So, when a confused wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not they're wrong to refuse to pay for a wedding dish, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
My sixteen-year-old son and I went to a wedding. When we got the invitation, we both chose to order chicken for the main course. There was an option to select a kid's meal version of each dish, but I never considered ordering one for my son because he is too old for kid's meals. I sent in the RSVP card with our meal selections and never heard anything about it.
At the wedding, my son and I got our food, but the table was one chicken meal short. The waiter had a small plate of chicken fingers and fries, but everyone at the table told him it must be a mistake because we didn't have any kids sitting with us. The waiters were able to put together an extra chicken plate for the person who didn't get one, and it seemed all was well.
I later got a call from the bride's parents, who told me that the chicken fingers had been for my son, and that I had caused the caterer to charge them for the extra adult chicken meal. I told them my son had asked for the adult meal, but they said he should have had the kid's meal because he's under eighteen.
They said I should have known he was meant to have a kid's meal and that I should have asked for clarification if I wasn't sure. But I wasn't unsure, I never thought for a second that my son would have a kid's meal.
Ten and under I would think would have kid's meals and eleven to thirteen is questionable, but fourteen and up I would never think would have a kid's meal. The bride's parents told me it's normal for anyone under eighteen to get a kid's meal, but I've never heard of eighteen being the cutoff. I think it's rude to feed a sixteen year old a meal meant for a six year old.
WIBTA if I refused to pay for the extra meal and told them it was their mistake for changing my son's order? I know wedding meals are expensive, but I think this was their mistake.
Assuming that anyone under 18 would order off the kids' menu is a bizarre choice and an error of the venue, not the guests. That being said, catering can be a nightmare at weddings and the bride's frustration is justified. If this couple was planning on keeping everyone under 18 on a cheaper menu, they should've notified guests of that beforehand.
Serving a teenage boy a plate for a kid is a weird way to make your guests starve out on the dance floor. Luckily he's too young to hit up the open bar or he'd be hammered on beer one...
NTA ( Not the As*hole). I can’t believe they actually reached out to you about paying for the meal. How petty. A child’s meal is obviously not going to be sufficient for a 16 year old. Seriously. If you do think this is going to blow up and damage your friendship with the bride and groom, I’d suck it up and pay though. - Lady_Mog_Mog
NTA -- you told them what meal you were expecting. They knew what meal you were expecting. The confusion of them changing your son's order is what cost them money, not you
A) They could have clarified before the wedding your son would be getting a kids meal (still rude IMO, but it was possible to avoid confusion)
B) Most restaurants have a kids meal cut off of ~13. Maybe I'm crazy, but I feel like this applies to weddings...a sixteen year old eats as much food as a grown adult.
C) Calling you after the wedding and asking you to pay them back just feels tacky. Wedding meals get expensive but in the grand scheme of things, one extra meal is not the expense that sends them into bankruptcy compared to the cost of a wedding - thelostoneout
NTA. In no circumstance would I ever assume that a 16 year old boy would eat off a kids menu. The fact that they changed the order, and then expect you to pay is ridiculous. It sounds like they spent more than they could afford on this wedding and are trying to recoup some of the costs. This is beyond petty of them. - Fishface248
NTA 16 are not children. Seems like they were trying to nickle and dime there caterers - Amythist35
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this parent isn't at all wrong to refuse to pay for an accident as this was a mistake from the couple and the venue. Good luck, everyone!