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<p> </p><h2>Even when you&#39;re in a healthy and happy relationship, things can get complicated when you don&#39;t necessarily get along with your partner&#39;s family...</h2><p>Sometimes you can be fully in love with someone only to meet their family and wonder how the person you want to spend the rest of your life with could&#39;ve been raised by two people who seemingly hate everything you&#39;re doing and saying at the Thanksgiving table. While everyone hopes their in-laws welcome them into the family with open arms and a stiff cocktail, some families require a lot more work to warm up. Even if you&#39;re not baking cookies and going shopping with your mother-in-law every holiday, most people hope to have a smooth and pleasant relationship that at least isn&#39;t hostile or infamously passive-aggressive. Still, sometimes that is a lot easier said than done.</p><p>So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the internet&#39;s moral compass of Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her husband&#39;s family&#39;s constant teasing, people were quick to deem a verdict.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kslfg7/wibta_if_i_didnt_go_to_my_husbands_familys/">WIBTA</a> (Would I be the as*hole) if I didn&rsquo;t go to my husband&rsquo;s family&rsquo;s Christmas because they make fun of my stutter?</h2><blockquote> <p>My (28F) husband&rsquo;s (31M) parents (50s F/M) both had COVID over Christmas so we are celebrating Christmas this weekend. It will be smaller than it usually is. I believe it&rsquo;ll be his parents, aunts and uncles, a few of his cousins, and maybe his grandparents. Still a pretty large gathering and although most of his family has already had it, it still makes me a little nervous going.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>What makes me even more nervous is his family. His family likes to tease a lot. They usually just pick on little things like someone&rsquo;s outfit or something stupid someone said, but it feels different when it comes to me. They pick on my stutter a lot. They will mock it endlessly. Literally I cannot get a word out while I am there without them mocking it. I&rsquo;ll say, &ldquo;Would you l-like some more water?&rdquo; And his uncle will go, &ldquo;W-w-w-would y-y-y-oooou&rdquo; you get the point.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>It hurts a lot and when I say that, they will just act like I am out of line for being offended and use the excuse &ldquo;I&rsquo;m just messing with you.&rdquo; My FIL has said something a few times and my husband speaks up occasionally, but it&rsquo;s only when things get really bad. Like one time, his cousin asked a dinner if I &ldquo;stutter while we&rsquo;re f*cking&rdquo;. Then last year there was an incident where his uncle got me a present, but said I could only have it if I said a certain sentence without stuttering. Both my husband and FIL shut that down real fast. But the usual thing is to just tolerate it. It really hurts though and usually I end up just sitting somewhere away from the group a majority of the time.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I know that I&rsquo;m just being overly sensitive here, but I really don&rsquo;t want to go this year. I know my husband will be upset especially since I don&rsquo;t really have a good excuse for skipping out, but whenever we go to the holidays and parties, I always come home crying.</p> <p>WIBTA if I didn&rsquo;t go to my husband&rsquo;s family&rsquo;s Christmas because they make fun of my stutter?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole. Why would you want to attend any function where you become the object of ridicule. Your husband should be understanding especially if he sees the aftermath of you being upset. It feels like the one of these things, where your FIL and husband just hope for the best and only when things get really out of line. And it shouldn&#39;t matter because they are only teasing in good fun, it&#39;s obviously not fun for you. - Revolutionary-Bus448</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your husbands family are huge jerks. &quot;Just joking&quot; does not excuse repeated hurtful teasing. - Biteme75</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your husband&#39;s family members are all assholes, especially to you. Some teasing can be funny for both parties, but when they tease you about something you can&#39;t control, that&#39;s over the line. Especially after you tell them that you don&#39;t like it.</p> <p>If your husband doesn&#39;t understand why you don&#39;t want to go, there&#39;s a problem with him too. He really should be standing up for you more to his family. After all, they&#39;re <em>his</em> family. - nintendo_d_s</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. You need to be aggressive with them. Shut it down. When they say it&#39;s a joke, shame the sh*t out of them. You have to make them feel bad or they&#39;ll just keep doing it. Your husband needs to be backing you up with this too. For example, I would say, &#39;do you realize how f*cking rude you are being?!&#39; If it still doesn&#39;t stop, both of you get up and leave. - bonniebluest</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA That is so horrible! Your husbands family are idiots!! And he is an as*hole for allowing that to happen. The first time it happened he should have looked at you and said &ldquo;we are out of here.&rdquo; And then both of you should have left and told his family you will not be returning until they show you the respect that you deserve . Do not go and tell your as*hole husband that you refuse to be subjected to ridicule - 1890rafaella</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this woman wouldn&#39;t be wrong at all to refuse to attend her husband&#39;s family&#39;s belated Christmas gathering as they&#39;ve repeatedly shown her disrespect. However, she should probably also have a discussion with her husband about how he defends her at these gatherings as it is his family mocking her after all. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she’s wrong to ditch husband’s family get-together because they mock her stutter.

 Even when you&#39;re in a healthy and happy relationship, things can get complicated when you don&#39;t necessarily get along with your partner&#39;s family...Sometimes you can be fully in love with someone only to meet their family and wonder how the person you want to spend the rest of your life with could&#39;ve been raised by two people who seemingly hate everything you&#39;re doing and saying at the Thanksgiving table. While everyone hopes their in-laws welcome them into the family with open arms and a stiff cocktail, some families require a lot more work to warm up. Even if you&#39;re not baking cookies and going shopping with your mother-in-law every holiday, most people hope to have a smooth and pleasant relationship that at least isn&#39;t hostile or infamously passive-aggressive. Still, sometimes that is a lot easier said than done.So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the internet&#39;s moral compass of Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her husband&#39;s family&#39;s constant teasing, people were quick to deem a verdict.WIBTA (Would I be the as*hole) if I didn&rsquo;t go to my husband&rsquo;s family&rsquo;s Christmas because they make fun of my stutter? My (28F) husband&rsquo;s (31M) parents (50s F/M) both had COVID over Christmas so we are celebrating Christmas this weekend. It will be smaller than it usually is. I believe it&rsquo;ll be his parents, aunts and uncles, a few of his cousins, and maybe his grandparents. Still a pretty large gathering and although most of his family has already had it, it still makes me a little nervous going.   What makes me even more nervous is his family. His family likes to tease a lot. They usually just pick on little things like someone&rsquo;s outfit or something stupid someone said, but it feels different when it comes to me. They pick on my stutter a lot. They will mock it endlessly. Literally I cannot get a word out while I am there without them mocking it. I&rsquo;ll say, &ldquo;Would you l-like some more water?&rdquo; And his uncle will go, &ldquo;W-w-w-would y-y-y-oooou&rdquo; you get the point.   It hurts a lot and when I say that, they will just act like I am out of line for being offended and use the excuse &ldquo;I&rsquo;m just messing with you.&rdquo; My FIL has said something a few times and my husband speaks up occasionally, but it&rsquo;s only when things get really bad. Like one time, his cousin asked a dinner if I &ldquo;stutter while we&rsquo;re f*cking&rdquo;. Then last year there was an incident where his uncle got me a present, but said I could only have it if I said a certain sentence without stuttering. Both my husband and FIL shut that down real fast. But the usual thing is to just tolerate it. It really hurts though and usually I end up just sitting somewhere away from the group a majority of the time.   I know that I&rsquo;m just being overly sensitive here, but I really don&rsquo;t want to go this year. I know my husband will be upset especially since I don&rsquo;t really have a good excuse for skipping out, but whenever we go to the holidays and parties, I always come home crying. WIBTA if I didn&rsquo;t go to my husband&rsquo;s family&rsquo;s Christmas because they make fun of my stutter? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole. Why would you want to attend any function where you become the object of ridicule. Your husband should be understanding especially if he sees the aftermath of you being upset. It feels like the one of these things, where your FIL and husband just hope for the best and only when things get really out of line. And it shouldn&#39;t matter because they are only teasing in good fun, it&#39;s obviously not fun for you. - Revolutionary-Bus448  NTA. Your husbands family are huge jerks. &quot;Just joking&quot; does not excuse repeated hurtful teasing. - Biteme75  NTA. Your husband&#39;s family members are all assholes, especially to you. Some teasing can be funny for both parties, but when they tease you about something you can&#39;t control, that&#39;s over the line. Especially after you tell them that you don&#39;t like it. If your husband doesn&#39;t understand why you don&#39;t want to go, there&#39;s a problem with him too. He really should be standing up for you more to his family. After all, they&#39;re his family. - nintendo_d_s  NTA. You need to be aggressive with them. Shut it down. When they say it&#39;s a joke, shame the sh*t out of them. You have to make them feel bad or they&#39;ll just keep doing it. Your husband needs to be backing you up with this too. For example, I would say, &#39;do you realize how f*cking rude you are being?!&#39; If it still doesn&#39;t stop, both of you get up and leave. - bonniebluest  NTA That is so horrible! Your husbands family are idiots!! And he is an as*hole for allowing that to happen. The first time it happened he should have looked at you and said &ldquo;we are out of here.&rdquo; And then both of you should have left and told his family you will not be returning until they show you the respect that you deserve . Do not go and tell your as*hole husband that you refuse to be subjected to ridicule - 1890rafaella So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this woman wouldn&#39;t be wrong at all to refuse to attend her husband&#39;s family&#39;s belated Christmas gathering as they&#39;ve repeatedly shown her disrespect. However, she should probably also have a discussion with her husband about how he defends her at these gatherings as it is his family mocking her after all. Good luck, everyone!

Even when you&#39;re in a healthy and happy relationship, things can get complicated when you don&#39;t necessarily get along with your partner&#39;s family...  Sometimes you can be fully in love with someone only to meet their family and...