So, when a conflicted redhead decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not she's wrong to refuse a bride's hair request, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
My future sister-in-law Liz has turned into a bridezilla and is going to war with everyone over every stupid thing. My natural color is red. I love my hair. Liz is a blonde, but she loves to have red hair and in fact ever since meeting me she's been dying her hair almost exactly my color.
I don't mind, I think it's weird that she does it but I don't have a monopoly over this particular shade of red and she's free to do with her hair whatever she wants.
Well, she asked me this week that I should dye my hair to a different color because she wants her hair to be unique in her wedding, she offered to cover all the costs as well. I just said no because it's my hair, I don't want it changed.
I told my brother and he told me to do whatever I want because it's my hair. He said he'll talk to Liz to get her to back off. Well it didn't work because Liz has come to my parents and they've taken her side!
They say it's her special day and we need to be more accomodating and it's important for our future relationship that we get along. I believe I am accomodating, she can do whatever she wants with her own hair! How is my hair any of her business anyway.
My parents tell me that I should be the bigger person. I don't know why an 18-year-old should be the bigger person compared to the 27-year-old Liz. They told me I'm making this minor issue into a big problem and I should just do what she wants because it's her wedding. AITA for not giving in?
If you genuinely want to sit in a salon chair for hours for a wedding then that's your hair and your choice, but forcing a guest or bridesmaid to change their natural hair color that grows freely from their own scalp just because you want to be the only redhead is truly unhinged, entitled nonsense.
Absolutely NTA (Not the As*hole)! Dying your hair + color correction to get back to your natural color + the amount of time it takes for your natural colored hair to grow out is a pain in the butt. - Madame_Corleone420
NTA if she wants to have original hair for her wedding maybe she should use her natural hair and not yours. It is absurd, rude and wrong to ask people in your wedding party to change their physical appearance for your wedding. There is no reason you should damage your hair for one day. - Fainora
NTA. Say ok and buy a blue or purple wig to wear - Erythronne
NTA - This is way out of bounds. She can semi-reasonably dictate what you wear and how you style your hair and/or makeup (if you're in the wedding party), but expecting you to alter your body in any way is completely out of line. Don't get bullied into this. - BleepBlipBlapBloop
Everyone agreed across the board here that this young woman isn't at all wrong to refuse to change her appearance for a wedding and if the bride insists on that shade of red, she'll simply have to handle that more than one redhead will be at her wedding. Good luck, everyone!