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<h2>Having a smooth and drama-free relationship with your in-laws is not always an easy feat, but sometimes one snide remark can send an otherwise friendly dynamic into a downward spiral of living room doom...</h2><p>Unfortunately for people battling disapproving in-laws, it&#39;s not always easy to get someone to stand up to their own parents. So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her mother-in-law&#39;s nasty comments concerning her finances, people were there to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/npwk3i/aita_for_flexing_my_wealth_to_my_mil_when_she/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for &ldquo;flexing&rdquo; my wealth to my mother-in-law when she called me a &#39;gold digger?&#39;</h2><blockquote> <p>Me and my husband grew up in very different families. My husband&#39;s father died when he was young and my mother-in-law and him struggled to meet ends meet. I grew up upper middle class and didn&#39;t struggle in life.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I make more than my husband and he doesn&rsquo;t mind. My MIL does mind. She believes the man should be working and the woman should stay at home, which I just don&rsquo;t like. I would rather work.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My MIL came to visit my husband and when I came back home with shopping bags she made a snarky remark like, &ldquo;Spending my son&#39;s money again.&quot; I said I used my own money plus we have separate finances except for a joint account we have. She said that was most likely fabricated, and that I was probably a gold digger.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I snapped back with the fact that I make more than her son does and that can&rsquo;t make me a gold digger. She just claimed that &quot;that&rsquo;s what an a gold digger would say,&quot; and to &quot;stop flexing my wealth&quot; before I kicked her out.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My husband said that it was rude and wants me to apologize and thinks I shouldn&rsquo;t have come home at all when his mother was here. He also said that I just can&rsquo;t kick her out. My MIL is now telling my in-laws a different story from what happened and painting me as the bad guy. I refuse to apologize though, does that me an as*hole?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole) but boy do you have a husband problem. Said you shouldn&#39;t have come home when his mom was there - IT&#39;S YOUR F*CKING HOME!!! If he wants to see his mom without you there he needs to see her at her place. Your husband has obviously never shut down his mom and told her to stop with this nonsense and frankly I wonder how he responds to her when you&#39;re not there.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When his mom was outright rude to you and calling you a liar, your husband just sat there and then wants you to apologize? Frankly I&#39;d be telling my husband he has three choices - he either stands up to his mother on your behalf, you find a marriage counselor, or you hire and attorney. - trilliumsummer</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>So...your MIL belittles you and calls you a &quot;gold digger&quot; when you&#39;re the breadwinner of the family, which makes that impossible, you defend yourself, and your husband&#39;s calling YOU the rude one? Did he stand up for you at all against your MIL? Why exactly are you married to this man? NTA. - nytefox42</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA - Who does she think she is, butting into your finances? Your anger should be towards your husband for not sticking up for you in your own house. His mother is rude, and the finances are none of her business. - baggleboots</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA, don&rsquo;t ever apologize for the disrespect both MIL and husband are giving you. You definitely weren&rsquo;t flexing your wealth since all you did was stating the facts, spending your own money and earning more than husband aka her precious son. If possible, try to let everyone know what truly happened and let them decide again who&rsquo;s truly right and wrong. This is definitely a hill worth dying on, else you&rsquo;ll face much more or worse insults in the future. - denasher</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this woman (and bread winner) was not at all wrong to kick her mother-in-law out for her disrespectful and inaccurate accusations, but she probably should have a serious discussion with her husband about why he refused to defend his wife. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she was wrong to kick out MIL who called her a 'gold digger.'

Having a smooth and drama-free relationship with your in-laws is not always an easy feat, but sometimes one snide remark can send an otherwise friendly dynamic into a downward spiral of living room doom...Unfortunately for people battling disapproving in-laws, it&#39;s not always easy to get someone to stand up to their own parents. So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her mother-in-law&#39;s nasty comments concerning her finances, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for &ldquo;flexing&rdquo; my wealth to my mother-in-law when she called me a &#39;gold digger?&#39; Me and my husband grew up in very different families. My husband&#39;s father died when he was young and my mother-in-law and him struggled to meet ends meet. I grew up upper middle class and didn&#39;t struggle in life.  I make more than my husband and he doesn&rsquo;t mind. My MIL does mind. She believes the man should be working and the woman should stay at home, which I just don&rsquo;t like. I would rather work.   My MIL came to visit my husband and when I came back home with shopping bags she made a snarky remark like, &ldquo;Spending my son&#39;s money again.&quot; I said I used my own money plus we have separate finances except for a joint account we have. She said that was most likely fabricated, and that I was probably a gold digger.   I snapped back with the fact that I make more than her son does and that can&rsquo;t make me a gold digger. She just claimed that &quot;that&rsquo;s what an a gold digger would say,&quot; and to &quot;stop flexing my wealth&quot; before I kicked her out.   My husband said that it was rude and wants me to apologize and thinks I shouldn&rsquo;t have come home at all when his mother was here. He also said that I just can&rsquo;t kick her out. My MIL is now telling my in-laws a different story from what happened and painting me as the bad guy. I refuse to apologize though, does that me an as*hole? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) but boy do you have a husband problem. Said you shouldn&#39;t have come home when his mom was there - IT&#39;S YOUR F*CKING HOME!!! If he wants to see his mom without you there he needs to see her at her place. Your husband has obviously never shut down his mom and told her to stop with this nonsense and frankly I wonder how he responds to her when you&#39;re not there.  When his mom was outright rude to you and calling you a liar, your husband just sat there and then wants you to apologize? Frankly I&#39;d be telling my husband he has three choices - he either stands up to his mother on your behalf, you find a marriage counselor, or you hire and attorney. - trilliumsummer   So...your MIL belittles you and calls you a &quot;gold digger&quot; when you&#39;re the breadwinner of the family, which makes that impossible, you defend yourself, and your husband&#39;s calling YOU the rude one? Did he stand up for you at all against your MIL? Why exactly are you married to this man? NTA. - nytefox42   NTA - Who does she think she is, butting into your finances? Your anger should be towards your husband for not sticking up for you in your own house. His mother is rude, and the finances are none of her business. - baggleboots   NTA, don&rsquo;t ever apologize for the disrespect both MIL and husband are giving you. You definitely weren&rsquo;t flexing your wealth since all you did was stating the facts, spending your own money and earning more than husband aka her precious son. If possible, try to let everyone know what truly happened and let them decide again who&rsquo;s truly right and wrong. This is definitely a hill worth dying on, else you&rsquo;ll face much more or worse insults in the future. - denasher So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this woman (and bread winner) was not at all wrong to kick her mother-in-law out for her disrespectful and inaccurate accusations, but she probably should have a serious discussion with her husband about why he refused to defend his wife. Good luck, everyone!

Having a smooth and drama-free relationship with your in-laws is not always an easy feat, but sometimes one snide remark can send an otherwise friendly dynamic into a downward spiral of living room doom...  Unfortunately for people...