue. My mom said that I was acting like a toxic man and that she was ashamed of how I was acting.   My MIL was more sympathetic but said that I&#39;d get used to it and that exposure therapy was the best thing to &quot;help.&quot; I don&#39;t think what I&#39;m doing is wrong--again I have no issue changing the baby when needed--but maybe I am being really cold and stunting her development in some way? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: Seriously, anything that gets you through the diaper phase. I don&#39;t care if you have to put on a level 3 HAZMAT suit. If you&#39;re standing up and doing the job, it doesn&#39;t matter how you do it. Plus... it might keep the pee out of your ear... true story... I&#39;ll be forever scarred. - YanniRocks   NTA (Not the As*hole) but I think you need to realize that parenting entails discomfort in many respects, and this is the least of them. If you&#39;re having trouble enduring diaper changes, you&#39;re in for a heck of a ride. There&#39;s far more to parenting than simply holding, reading with, and playing with your baby. - SomeoneYouDontKnow70   It sounds like you found a way to cope with a sensory issue while still providing your child with care. I don&#39;t see how that&#39;s a bad thing. NTA - literalgarbageyo   NTA at this point, the baby doesn&#39;t care and things are getting done. But as a parent I&#39;d exercise caution when carrying that into when the kid is more self- and socially-aware, I&#39;m thinking the months leading up to potty training, and while they&#39;re training and having accidents. Just be careful/aware of the message you convey to kiddo at that point, and make sure it doesn&#39;t lead to shame about their normal bodily functions. - PangolinSignal3674   NTA changing a kids diaper is not a &quot;bonding&quot; experience. It&#39;s a job IMO and should be done as quickly and efficiently as possible. - DarthMurdok So, there you have it!Most people agreed that this woman wasn&#39;t wrong to change her baby in whatever way makes her comfortable, but she probably should prepare herself for years of messy bodily functions. Good luck, everyone!

Being a parent sometimes means letting go of having white shirts without food stains, clean carpets or regularly washed hair.  Kids, while adorable and often wise-beyond-their-years, can also be hurricanes of spaghetti-o destruction who...