Dividing up household chores and childcare duties is different for every couple depending on careers, workload, skills, and what each parent prefers. However, if a couple agrees to share the bulk of childcare equally and then one person is stuck waking up every night while the other one sleeps soundly, things can escalate into the disaster-zone.
So, when a frustrated new mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole?" about her husband's "jokes" about their division of childcare responsibilities, people were quick to deem a verdict.
Context: I (F33) and husband (M37) had a baby 5 months ago. He really wanted kids, I was on the fence. However, I am the one who does 99% of the baby stuff. Asking him to do something is like pulling teeth sometimes. He keeps making jokes like he doesn't need to do stuff, he has a wife for that, or he can't do something, he's holding the baby. But when I have her I'm expected to do everything?!