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<h2>Finding age-appropriate ways to explain adult challenges or concepts to children can be a struggle for parents, but sometimes honesty is the only healthy option...</h2><p>Lying to kids in order to protect their innocence can sometimes cause more problems down the road as children are incredibly intuitive little sponges. While they might not understand the stress of having to pay bills on time, if the family budget has to tighten for awhile in order to make ends meet, explaining that to your kids can be an important and valuable life lesson.</p><p>However, finding the balance between introducing adult subjects to kids without burdening them with grown-up responsibilities or worries can be a delicate task. It&#39;s necessary to remember that every child is different and as long as kids are happy, safe, and loved, respecting different parenting styles and choices is key. So, when a concerned mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to tell her 8-year-old daughter the truth about their financial situation after her best friend disapproved, people were there to help deem a verdict.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nr2x91/aita_for_telling_my_daughter_were_having/">AITA </a>(Am I the As*hole) for telling my daughter we&#39;re having financial problems?</h2><blockquote> <p>I (36f) adopted my niece Hailey (8f) when she was 14 months old. Hailey is beautiful, kind, and smart and is the best thing that&#39;s ever happened to me.</p> <p>I own my own restaurant and the shutdowns affected us but I rent out a few houses and apartments so I still had an income and my best friend Amy (36f) and her daughter Grace (7f) moved in with us in January because she wanted to go back to school and wanted to save money. This arrangement was perfect because with her school schedule and my work schedule, one of us was always home with the girls and we rarely had to pay for childcare.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Now, between my restaurant, the rent from the houses and apartments, and some investments, Hailey and I were pretty comfortable.</p> <p>There was recently a fire at my restaurant and we&#39;re going to be out of business for a while. On top of that, one of my apartments flooded and the repairs aren&#39;t cheap.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Hailey walked in on me and Amy talking about our financial situation and budgeting. She asked what we were doing and I said that Amy and I were trying to find ways that we could save money. She asked why we were doing that and I told her that with the fire and flood, money&#39;s tight right now and told her that we&#39;ll be okay in a few months.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She asked a few questions and offered to sell some of her toys and set up a lemonade stand to help out. I explained that this is between the grown ups and that we just won&#39;t be able to go toy shopping or go out to eat too often and we may have to postpone our trip to Disneyland. She said okay and went back to her room.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>The second Hailey left, Amy laid into me for telling Hailey about my financial situation and said that she&#39;s too young to know these things. In my opinion, telling an 8 year old &quot;mommy&#39;s not making that much money right now so we can&#39;t go out to eat or get new toys that much. Everything&#39;s gonna go back to normal in a few months&quot; isn&#39;t going to scar them for life.</p> <p>AITA for telling my daughter that we&#39;re having financial problems?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). Kids pick up on things. You explained she had no reason to be concerned about food, shelter, or other necessities, just that you&rsquo;d need to be more careful with money. What you described sounded age appropriate and reassuring to me. Follow up with her as needed to make sure she&rsquo;s okay and not overly worried. - MindyMouse326</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I think you offered an excellent age-appropriate answer to your daughter&rsquo;s question. You also showed her you would always be honest when she asks you something. Plus Amy has zero say in how you raise your own daughter. - PotatoLover-3000</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You explained the situation in an age appropriate way without bombarding her. Kids need to learn about finances&mdash;the good and the bad. It shouldn&rsquo;t be some taboo subject. Too many people avoid the topic and then their children are clueless when they reach adulthood. - holyylemons</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>You do not engage kids on adult matters that are beyond her comprehension. Her wanting to sell her toys is a clear sign that she will worry and she can get anxiety over it - Majestic-Fix8638</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole). I was also a kid who knew about my parent&rsquo;s finances and financial problems at an early age. To say that it affected my anxiety, my sense of self worth, and my sense of security is an understatement. You need to teach your child coping skills first before you start ruining her innocence. Your kid isn&rsquo;t even in the double digits, not even 10 years old. C&rsquo;mon. Let your kid be a kid while they can. - artsyjpg</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were divided for this one, most people agreed that this mom wasn&#39;t wrong to be honest with her daughter about finances, but she should certainly keep a close eye on her as the offer to sell her toys is potentially worrisome. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong to share her financial problems with 8-year-old daughter.

Finding age-appropriate ways to explain adult challenges or concepts to children can be a struggle for parents, but sometimes honesty is the only healthy option...Lying to kids in order to protect their innocence can sometimes cause more problems down the road as children are incredibly intuitive little sponges. While they might not understand the stress of having to pay bills on time, if the family budget has to tighten for awhile in order to make ends meet, explaining that to your kids can be an important and valuable life lesson.However, finding the balance between introducing adult subjects to kids without burdening them with grown-up responsibilities or worries can be a delicate task. It&#39;s necessary to remember that every child is different and as long as kids are happy, safe, and loved, respecting different parenting styles and choices is key. So, when a concerned mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to tell her 8-year-old daughter the truth about their financial situation after her best friend disapproved, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for telling my daughter we&#39;re having financial problems? I (36f) adopted my niece Hailey (8f) when she was 14 months old. Hailey is beautiful, kind, and smart and is the best thing that&#39;s ever happened to me. I own my own restaurant and the shutdowns affected us but I rent out a few houses and apartments so I still had an income and my best friend Amy (36f) and her daughter Grace (7f) moved in with us in January because she wanted to go back to school and wanted to save money. This arrangement was perfect because with her school schedule and my work schedule, one of us was always home with the girls and we rarely had to pay for childcare.   Now, between my restaurant, the rent from the houses and apartments, and some investments, Hailey and I were pretty comfortable. There was recently a fire at my restaurant and we&#39;re going to be out of business for a while. On top of that, one of my apartments flooded and the repairs aren&#39;t cheap.   Hailey walked in on me and Amy talking about our financial situation and budgeting. She asked what we were doing and I said that Amy and I were trying to find ways that we could save money. She asked why we were doing that and I told her that with the fire and flood, money&#39;s tight right now and told her that we&#39;ll be okay in a few months.   She asked a few questions and offered to sell some of her toys and set up a lemonade stand to help out. I explained that this is between the grown ups and that we just won&#39;t be able to go toy shopping or go out to eat too often and we may have to postpone our trip to Disneyland. She said okay and went back to her room.   The second Hailey left, Amy laid into me for telling Hailey about my financial situation and said that she&#39;s too young to know these things. In my opinion, telling an 8 year old &quot;mommy&#39;s not making that much money right now so we can&#39;t go out to eat or get new toys that much. Everything&#39;s gonna go back to normal in a few months&quot; isn&#39;t going to scar them for life. AITA for telling my daughter that we&#39;re having financial problems? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). Kids pick up on things. You explained she had no reason to be concerned about food, shelter, or other necessities, just that you&rsquo;d need to be more careful with money. What you described sounded age appropriate and reassuring to me. Follow up with her as needed to make sure she&rsquo;s okay and not overly worried. - MindyMouse326   NTA. I think you offered an excellent age-appropriate answer to your daughter&rsquo;s question. You also showed her you would always be honest when she asks you something. Plus Amy has zero say in how you raise your own daughter. - PotatoLover-3000   NTA. You explained the situation in an age appropriate way without bombarding her. Kids need to learn about finances&mdash;the good and the bad. It shouldn&rsquo;t be some taboo subject. Too many people avoid the topic and then their children are clueless when they reach adulthood. - holyylemons   You do not engage kids on adult matters that are beyond her comprehension. Her wanting to sell her toys is a clear sign that she will worry and she can get anxiety over it - Majestic-Fix8638   YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole). I was also a kid who knew about my parent&rsquo;s finances and financial problems at an early age. To say that it affected my anxiety, my sense of self worth, and my sense of security is an understatement. You need to teach your child coping skills first before you start ruining her innocence. Your kid isn&rsquo;t even in the double digits, not even 10 years old. C&rsquo;mon. Let your kid be a kid while they can. - artsyjpg So, there you have it!While the opinions were divided for this one, most people agreed that this mom wasn&#39;t wrong to be honest with her daughter about finances, but she should certainly keep a close eye on her as the offer to sell her toys is potentially worrisome. Good luck, everyone!

Finding age-appropriate ways to explain adult challenges or concepts to children can be a struggle for parents, but sometimes honesty is the only healthy option...  Lying to kids in order to protect their innocence can sometimes cause more...