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<h2>While most parents try to instill proper hygiene habits into their children, after a certain age it becomes harder to control whether or not your kids are showering and brushing their teeth...</h2><p>Most parents hope they did everything they could to raise kids who enter adulthood with clean ears, washed hair, brushed teeth, trimmed toenails and a daily deodorant but all we can really do at some point is hope for the best. If you did everything you could while your child was in your home and they grow up to be a person who refuses to abide by a shower schedule, that&#39;s probably something they have to deal with on their own. Of course, neglecting personal hygiene can be a symptom of depression or other mental illnesses so if your loved one is exhibiting usual hygiene-related habits, it might be time to intervene.</p><p>However, when a frustrated mother decided to consult the internet&#39;s moral compass of Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her 24-year-old daughter&#39;s dental health, people were quick to offer some advice.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ks4uij/aita_for_refusing_to_pay_for_my_daughters_dental/">AITA</a> (Am I the as*hole) for refusing to pay for my daughter&rsquo;s dental procedures?</h2><blockquote> <p>My daughter is 24 years old. For her entire life, she has neglected her teeth. Her dental hygiene is nonexistent, she would refuse to brush or floss her teeth at all, wouldn&rsquo;t even use mouthwash. My first thought was that she may be suffering from depression or some sort of mental health issue, so I immediately took her to professionals. However, even after years of doctors, therapists, medication, and specialists, my daughter still refused to take care of her teeth.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I got multiple opinions from multiple professionals &mdash; they all said the same thing: &ldquo;We don&rsquo;t know why she won&rsquo;t brush her teeth, try xyz, there&rsquo;s nothing more we can do for you.&rdquo;</p> <p>I spent years crying, begging, bargaining, and screaming at her in an attempt to get her to take it seriously. She never did, but under my care she&rsquo;d at least brush her teeth occasionally (2-3x a week). I kept trying up until she reached adulthood and moved out. At that point there was nothing more I could do for her and I assume she completely stopped caring for her teeth at that point.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Recently, she went to the dentist because of severe pain after putting it off for years. They discovered her teeth were pretty much completely ruined. She had to have most of them pulled.</p> <p>She called me crying about how ugly she felt, and she begged me to pay for her to get crowns/veneers.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I refused for several reasons. One, it would be incredibly expensive, we&rsquo;re talking upwards of 10k. Two, she got herself into this mess by not taking care of her teeth, despite me warning her throughout her entire life and doing all I could to help her. Three, she has yet to show she can maintain proper dental hygiene and without proper maintenance she will likely ruin the crowns/veneers anyways. I told her as much and said she&rsquo;ll have to figure it out herself.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s obviously furious and thinks I&rsquo;m a huge a-hole. She is saying I&rsquo;m a horrible mother and betraying her by not paying for it. It&rsquo;s honestly starting to get to me and I&rsquo;m doubting my decision. I can technically afford it, but I would have to use money from my retirement fund.</p> <p>So, here I am, asking for opinions from the Internet. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole)</p> <p>You tried to get her to look after her teeth. What did she think was going to happen?</p> <p>She is an adult - Don&#39;t help her. She dug herself this hole and she needs to get herself out. - _A_Brit_Abroad_</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA</p> <p>If she hasn&#39;t started taking proper care of the teeth she has, paying for crowns or veneers would only delay the inevitable. The tooth matter below the crown or veneer would rot away. - teresajs</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA</p> <p>Shes old enough to take care of herself, and she seems to feel awfully entitled to your money. You did what you could, and now she&#39;s experiencing natural consequences.</p> <p>It would be kind and loving to pay for it.....but that doesn&#39;t work when she vilifies you for not. - that_jedi_girl</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. As someone who didn&#39;t pickup good dental hygiene till later in life I know how expensive it can be. Also, if she hasn&#39;t changed her habits the tooth underneath is just going to decay and break eventually.</p> <p>Even if she got dentures, the cheapest option, she would still need to take care of her mouth. - Independent-Idea1278</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Nta - you tried to encourage her to prevent this. She decided she knew better. Welcome to the consequences. - lost-cannuck</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this mom is not at all in the wrong for refusing to pay for her adult daughter&#39;s dental work as she did everything she could to prevent the damage. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she’s wrong to refuse to pay for dental work for daughter who neglected her teeth.

While most parents try to instill proper hygiene habits into their children, after a certain age it becomes harder to control whether or not your kids are showering and brushing their teeth...Most parents hope they did everything they could to raise kids who enter adulthood with clean ears, washed hair, brushed teeth, trimmed toenails and a daily deodorant but all we can really do at some point is hope for the best. If you did everything you could while your child was in your home and they grow up to be a person who refuses to abide by a shower schedule, that&#39;s probably something they have to deal with on their own. Of course, neglecting personal hygiene can be a symptom of depression or other mental illnesses so if your loved one is exhibiting usual hygiene-related habits, it might be time to intervene.However, when a frustrated mother decided to consult the internet&#39;s moral compass of Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her 24-year-old daughter&#39;s dental health, people were quick to offer some advice.AITA (Am I the as*hole) for refusing to pay for my daughter&rsquo;s dental procedures? My daughter is 24 years old. For her entire life, she has neglected her teeth. Her dental hygiene is nonexistent, she would refuse to brush or floss her teeth at all, wouldn&rsquo;t even use mouthwash. My first thought was that she may be suffering from depression or some sort of mental health issue, so I immediately took her to professionals. However, even after years of doctors, therapists, medication, and specialists, my daughter still refused to take care of her teeth.   I got multiple opinions from multiple professionals &mdash; they all said the same thing: &ldquo;We don&rsquo;t know why she won&rsquo;t brush her teeth, try xyz, there&rsquo;s nothing more we can do for you.&rdquo; I spent years crying, begging, bargaining, and screaming at her in an attempt to get her to take it seriously. She never did, but under my care she&rsquo;d at least brush her teeth occasionally (2-3x a week). I kept trying up until she reached adulthood and moved out. At that point there was nothing more I could do for her and I assume she completely stopped caring for her teeth at that point.   Recently, she went to the dentist because of severe pain after putting it off for years. They discovered her teeth were pretty much completely ruined. She had to have most of them pulled. She called me crying about how ugly she felt, and she begged me to pay for her to get crowns/veneers.   I refused for several reasons. One, it would be incredibly expensive, we&rsquo;re talking upwards of 10k. Two, she got herself into this mess by not taking care of her teeth, despite me warning her throughout her entire life and doing all I could to help her. Three, she has yet to show she can maintain proper dental hygiene and without proper maintenance she will likely ruin the crowns/veneers anyways. I told her as much and said she&rsquo;ll have to figure it out herself.   She&rsquo;s obviously furious and thinks I&rsquo;m a huge a-hole. She is saying I&rsquo;m a horrible mother and betraying her by not paying for it. It&rsquo;s honestly starting to get to me and I&rsquo;m doubting my decision. I can technically afford it, but I would have to use money from my retirement fund. So, here I am, asking for opinions from the Internet. AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) You tried to get her to look after her teeth. What did she think was going to happen? She is an adult - Don&#39;t help her. She dug herself this hole and she needs to get herself out. - _A_Brit_Abroad_  NTA If she hasn&#39;t started taking proper care of the teeth she has, paying for crowns or veneers would only delay the inevitable. The tooth matter below the crown or veneer would rot away. - teresajs  NTA Shes old enough to take care of herself, and she seems to feel awfully entitled to your money. You did what you could, and now she&#39;s experiencing natural consequences. It would be kind and loving to pay for it.....but that doesn&#39;t work when she vilifies you for not. - that_jedi_girl  NTA. As someone who didn&#39;t pickup good dental hygiene till later in life I know how expensive it can be. Also, if she hasn&#39;t changed her habits the tooth underneath is just going to decay and break eventually. Even if she got dentures, the cheapest option, she would still need to take care of her mouth. - Independent-Idea1278  Nta - you tried to encourage her to prevent this. She decided she knew better. Welcome to the consequences. - lost-cannuck So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this mom is not at all in the wrong for refusing to pay for her adult daughter&#39;s dental work as she did everything she could to prevent the damage. Good luck, everyone!

While most parents try to instill proper hygiene habits into their children, after a certain age it becomes harder to control whether or not your kids are showering and brushing their teeth...  Most parents hope they did everything they...