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<h2>Is there ever a situation in which slut shaming is somewhat justified?</h2><p>When a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about her perhaps shameful display at her friend&#39;s cousin&#39;s wedding, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/vtcyhu/aita_for_calling_the_bride_a_slut_at_the_wedding/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for calling the bride a slut at the wedding reception?</h2><blockquote> <p>I (22F) went to a wedding recently, for my friend&#39;s (22F) cousin. My friend brought me along for emotional support since she was being forced to go. My friend didn&#39;t like her cousin at all, because simply put, the cousin is horrible to my friend.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She would make fun of my friend&#39;s appearance, which included anything from weight, hair, skin, etc, despite my friend being drop dead gorgeous.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>This has led to her having major self esteem issues. On top of that, there is a 10 year age gap between my friend and her cousin (32F), meaning it was literally, at one point an adult bullying a child. Friend&#39;s cousin is also just an awful person in general, the quintessential racist &quot;but I have Black friends&quot; mean girl who gossips, and fights with everyone.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>However, my friend&#39;s parents believe that family is forever no matter what, so she was dragged to the wedding, meaning I got dragged along as well. The ceremony happened and we move to the reception.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Everything was going surprisingly smoothly, until I started dancing with one of the groomsmen on the dance floor. Bride didn&#39;t like this apparently. I know because she came up to me and asked me what the hell I thought I was doing. I was confused and asked her what she meant.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She asked me why the hell I was &quot;all over HIM&quot;, him meaning the groomsman. I didn&#39;t know why she was upset about it, after all, she had a new husband that she should be celebrating with. My friend intervened after she noticed the bride talking to me angrily.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Bride/her cousin turned to my friend and asked her why she &quot;brought this slut to her wedding.&quot; I wasn&#39;t too surprised given the stories I&#39;ve heard about her, but nevertheless, that still stung. My friend told her back off and not say that to me. Bride said that I was indeed a slut for dancing with the groomsman.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My friend explained to me that the groomsman that I was dancing with was her ex- boyfriend. I turned to bride and told her that she just got married to another man so it wasn&#39;t like she wanted her ex back. She then told me that the chances are still high, and that I have no right to put my hands on him.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I laughed and said &quot;Ohhh, so you&#39;re the one who&#39;s actually a slut!&quot; Bride lost it, screaming at me, cussing at me, crying, while her husband was trying to escort her away, and all the while I was laughing my a*s off. I had a few drinks then. My friend had escorted me away back to our table.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Now that the alcohol has worn off, I feel like I may be the a*shole for saying that to the bride at the reception, as much as I hate her. According to my friend, she has been getting calls and texts from angry family members asking the both of us how we could ruin the bride&#39;s big day. So, AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>While there isn&#39;t anything specifically in the wedding etiquette handbook about causing a scene at the reception and calling the bride names, we can assume it&#39;s behavior that&#39;s generally frowned upon in Wedding 101...</h2><p>This situation is complicated because the bride technically started this hilarious dance floor fiasco, though. Getting jealous that someone is dancing with your ex at your own wedding because there&#39;s a &quot;high chance&quot; you&#39;ll get back together is a truly bizarre but almost impressive move. Cheers to blazing red flags for her groom! I give this marriage a beautiful six months tops.</p><h2>Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this glorious wedding drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m sorry, did the BRIDE, at HER OWN WEDDING say that the chances were HIGH that she&#39;d GET BACK TOGETHER WITH THE GROOMSMAN EX-BOYFRIEND? Sounds like you just called a spade a spade. While not exactly the most &#39;mature&#39; or &#39;polite&#39;....NTA. - KingRhiot</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. The bride should have had literally 0 concern for her ex at her wedding and then to imply that she might get back with him?? Ya you were justified in clapping back. She ruined her own night, not you. - Blonde-Engineer-3</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA- I think you found the only circumstance on earth where I would say calling the bride a slut doesn&rsquo;t make you TA. Well done. Tell your buddy to put her phone in a drawer until this blows over. - ChakraMama318</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Me, &ldquo;I&rsquo;m absolutely totally utterly against slut shaming in any circumstance of any kind ever&rdquo;. Me, reads this post, &ldquo;well, now I come to think of it&hellip;&rdquo; NTA. - HistoryOfViolets_</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this young woman isn&#39;t at all in the wrong for defending herself and simply having fun at a wedding. Sure, she could&#39;ve held back, slowed down on the drinks and chosen the high road, but what&#39;s the fun in that? Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Wedding guest asks if she was wrong to drunkenly call the bride names at reception.

Is there ever a situation in which slut shaming is somewhat justified?When a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about her perhaps shameful display at her friend&#39;s cousin&#39;s wedding, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for calling the bride a slut at the wedding reception? I (22F) went to a wedding recently, for my friend&#39;s (22F) cousin. My friend brought me along for emotional support since she was being forced to go. My friend didn&#39;t like her cousin at all, because simply put, the cousin is horrible to my friend.   She would make fun of my friend&#39;s appearance, which included anything from weight, hair, skin, etc, despite my friend being drop dead gorgeous.   This has led to her having major self esteem issues. On top of that, there is a 10 year age gap between my friend and her cousin (32F), meaning it was literally, at one point an adult bullying a child. Friend&#39;s cousin is also just an awful person in general, the quintessential racist &quot;but I have Black friends&quot; mean girl who gossips, and fights with everyone.   However, my friend&#39;s parents believe that family is forever no matter what, so she was dragged to the wedding, meaning I got dragged along as well. The ceremony happened and we move to the reception.   Everything was going surprisingly smoothly, until I started dancing with one of the groomsmen on the dance floor. Bride didn&#39;t like this apparently. I know because she came up to me and asked me what the hell I thought I was doing. I was confused and asked her what she meant.   She asked me why the hell I was &quot;all over HIM&quot;, him meaning the groomsman. I didn&#39;t know why she was upset about it, after all, she had a new husband that she should be celebrating with. My friend intervened after she noticed the bride talking to me angrily.   Bride/her cousin turned to my friend and asked her why she &quot;brought this slut to her wedding.&quot; I wasn&#39;t too surprised given the stories I&#39;ve heard about her, but nevertheless, that still stung. My friend told her back off and not say that to me. Bride said that I was indeed a slut for dancing with the groomsman.   My friend explained to me that the groomsman that I was dancing with was her ex- boyfriend. I turned to bride and told her that she just got married to another man so it wasn&#39;t like she wanted her ex back. She then told me that the chances are still high, and that I have no right to put my hands on him.   I laughed and said &quot;Ohhh, so you&#39;re the one who&#39;s actually a slut!&quot; Bride lost it, screaming at me, cussing at me, crying, while her husband was trying to escort her away, and all the while I was laughing my a*s off. I had a few drinks then. My friend had escorted me away back to our table.   Now that the alcohol has worn off, I feel like I may be the a*shole for saying that to the bride at the reception, as much as I hate her. According to my friend, she has been getting calls and texts from angry family members asking the both of us how we could ruin the bride&#39;s big day. So, AITA? While there isn&#39;t anything specifically in the wedding etiquette handbook about causing a scene at the reception and calling the bride names, we can assume it&#39;s behavior that&#39;s generally frowned upon in Wedding 101...This situation is complicated because the bride technically started this hilarious dance floor fiasco, though. Getting jealous that someone is dancing with your ex at your own wedding because there&#39;s a &quot;high chance&quot; you&#39;ll get back together is a truly bizarre but almost impressive move. Cheers to blazing red flags for her groom! I give this marriage a beautiful six months tops.Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this glorious wedding drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: I&#39;m sorry, did the BRIDE, at HER OWN WEDDING say that the chances were HIGH that she&#39;d GET BACK TOGETHER WITH THE GROOMSMAN EX-BOYFRIEND? Sounds like you just called a spade a spade. While not exactly the most &#39;mature&#39; or &#39;polite&#39;....NTA. - KingRhiot   NTA. The bride should have had literally 0 concern for her ex at her wedding and then to imply that she might get back with him?? Ya you were justified in clapping back. She ruined her own night, not you. - Blonde-Engineer-3   NTA- I think you found the only circumstance on earth where I would say calling the bride a slut doesn&rsquo;t make you TA. Well done. Tell your buddy to put her phone in a drawer until this blows over. - ChakraMama318   Me, &ldquo;I&rsquo;m absolutely totally utterly against slut shaming in any circumstance of any kind ever&rdquo;. Me, reads this post, &ldquo;well, now I come to think of it&hellip;&rdquo; NTA. - HistoryOfViolets_ So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this young woman isn&#39;t at all in the wrong for defending herself and simply having fun at a wedding. Sure, she could&#39;ve held back, slowed down on the drinks and chosen the high road, but what&#39;s the fun in that? Good luck, everyone!

Is there ever a situation in which slut shaming is somewhat justified?  When a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about her perhaps...