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<h2>Bad jokes that you pay to listen to are bad enough. But what if you get them when you paid for something completely different? Like, an education, for example?</h2><p>When a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/vnjb2e/aita_for_snapping_back_at_my_teacher_who_started/?sort=top">frustrated college student clapped back</a> at her professor for his outdated and offensive bits, she made waves in the department. But before things got worse, she came to Reddit to tell her story and genuinely ask if she was wrong in the situation. Luckily, Reddit provides. Here is her tale:</p><h2>&quot;AITA (Am I the as*hole) for snapping back at my teacher who started every class with &#39;Hi Guys... and OP&#39; and made icky jokes about women?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>I am in a college class with all guys except for me, it&#39;s a small summer class on processor architecture. And every class my professor says &quot;Hi guys... And OP&quot; and it is so cringy and weird, like everyone knows you can just call a mixed gender group &quot;guys&quot; without making it weird. He also makes random weird sexist jokes in class but at least they&#39;re not directed at me by name.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>So after a few weeks of that, I replied and called back &quot;Hiii people who treat me like a person... Aaand Professor Jones&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Lol. Perfect.</h2><blockquote> <p>He told me to leave the room and I stayed put and told him I was paying for an education, not an outdated comedy special about &#39;hurr hurr women, amirite?&#39; so let&#39;s just drop it and focus on the education thing.</p> </blockquote><h2>Harsh, but fair. (I say that as a comedian)</h2><blockquote> <p>He got irritated and said he was asking me to leave. And I said I&#39;d paid my tuition and I was asking him to be a professional, to do his job and teach. And if he was getting emotional about a joke, maybe he shouldn&#39;t dish it if he can&#39;t take it&quot; He said he was going to speak to the department head and I said &quot;okay, I hope she likes hearing all your little jokes&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>Ha ha ha because you know she won&#39;t.</h2><blockquote> <p>I did end up sitting through the class because there&#39;s no way I&#39;m paying thousands to take classes and not getting that. But.. I feel like I kinda lost my temper and was more hostile than I should of been. I should of just emailed the department myself instead of starting an argument in class.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>I mean, it&#39;s bold to stay in class like that. I will leave a room if the vibes are even slightly off.</h2><blockquote> <p>But afterwards I did, I actually had a group chat with a few friends from my degree program who I&#39;d always text &quot;you will not believe what he said today...&quot; And then quote it and vent. So I grabbed all those screenshots and emailed the department myself to get ahead of things.</p> </blockquote><h2>Good thinking!</h2><blockquote> <p>But I feel kinda like a d*ck for sh*t talking my professor in class and then doubling down, I feel like that was kinda immature. AITA (Am I the as*hole) for saying what I did in class?</p> </blockquote><h2>We&#39;ve all had those professors we wanted to tell off, but is it right (or advisable) to actually do it? Was OP standing up for women, or was she being disrespectful?</h2><p>The decision came in unanimously: OP is officially NTA (not the as*hole), and here are the top comments why:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA - Your professor was totally unprofessional. (I&#39;m sure you are WELL AWARE of the fact you are the only woman in the class without him pointing it out). You are 100% spot on in your responses. However: you may have made an enemy by standing up to him, so good thing you&rsquo;re getting ahead of it and be prepared to go further up the ladder than dept. head. This will be important especially if he tries to give you bad grades (or worse) as a way of getting back at you. - <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Seemoreifsandsorbuts/">Seemoreifsandsorbuts</a></p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>You are my hero, really lol. Now in my early 30s I still remember what&rsquo;s like to be in awe and sometimes intimidated by a few &ldquo;cocky&rdquo; professors that, as you mentioned, had wildly over inflated egos and misconstrued ideas about their &ldquo;control&rdquo; over students. Wish I could go back with what I know now and give a few of them a piece of my mind though :) - <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Javi_Owler/">Javi_Owler</a></p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Female Professor here. OP, it is people like your prof who are the reason why there are so few females in your classes. Studies have shown that all of the things women, especially in the sciences, face often exhaust them to the point of leaving the profession. The things we face include microaggressions, blatant sexism, being passed over for jobs/promotions, and lower pay. The only way this will end is if we do not give up and let those bastards win.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Fight the good fight OP. Report him to your University, don&#39;t let him continue to get away with this shit. Talk to female Professors in the department, I bet his behavior is well known. - <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/bissastar/">bissastar</a></p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Was it the smartest move? Probably not. It certainly wasn&rsquo;t the most diplomatic. But you don&rsquo;t really owe diplomacy to someone who keeps going out of his way to single you out in ways that make it clear he views your outlier status negatively and isn&rsquo;t going to treat you fairly or with respect.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The fact he couldn&rsquo;t come up with an explanation for why he keeps pulling his little routine that didn&rsquo;t deny your accusations of sexism just proves it. Time to actually take that to the department head before he <em>does</em> try anything to f*ck up your grade, though. - <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mm172/">mm172</a></p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Well, there it is, folks. Nothing wrong with a dumb joke here and there, but if someone calls it out for being inappropriate - and especially if they do it <em><strong>funnier</strong></em> than you - just admit you were wrong and move on.</h2><p>And try to laugh with them, if you can. It&#39;s a <em>much</em> better look.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Student asks if she was wrong to 'snap back' at professor for making sexist jokes.

Bad jokes that you pay to listen to are bad enough. But what if you get them when you paid for something completely different? Like, an education, for example?When a frustrated college student clapped back at her professor for his outdated and offensive bits, she made waves in the department. But before things got worse, she came to Reddit to tell her story and genuinely ask if she was wrong in the situation. Luckily, Reddit provides. Here is her tale:&quot;AITA (Am I the as*hole) for snapping back at my teacher who started every class with &#39;Hi Guys... and OP&#39; and made icky jokes about women?&quot; I am in a college class with all guys except for me, it&#39;s a small summer class on processor architecture. And every class my professor says &quot;Hi guys... And OP&quot; and it is so cringy and weird, like everyone knows you can just call a mixed gender group &quot;guys&quot; without making it weird. He also makes random weird sexist jokes in class but at least they&#39;re not directed at me by name.   So after a few weeks of that, I replied and called back &quot;Hiii people who treat me like a person... Aaand Professor Jones&quot; Lol. Perfect. He told me to leave the room and I stayed put and told him I was paying for an education, not an outdated comedy special about &#39;hurr hurr women, amirite?&#39; so let&#39;s just drop it and focus on the education thing. Harsh, but fair. (I say that as a comedian) He got irritated and said he was asking me to leave. And I said I&#39;d paid my tuition and I was asking him to be a professional, to do his job and teach. And if he was getting emotional about a joke, maybe he shouldn&#39;t dish it if he can&#39;t take it&quot; He said he was going to speak to the department head and I said &quot;okay, I hope she likes hearing all your little jokes&quot; Ha ha ha because you know she won&#39;t. I did end up sitting through the class because there&#39;s no way I&#39;m paying thousands to take classes and not getting that. But.. I feel like I kinda lost my temper and was more hostile than I should of been. I should of just emailed the department myself instead of starting an argument in class. I mean, it&#39;s bold to stay in class like that. I will leave a room if the vibes are even slightly off. But afterwards I did, I actually had a group chat with a few friends from my degree program who I&#39;d always text &quot;you will not believe what he said today...&quot; And then quote it and vent. So I grabbed all those screenshots and emailed the department myself to get ahead of things. Good thinking! But I feel kinda like a d*ck for sh*t talking my professor in class and then doubling down, I feel like that was kinda immature. AITA (Am I the as*hole) for saying what I did in class? We&#39;ve all had those professors we wanted to tell off, but is it right (or advisable) to actually do it? Was OP standing up for women, or was she being disrespectful?The decision came in unanimously: OP is officially NTA (not the as*hole), and here are the top comments why: NTA - Your professor was totally unprofessional. (I&#39;m sure you are WELL AWARE of the fact you are the only woman in the class without him pointing it out). You are 100% spot on in your responses. However: you may have made an enemy by standing up to him, so good thing you&rsquo;re getting ahead of it and be prepared to go further up the ladder than dept. head. This will be important especially if he tries to give you bad grades (or worse) as a way of getting back at you. - Seemoreifsandsorbuts   You are my hero, really lol. Now in my early 30s I still remember what&rsquo;s like to be in awe and sometimes intimidated by a few &ldquo;cocky&rdquo; professors that, as you mentioned, had wildly over inflated egos and misconstrued ideas about their &ldquo;control&rdquo; over students. Wish I could go back with what I know now and give a few of them a piece of my mind though :) - Javi_Owler   Female Professor here. OP, it is people like your prof who are the reason why there are so few females in your classes. Studies have shown that all of the things women, especially in the sciences, face often exhaust them to the point of leaving the profession. The things we face include microaggressions, blatant sexism, being passed over for jobs/promotions, and lower pay. The only way this will end is if we do not give up and let those bastards win.  Fight the good fight OP. Report him to your University, don&#39;t let him continue to get away with this shit. Talk to female Professors in the department, I bet his behavior is well known. - bissastar   NTA. Was it the smartest move? Probably not. It certainly wasn&rsquo;t the most diplomatic. But you don&rsquo;t really owe diplomacy to someone who keeps going out of his way to single you out in ways that make it clear he views your outlier status negatively and isn&rsquo;t going to treat you fairly or with respect.  The fact he couldn&rsquo;t come up with an explanation for why he keeps pulling his little routine that didn&rsquo;t deny your accusations of sexism just proves it. Time to actually take that to the department head before he does try anything to f*ck up your grade, though. - mm172 Well, there it is, folks. Nothing wrong with a dumb joke here and there, but if someone calls it out for being inappropriate - and especially if they do it funnier than you - just admit you were wrong and move on.And try to laugh with them, if you can. It&#39;s a much better look.

Bad jokes that you pay to listen to are bad enough. But what if you get them when you paid for something completely different? Like, an education, for example?  When a frustrated college student clapped back at her professor for his...