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<h2>Parenthood, childcare products, and the best baby or toddler techniques can be awkward subjects between friends or family members with differing styles...</h2><p>As long as kids are safe, happy, and loved, it&#39;s always best to keep your judgments to yourself on what you think of certain sleep-training practices, toys, breastfeeding decisions, or overall parenting practices. Especially if you don&#39;t have children yourself, there are a lot of skills that are learned on the job and you&#39;re not an expert on childcare just because you read an article once about co-sleeping or the best car-seat once. Offering unsolicited advice on anything is usually a risky move, but people are rightfully extra defensive when it comes to their children. Unless you&#39;re worried about the well-being of someone else&#39;s child, imposing your own parenting preferences or your hypothetical scenarios onto a friend&#39;s family is a recipe for an awkward Sunday brunch.</p><p>So, when a concerned woman decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about an argument she got into with her pregnant friend over motherhood, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mz0d9l/aita_i_told_a_new_mom_she_doesnt_know_what_shes/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) I told a new mom she doesn&rsquo;t know what she&rsquo;s talking about?</h2><blockquote> <p>I (29F) have 2 kids (6m and 1f). I&rsquo;ve recently become friends with a 26F who is due in a few weeks with her first child. We&rsquo;re a bit of an odd match. We don&rsquo;t necessarily have a lot in common, but we get along well enough and she likes to ask for my advice on things as she prepares to give birth and be a new mom. She doesn&rsquo;t have any family living nearby and I know how hard that is so I like being able to help her out.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The issue is that as she gets closer to her due date, the more judgmental she gets of my parenting. It started when she decided to do cloth diapers and tried to convince me I should switch too. I had to tell her I&rsquo;d been there done that with my first and it&rsquo;s not for me. She asks for product reviews on fancy baby gadgets like the backseat camera or the Owlet sock thing and when I said I never used stuff like that she said that she&rsquo;s going to use it because she wants to keep her baby as safe as possible.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I was trying really hard to not be the experienced mom that says &ldquo;just you wait...&rdquo; because I hate that, but I kinda feel that way sometimes. I figure nature will take it&rsquo;s course and she&rsquo;ll eventually see that you can&rsquo;t take mommy Instagram influencers as gospel.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Today was the last straw. I have mastitis and I had to stay home from work. I would have gone in but they&rsquo;re doing temperature screenings at the door and I have a fever so I would have just been sent home anyway. We were texting and I mentioned that I&rsquo;d called in and she started saying I didn&rsquo;t have to stay home from work over a sore boob, that I just needed to buy a haaka and use that, but it wasn&rsquo;t worth staying home over.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;ll admit that hit a nerve for me because I already feel bad about using my paid sick leave for myself since I like to save it up in case my kids get sick. In my anger I said that thing I told myself I&rsquo;d never say. I said she should wait until she&rsquo;s actually experienced something before she tries to talk about it because right now she just doesn&rsquo;t know what she&rsquo;s talking about.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Well apparently she&rsquo;s so upset that her husband texted me and asked me why I&rsquo;d say something like that to her when she&rsquo;s due in two weeks and already nervous. He said she&rsquo;s been crying for an hour now. I feel like maybe I just shouldn&rsquo;t have said anything.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). She overstepped a boundary with you and you told her so. Good job standing up for yourself. Hopefully she wont do it again. Also why did she get her husband involved? Is she a child herself? - beaconbay</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. She sounds insufferable honestly. Yeah, she wants someone to talk to, but she is coming off as condescending. Her comment is very ignorant because a pump won&#39;t always work if you&#39;re clogged. Or it takes warm pads and massages. I experienced something similar and the best way to clear clogged ducts was nursing the baby. I don&#39;t blame you for getting fed up with her comments. - CinderDroplet</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Isn&#39;t it amazing how much more we knew about parenting &#39;correctly&#39; before we had kids? No need to engage with her right now- you know she&#39;ll learn soon enough. If this is a friendship worth saving, consider reaching out 6m after the baby is born after she has inevitably rejected most/all her previous held judgements. - glasnot</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. I mean I understand that she&rsquo;s emotional and hormonal. But honestly people shouldn&rsquo;t comment on things they have no experience with, it&rsquo;s condescending and not their place. I understand new moms want all things good for their babies (and I notice this a lot with first time moms) - there&rsquo;s something that just shifts when you have a second and third.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>As her friend - you in turn need to accept that she doesn&rsquo;t have that experience yet, she&rsquo;s hopeful and trying to do what she thinks is right (or in this case not a big deal, mastitis yikes! Get well soon). However; an opinion is just that. It&rsquo;s easiest to just brush those things off, or if it&rsquo;s too much to ignore those comments cut off the friendship. - wide_eyed_doe</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. It&#39;s none of her business why you stayed home from work. This seemed to be something you have been holding in for a while. - Himalayankitten</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Her pregnancy is NO EXCUSE for her to act so judgemental and tell you what to do with YOUR life! She was extremely out of line and really does not know what she&rsquo;s talking about! I know pregnancy hormones make us do some crazy things, but it&rsquo;s NEVER an excuse for anything! So just because she&rsquo;s pregnant you&rsquo;re supposed to sit there and just take the unsolicited abuse she hurls at you? NO! You were 100% right. She does not sound like a good friend. - Nerdgirl8733</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this mom wasn&#39;t at all wrong to snap at her pregnant friend for her misguided advice, especially since it&#39;s true that she doesn&#39;t really know what she&#39;s talking about. Still, apologies are probably in order for both of them and hopefully they can find a more productive way to bond over the challenges of parenthood. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she's wrong for telling off pregnant friend who's judging her parenting.

Parenthood, childcare products, and the best baby or toddler techniques can be awkward subjects between friends or family members with differing styles...As long as kids are safe, happy, and loved, it&#39;s always best to keep your judgments to yourself on what you think of certain sleep-training practices, toys, breastfeeding decisions, or overall parenting practices. Especially if you don&#39;t have children yourself, there are a lot of skills that are learned on the job and you&#39;re not an expert on childcare just because you read an article once about co-sleeping or the best car-seat once. Offering unsolicited advice on anything is usually a risky move, but people are rightfully extra defensive when it comes to their children. Unless you&#39;re worried about the well-being of someone else&#39;s child, imposing your own parenting preferences or your hypothetical scenarios onto a friend&#39;s family is a recipe for an awkward Sunday brunch.So, when a concerned woman decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about an argument she got into with her pregnant friend over motherhood, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) I told a new mom she doesn&rsquo;t know what she&rsquo;s talking about? I (29F) have 2 kids (6m and 1f). I&rsquo;ve recently become friends with a 26F who is due in a few weeks with her first child. We&rsquo;re a bit of an odd match. We don&rsquo;t necessarily have a lot in common, but we get along well enough and she likes to ask for my advice on things as she prepares to give birth and be a new mom. She doesn&rsquo;t have any family living nearby and I know how hard that is so I like being able to help her out.  The issue is that as she gets closer to her due date, the more judgmental she gets of my parenting. It started when she decided to do cloth diapers and tried to convince me I should switch too. I had to tell her I&rsquo;d been there done that with my first and it&rsquo;s not for me. She asks for product reviews on fancy baby gadgets like the backseat camera or the Owlet sock thing and when I said I never used stuff like that she said that she&rsquo;s going to use it because she wants to keep her baby as safe as possible.  I was trying really hard to not be the experienced mom that says &ldquo;just you wait...&rdquo; because I hate that, but I kinda feel that way sometimes. I figure nature will take it&rsquo;s course and she&rsquo;ll eventually see that you can&rsquo;t take mommy Instagram influencers as gospel.  Today was the last straw. I have mastitis and I had to stay home from work. I would have gone in but they&rsquo;re doing temperature screenings at the door and I have a fever so I would have just been sent home anyway. We were texting and I mentioned that I&rsquo;d called in and she started saying I didn&rsquo;t have to stay home from work over a sore boob, that I just needed to buy a haaka and use that, but it wasn&rsquo;t worth staying home over.  I&rsquo;ll admit that hit a nerve for me because I already feel bad about using my paid sick leave for myself since I like to save it up in case my kids get sick. In my anger I said that thing I told myself I&rsquo;d never say. I said she should wait until she&rsquo;s actually experienced something before she tries to talk about it because right now she just doesn&rsquo;t know what she&rsquo;s talking about.  Well apparently she&rsquo;s so upset that her husband texted me and asked me why I&rsquo;d say something like that to her when she&rsquo;s due in two weeks and already nervous. He said she&rsquo;s been crying for an hour now. I feel like maybe I just shouldn&rsquo;t have said anything. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). She overstepped a boundary with you and you told her so. Good job standing up for yourself. Hopefully she wont do it again. Also why did she get her husband involved? Is she a child herself? - beaconbay  NTA. She sounds insufferable honestly. Yeah, she wants someone to talk to, but she is coming off as condescending. Her comment is very ignorant because a pump won&#39;t always work if you&#39;re clogged. Or it takes warm pads and massages. I experienced something similar and the best way to clear clogged ducts was nursing the baby. I don&#39;t blame you for getting fed up with her comments. - CinderDroplet  NTA. Isn&#39;t it amazing how much more we knew about parenting &#39;correctly&#39; before we had kids? No need to engage with her right now- you know she&#39;ll learn soon enough. If this is a friendship worth saving, consider reaching out 6m after the baby is born after she has inevitably rejected most/all her previous held judgements. - glasnot  NTA. I mean I understand that she&rsquo;s emotional and hormonal. But honestly people shouldn&rsquo;t comment on things they have no experience with, it&rsquo;s condescending and not their place. I understand new moms want all things good for their babies (and I notice this a lot with first time moms) - there&rsquo;s something that just shifts when you have a second and third.  As her friend - you in turn need to accept that she doesn&rsquo;t have that experience yet, she&rsquo;s hopeful and trying to do what she thinks is right (or in this case not a big deal, mastitis yikes! Get well soon). However; an opinion is just that. It&rsquo;s easiest to just brush those things off, or if it&rsquo;s too much to ignore those comments cut off the friendship. - wide_eyed_doe  NTA. It&#39;s none of her business why you stayed home from work. This seemed to be something you have been holding in for a while. - Himalayankitten  NTA. Her pregnancy is NO EXCUSE for her to act so judgemental and tell you what to do with YOUR life! She was extremely out of line and really does not know what she&rsquo;s talking about! I know pregnancy hormones make us do some crazy things, but it&rsquo;s NEVER an excuse for anything! So just because she&rsquo;s pregnant you&rsquo;re supposed to sit there and just take the unsolicited abuse she hurls at you? NO! You were 100% right. She does not sound like a good friend. - Nerdgirl8733 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this mom wasn&#39;t at all wrong to snap at her pregnant friend for her misguided advice, especially since it&#39;s true that she doesn&#39;t really know what she&#39;s talking about. Still, apologies are probably in order for both of them and hopefully they can find a more productive way to bond over the challenges of parenthood. Good luck, everyone!

Parenthood, childcare products, and the best baby or toddler techniques can be awkward subjects between friends or family members with differing styles...  As long as kids are safe, happy, and loved, it&#39;s always best to keep your...