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<h2>Changing diapers is nobody&#39;s favorite part of parenting, but ultimately someone has to do it...</h2><p>If you&#39;re planning on being a parent, it&#39;s necessary to also plan for all the gross and dirty, nauseatingly nasty bodily fluids that go along with it. Sticky fingers, chunky food all over their faces, cleaning up regurgitated applesauce from their brand new shirts, and constantly changing biohazard-level diapers is all part of the deal.</p><p>If your partner or co-parent isn&#39;t at all interesting in handling the messy parts of the job, you must be prepared to either find a new team member or do everything yourself without complaint. While it might seem like an okay idea to volunteer for every diaper duty before you&#39;re faced with the endless task, things can escalate even further when the person refusing to do the job also wants to critique how you&#39;re doing it. You have someone to say about my performance of the 3 AM, running on 0 hours of sleep diaper disaster? Do it yourself then!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>So, when a frustrated new mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her husband&#39;s unwillingness to change their baby&#39;s diapers, people were there to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nvfhc3/aita_for_making_my_germaphopic_husband_change_our/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for making my (germaphopic) husband change our son&#39;s diaper?</h2><blockquote> <p>My husband (M27) and I (F25) have a 2-month-old together. He does everything almost except changing diapers. He&#39;s a hardcore germaphobe so I handle the dirty part of our son&#39;s care. So my husband&#39;s been pestering me about the faces I make when changing our son&#39;s diapers. Telling me to smile all the time. I told him to leave me alone, it&#39;s easy for him to say when he&#39;s not the one dealing with the smell and... gahd!!!</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>But every time when I&#39;m in the middle of changing diapers, my husband would show up out of nowhere like he busted me or something and tell me that the faces I keep making have an &quot;impact&quot; on our son&#39;s emotional state and I should smile. He&#39;d motion with his hand and be like smiiiiiiiile. I told him to leave me alone, he knows how difficult this is for me, but does nothing to help. Instead just mocks me and keeps pestering me. I said if he ever try to hassle me again with the &quot;just smiiile&quot; bullcrap then he&#39;ll start handling diaper change.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Last night at around 9, he was in the kitchen already eating dinner without me and not waiting while I was getting ready to change my son&#39;s diaper. He came into the room with his mouth full of food and once again commented on how my face looked, reminded me to smile and &quot;show love&quot; and stop causing harm to our son&#39;s emotional health. I snapped!!!! I walked up to him and told him that he ran out of chance to stop his annoying behavior and he should start handling diaper change from now on and we&#39;ll see how big his smile will be.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>His tone changed and he said that we both agreed that I&#39;d be handling diaper change even before our son was born and that I already know too well what the reason is. He&#39;s a germaphope, yes. But he&#39;s also a PARENT. What type of parent never changes their baby&#39;s diaper? I handed him the stuff and asked him to enjoy while I kept standing to watch how he do it. It took him forever and as I expected he made all types of disgusted, grossed out faces and for a minute I thought he was going to throw up.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>He was finished. I said he lost the smiling contest with those faces he made. He was pissed and rushed to wash his hands complaining about how I&#39;m trying to get him to do everything. And that I ruined his appetite by having him experience &quot;that&quot;. I replied that he still ain&#39;t seen nothing yet and asked since he wants us to have 4 kids how he will be handling the other 3. He said he changed his mind and only wants 2. But still my point stands. He tried to argue that I&#39;m not taking his germaphopia seriously and what I forced him to do wasn&#39;t cool. He&#39;s been upset since then. AITA?!?!.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole) he&#39;s being a real as*hole. You are being fair. He needs therapy so he can perform his responsibility as a parent - bebett</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>He sounds like a child. Germaphobia is a real thing but it doesn&#39;t give you the right to use other people just because you don&#39;t feel like being a parent.</p> <p>And why is he stacking all of the emotional labor on you by making you smile? That&#39;s not fair. - Gray4004</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH (Everyone Sucks Here), but mostly him. Neither of you really seems to have thought through what having children with his phobia would realistically be like.</p> <p>First, kids - among all their good traits - are also gross. If he can&#39;t handle changing a diaper, that&#39;s a huge hindrance on him as a parent. He can literally never watch his own child for any extended period of time because otherwise the child ends up sat in their own filth. He should have sought therapy before having a child and you should not have had a child with him.</p> <p>Secondly, your husband sounds like one of those sexist cat-callers with this &quot;smile&quot; business. I hope he has a laundry list of redeeming traits you left out of this post because right now he doesn&#39;t seem like husband or father material. - 0biterdicta</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH. You never should have agreed to have a child with a husband who is unwilling to participate in your child&#39;s basic care. He sucks for literally taunting you with BS about harming the baby&#39;s emotional health. If your husband is so much of a germaphobe the LAST thing he should have done is father a child!!!! Buy him a box of latex gloves and have him get to work. - Consistent-Leopard71</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>You are, categorically, NTA. He&rsquo;s a parent, he needs to get over himself and step up to do his share of the childcare. - HeadlineBay</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA - tell him he can wear personal protective equipment if he wants (gloves etc), but he&#39;s a parent too so he can split the dirty tasks with you. I&#39;m sure if he can manage wiping his own ass with his germaphobia he can learn to manage this. - airazaneo</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people agreed that this dad needs to step it up and if he&#39;s still unwilling to change diapers, he needs to keep his comments about his wife&#39;s facial expressions to himself. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong to punish germaphobic husband by making him change diaper.

Changing diapers is nobody&#39;s favorite part of parenting, but ultimately someone has to do it...If you&#39;re planning on being a parent, it&#39;s necessary to also plan for all the gross and dirty, nauseatingly nasty bodily fluids that go along with it. Sticky fingers, chunky food all over their faces, cleaning up regurgitated applesauce from their brand new shirts, and constantly changing biohazard-level diapers is all part of the deal.If your partner or co-parent isn&#39;t at all interesting in handling the messy parts of the job, you must be prepared to either find a new team member or do everything yourself without complaint. While it might seem like an okay idea to volunteer for every diaper duty before you&#39;re faced with the endless task, things can escalate even further when the person refusing to do the job also wants to critique how you&#39;re doing it. You have someone to say about my performance of the 3 AM, running on 0 hours of sleep diaper disaster? Do it yourself then!So, when a frustrated new mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her husband&#39;s unwillingness to change their baby&#39;s diapers, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for making my (germaphopic) husband change our son&#39;s diaper? My husband (M27) and I (F25) have a 2-month-old together. He does everything almost except changing diapers. He&#39;s a hardcore germaphobe so I handle the dirty part of our son&#39;s care. So my husband&#39;s been pestering me about the faces I make when changing our son&#39;s diapers. Telling me to smile all the time. I told him to leave me alone, it&#39;s easy for him to say when he&#39;s not the one dealing with the smell and... gahd!!!   But every time when I&#39;m in the middle of changing diapers, my husband would show up out of nowhere like he busted me or something and tell me that the faces I keep making have an &quot;impact&quot; on our son&#39;s emotional state and I should smile. He&#39;d motion with his hand and be like smiiiiiiiile. I told him to leave me alone, he knows how difficult this is for me, but does nothing to help. Instead just mocks me and keeps pestering me. I said if he ever try to hassle me again with the &quot;just smiiile&quot; bullcrap then he&#39;ll start handling diaper change.   Last night at around 9, he was in the kitchen already eating dinner without me and not waiting while I was getting ready to change my son&#39;s diaper. He came into the room with his mouth full of food and once again commented on how my face looked, reminded me to smile and &quot;show love&quot; and stop causing harm to our son&#39;s emotional health. I snapped!!!! I walked up to him and told him that he ran out of chance to stop his annoying behavior and he should start handling diaper change from now on and we&#39;ll see how big his smile will be.   His tone changed and he said that we both agreed that I&#39;d be handling diaper change even before our son was born and that I already know too well what the reason is. He&#39;s a germaphope, yes. But he&#39;s also a PARENT. What type of parent never changes their baby&#39;s diaper? I handed him the stuff and asked him to enjoy while I kept standing to watch how he do it. It took him forever and as I expected he made all types of disgusted, grossed out faces and for a minute I thought he was going to throw up.   He was finished. I said he lost the smiling contest with those faces he made. He was pissed and rushed to wash his hands complaining about how I&#39;m trying to get him to do everything. And that I ruined his appetite by having him experience &quot;that&quot;. I replied that he still ain&#39;t seen nothing yet and asked since he wants us to have 4 kids how he will be handling the other 3. He said he changed his mind and only wants 2. But still my point stands. He tried to argue that I&#39;m not taking his germaphopia seriously and what I forced him to do wasn&#39;t cool. He&#39;s been upset since then. AITA?!?!. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) he&#39;s being a real as*hole. You are being fair. He needs therapy so he can perform his responsibility as a parent - bebett   He sounds like a child. Germaphobia is a real thing but it doesn&#39;t give you the right to use other people just because you don&#39;t feel like being a parent. And why is he stacking all of the emotional labor on you by making you smile? That&#39;s not fair. - Gray4004   ESH (Everyone Sucks Here), but mostly him. Neither of you really seems to have thought through what having children with his phobia would realistically be like. First, kids - among all their good traits - are also gross. If he can&#39;t handle changing a diaper, that&#39;s a huge hindrance on him as a parent. He can literally never watch his own child for any extended period of time because otherwise the child ends up sat in their own filth. He should have sought therapy before having a child and you should not have had a child with him. Secondly, your husband sounds like one of those sexist cat-callers with this &quot;smile&quot; business. I hope he has a laundry list of redeeming traits you left out of this post because right now he doesn&#39;t seem like husband or father material. - 0biterdicta   ESH. You never should have agreed to have a child with a husband who is unwilling to participate in your child&#39;s basic care. He sucks for literally taunting you with BS about harming the baby&#39;s emotional health. If your husband is so much of a germaphobe the LAST thing he should have done is father a child!!!! Buy him a box of latex gloves and have him get to work. - Consistent-Leopard71   You are, categorically, NTA. He&rsquo;s a parent, he needs to get over himself and step up to do his share of the childcare. - HeadlineBay   NTA - tell him he can wear personal protective equipment if he wants (gloves etc), but he&#39;s a parent too so he can split the dirty tasks with you. I&#39;m sure if he can manage wiping his own ass with his germaphobia he can learn to manage this. - airazaneo So, there you have it!While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people agreed that this dad needs to step it up and if he&#39;s still unwilling to change diapers, he needs to keep his comments about his wife&#39;s facial expressions to himself. Good luck, everyone!

Changing diapers is nobody&#39;s favorite part of parenting, but ultimately someone has to do it...  If you&#39;re planning on being a parent, it&#39;s necessary to also plan for all the gross and dirty, nauseatingly nasty bodily fluids...