There is no rule book for how family should function, you can't choose who your parents are, and carving out healthy relationships often requires stepping back and making decisions for yourself. Still, life is easier when you're able to keep the peace, so finding ways to navigate complicated parental relationships is usually the move.
Maintaining a healthy parental relationship into adulthood is extra challenging when they want to impose their world view onto your relationships.
AITA for staying in touch with, and giving money to, the daughter my mom gave up for adoption?
When OP's mom was 20, she gave up a baby girl for adoption. Years later, she married and gave birth to OP.
So, my mom got pregnant when she was 20 and gave the baby up for adoption. Years later she met my dad, got married and had me.
About six months ago, Sarah, the daughter OP's mom gave up for adoption, reached out in order to connect and meet her biological family.