17 people share the subtle signs that helped them discover a secret affair.

Did you really think nobody in the office would notice that you gaze longingly with real life heart-eye emoji faces across the room all day at each other? It happens to the best of us...

Stolen glances, secretive carpools, mysterious interactions in the break room...two people who are newly in love are famously horrible at trying to hide it. So, when a Reddit user asked, 'What's a tell-tale sign two people are having a secret sexual relationship with each other?' people were ready to share the subtle signals or blazing red flags that are dead giveaways that two people are hooking up. Yes, the entire bar staff knows you're sleeping with the new waitress...

1.

I was at a BBQ with dozens of people. A young ridiculously beautiful married couple was there. The wife was pregnant. They brought their short, squat, funnyman roommate with them. At some point funny man and pregnant wife are on opposite sides of the kitchen and I caught a glance between them - no more than a blink of an eye.

It was the only interaction they had all night. In that instant I have never been more sure two people were f*cking. Told my girlfriend, 'Those two are smashing', she told me to stop being a creep. Sure enough 6 months later everyone finds out and funnyman is the dad. - illepic

2.

Physical closeness. Princess Margaret was (accurately) accused of having an affair after wiping some fluff/dust off of a married man’s suit jacket - Solidus27

3.

If it’s at work, they are both happy - herenow1234

4.

They start using each other’s speech mannerisms. Like one of them always replies to something you say to them with, “Is that right?” and then you hear your wife saying it all the time after you get back from a week long work trip. - Alaska_Roy

5.

The little conversational clues. Like when two people glance knowingly at each other frequently, or have friendly little side whispers because they have their own thing going on apart from the group. And they hover near each other to be physically close. All those little examples of intimacy that is only between them.

A married ex-friend of mine once started showing up with a woman and acting like that. I could tell they were banging, and I couldn't believe he wasn't trying harder to conceal it. Turns out, the poor woman had no idea he was married, and was unaware that everyone else DID know.

It was later traumatizing to her to realize she had been seen as a mistress, when she was the only person who didn't know what was really happening. She's now a friend of mine. He is not. - icybikes

6.

From personal experience - was hooking up with a coworker and she'd bring her dog into the office. Her dog started sitting under my desk everyday and we were exposed - chipdoyle

7.

These two I used to work with, they got found out because a skunk sprayed outside the guys house real bad. The next day they came in to work separately and ignored each other as usual, but they both smelled like skunk. Then everyone knew, but they didn’t know we knew. - sevenandseven41

8.

Pay attention to who they look at when they laugh. It may not reveal a sexual relationship necessarily, but it’s such an innocent act that at the very least reveals that they want to ensure they are connected it that moment. - ChoppyChug

9.

Carpooling when there is not much convenience to it because they don't live all that close to each other. - EatinSumGrapes

10.

I’ve caught people because they didn’t follow one another on social media to try to avoid suspicion, but they both posted that they were at the same place and similar photos, and despite not posting about one another, it was obvious. They didn’t know what the other was posting because they didn’t follow one another lmfao which ultimately lead to the downfall of their discretion. - tabruss

11.

A bunch of us used to hang out on a Teamspeak server to play games. One day we were chatting when the server admin just blurted out: 'So [guy] and [girl], you two have the same IP address today. You f*cking?' - MynOlie

12.

I work in HR and someone dropped an anonymous tip once that a member of senior management was sleeping with a female subordinate. So IT gave me access to their emails… and I swear to god, the moment I read “I can still smell you on my fingers”, I immediately wanted to quit HR. - jjjjennyandthebets

13.

If you know them before it they’ll stop flirting as much as they had been prior to it. They make sure they don’t leave a place together but linger around long enough to know when the other is leaving. They look at each other when something funny or bad happens. - Acrobatic-Report958

14.

Their orbits are smaller around each other. Without meaning to, they will change their personal space requirements with the other. They'll think they're normal distance away, but won't be. Also, they'll move around each other too easily (like in small spaces) without the awkward missteps the rest of us make. - Stmpnksarwall

15.

They get awkward if you come up to them when they are together. I just want coffee and you’re standing in front of the machine and I didn’t think anything was going on until you got all awkward. You’re allowed to be friends and stand here and talk. - royal_rose

16.

Staring. I was secretly seeing a guy in school. As far as everyone else was concerned we couldn’t stand each other. This girl I barely knew pulled me aside and whispered “I don’t know what’s going on between you two but you need to stop staring or everyone else is going to know.”

Later on he wanted to know what the girl said to me. I wasn’t about to admit she noticed my staring, so I said “she thinks there’s something going on with us because you keep staring at me!” - _halboro

17.

Our CEO coming into a meeting to grab something from the QA/RA lady's purse was one a few of us saw once. - katzohki