Mom asks if she's wrong for setting extremely strict rules to visit her baby.

A new baby in the family or friend group is an exciting life-altering event to celebrate, but forcing people to shell out half their paycheck on gifts for a person you chose to bring into the world? Yikes.Keeping your child safe and insisting that family and friends meeting your baby for the first time sanitize their hands and learn the proper baby-holding technique is normal, but typing out a syllabus of demands is a few steps too far.Remember, your baby isn't a precious miracle to everyone on the planet. To most people, your baby is another noisemaker at this grocery store while they're trying to focus on reading the ingredient list on the back of a box of pasta.So when an impressively out-of-touch new mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole" about whether or not she's wrong to strictly follow the laughably intense rules she set for people to visit her baby, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for refusing to bend the rules on seeing my newborn just for one person (sister-in-law) even if it's the only chance she has to see him for months? So I (34F) gave birth on Christmas Day. Before my son's birth and to lessen visits, we (my husband 28M) made a list in October and sent it out to everyone Some rules include: up to date on ALL vaccines -if you feel anyway sick don’t visit let us know a week before hand so we can arrange a day/time no smokers no phone calls or visits between 7:30pm-10pm you can only stay an hour -no picking up the baby without consent no advice no perfume/deodorant no is no we won’t explain why no pictures to be taken or posted on social media If you visit the first time, you will be expected to give mom (me) a gift card and a gift for baby from out approved list Before you ever come (no matter how many times) you will be given a list of a either food or groceries to bring with you AND a chore for a list of your choosing no more than two visits a week per person It’s helped to keep the visits to a minimum and no one can complain about favoritism because everyone is treated equally. Which brings me to my current situation. My sister in law (20F) studies in a different part of the country and is rarely home asked to visit last week before she had to go back to school. We set up a date with link to our gift list than sent her the takeout we’d like including the chores she can choose from. She immediately sent back a text saying she’s broke and can she do extra chores instead. Me and my husband talked about it and came to the decision that if we bent the rules for one person, everyone would want the same treatment. We told her no. We were very clear about our rules and maybe next time she could visit. She begged, even said would clean the whole house because it would be June before she’s would be home again and we simply texted no. She didn’t reply. She left this morning and we got multiple texts for my in-laws belittling us for using our child as a cash grab. My husband simply replied it was our rules and no one deserves special treatment, then told his family they were on a timeout and blocked them. Since then my family and our friends have told us we were wrong because she is a broke collage student and they would have understood if we looked the other way once. We have tried reaching out to his sister, but she won’t reply. This list is so ridiculous that it's gone beyond "annoying" territory and fully entered "hilarious."Imagine being so entitled that you think your baby is such a gift to the universe that your own family should have to buy you a luxurious to-go dinner and change diapers to merely do you the favor of visiting?"Sorry but you actually can't come and meet your grandson, mom, because I'm going to need you to scrub our toilet and pick up a lasagna from our favorite restaurant first." These parents are going to have a long and difficult road ahead of them if they think this is how the rest of the world is going to deal with their child.Visiting a baby and helping out with anything the parents need is a courtesy to the parents, not a fun Saturday night for the person visiting.Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this entitled new mom drama. Here's what the jury of internet strangers had to say: YTA (You're the As*hole). Your rules went from 0 to 60. Like smoking and vaccines, yeah. But gift cards and chores? The entitlement is strong with this one. - ToPiggyBack YTA. That "list" of yours is ridiculous. Anyone who wants to see the baby must bow at your feet, bring tribute, and go to work for you? Wtf? - tryandbereasonable14 YTA. And yes, you are using your child as a cash grab. NO ONE is obligated to buy you gifts or takeout. Or groceries. It seems like your friends and family are realizing that you don't want them to actually bond with the baby or visit because they are family. You just want things. Oh and your house cleaned. - sheramom YTA what kind of greedy people are you guys? I thought you were going to say that you weren’t making exceptions on visits before the baby is healthy enough or something. You’re charging people to see your baby? That’s so weird. - scubadancintouchdown YTA. What special tricks does your baby perform to warrant an admission fee? This is literally a cash grab and you should be ashamed of yourselves. - angel2hi YTA. The forced gift giving would make you an asshole anyway, but especially for bullying a broke college student. Do you live under a rock? Surely you know how broke college students are. Sure let me throw $50 on a baby gift after I spent my limited savings getting home. - Real_Recognition_713 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this new mom was completely in the wrong for drafting this truly unhinged list of demands for family members to be in the presence of her baby.Does she know babies are tiny screaming humans that will probably spit up all over her sister-in-law who is still begging to come visit her nephew? In fact, she's so desperate to support her brother and his new child that she's willing to scrub the entire house for free?Most people would laugh hysterically if they were required to buy takeout dinner and do household chores to simply hold their friend of family member's newborn. No thanks, I guess I just won't visit then? I'll see your kid at their college graduation when they're old enough to grab a beer with without a cover charge. Good luck, everyone!