Mom asks if she was wrong to be upset with husband for slacking off on Mother's Day.

Relaxing on Mother's Day can be extra important for moms with young children who have to also get their own mothers a gift while reminding their partner to send flowers to their mother as well...Juggling all the cards, mimosas, homemade crayon "paintings" from the 3-year-old and still finding time to relax and enjoy your day as a mom can be difficult if your partner isn't aware or considerate. Being a mother often comes with a string of steady daily stress, and sitting back for one day while not worrying about cutting the crust off a sandwich, wrangling appointments, or cleaning a mountain of spiky toys off the floor is necessary.So, when a frustrated and conflicted mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the Asshole?" about her husband's seriously shady behavior on Mother's Day, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for expecting my husband to prioritize me on Mother’s Day? This Mother’s Day we had to hop around to 3 different houses in order to see everybody since it was all broken up. With 2 young kids needless to say it was a busy day. My husband let me sleep in and made cards with the boys, but I feel like that was pretty much the end of my Mother’s Day and the beginning of everybody else’s. I made breakfast, I had the kids when he went out for what should’ve been a 10 minute grocery run that turned into an hour. I ran around with the kids while he ate lunch, drank beer, and hung out with his family. I fed the kids dinner when we were at my grandma's and I was up and down keeping them from getting into everything. Whatever, typical day, nothing new. And I’m not upset about being a mom and taking care of my kids, I never would be I just felt like Mother’s Day I should get more of a break. But the kicker for me was the end of the day. We got home around 7 and he goes to bed around 8 to be up early for work. We talked about just watching tv together once we got home and just relax till we had to get ready for bed. He said he was going to bring our neighbor a street behind us something real quick. He was there for an HOUR. I called and texted with no responses. When he finally got back I was very upset and on the verge of tears, he said I was being dramatic and I told him I just felt like I should be more of a priority on Mother’s Day. He said “Why, you’re not my mom, you’re their mom and they’re already asleep” so I got even more upset and he said I was being dramatic and a b*tch for bitching him out over something so stupid. Edit: No, I did not spell out what I wanted, my older son is 3, and he was born in Feb, so this is my 4th Mother’s Day as a mother. Every year prior has not been like this, he interacts with the kids more, does his best to let me relax, and he shows me that he appreciates me. I don’t ask for the world, and I would’ve been just fine with the rest of the day had we just spent the last of it together like he proposed, but leaving me to hang out with the neighbor just felt like the straw that broke the camels back. He is the one who brought up just watching a show together before bed because it had been a long day. We both knew we’d be hopping around, and we typically go somewhere, so that wasn’t even a huge issue it just made it a long day. Our relationship was extremely toxic in the beginning. Much much worse, but he had open heart surgery and almost died, and after he woke up from his coma it was like a light switched and he turned into a completely different person. He was a much better other half and father. And looking back on the past couple years I have noticed he’s been slipping back into the past him, but I guess since it was small stuff over time I didn’t even realize, and since it’s still much better than it was before I didn’t realize how bad it still is. Here's what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) you are the MOTHER of his and your children. “You’re not my mom” is the most asinine excuse for not treating you special for one damn day. And I am sick of hearing it. And I’m not even, or ever will be a mother. - Servantofbosco NTA Father’s Day is coming up! Remind him he’s not your dad - oh-potato NTA His reaction was ridiculously cruel and I hope that’s out of character for him. If he’s normally a nice guy and being a jerk is a super rare occurrence for him, it could be worth taking a moment when you’re both calm to discuss expectations around Mother’s Day. I get that there are family obligations but there’s no reason at all you shouldn’t be spending at least 80% of the day doing what YOU want. A reasonable guy would be receptive to this and if he reacts like he did in your post again it might be worth scheduling in some counseling. - 8BananaPancakes NTA, you just want to be appreciated as a mother and even though you are not HIS mother, you are still the mother of HIS children and he was not showing appreciation towards you in that role. - nerdstramomus Nope! The mother of your children is always more important. - Oatcap NTA your hubby's behavior is very disrespectful. My mother taught me that Mother's Day was for Mothers. So on Mother's Day we go away: out with friends, spa, massage, whatever. Next Mother's Day get up before he does, leave a note that you'll be back at 9pm. "Taking the day off for Mother's Day - thanks and have fun with the kids". Don't answer your phone. Enjoy. Do the bare minimum for Father's Day. - No-Cloud-1928 So, there you have it!Everyone was in full agreement that this mom was not at all wrong for expecting her husband to step it up on Mother's Day, but the disrespectful behavior and name-calling definitely crossed a line. Good luck, everyone!