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<h2>The pressure for women who just gave birth to a human life to immediately get back into their favorite bikini and be abs-ready for a Sports Illustrated cover is a toxic delusional nightmare.</h2><p>The toll labor takes on someone&#39;s body while they&#39;re also navigating sleepless nights, breastfeeding, work, and a screaming new addition to their family means their waist measurement probably isn&#39;t on their radar. Regardless, the silhouette of someone whose body just built a person certainly isn&#39;t any of your business.</p><p>So, when a frustrated woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to call out her boss for his foolishness concerning her pregnancy, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rviyep/aita_for_embarrassing_my_boss_when_he_asked_why/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for embarrassing my boss when he asked why I&rsquo;m not back in my regular work uniform after I just gave birth?</h2><blockquote> <p>I just had a baby a couple of months ago, and as you can imagine, the weight doesn&rsquo;t just magically disappear right away. I work at a prestigious animal hospital and we have a strict dress code and are all required to wear matching scrubs in a very specific color.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I spoke with my practice manager (we&rsquo;ll call her Nicole) when I became pregnant and told her that unfortunately, they don&rsquo;t make maternity scrubs in our colors. She was very understanding and said it wasn&rsquo;t a big deal.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She is also understanding of the fact that I still only fit in my maternity scrubs. Today, however, my co-worker came up to me and said, &ldquo;Hey, Dr. B (veterinarian/hospital owner) wanted me to ask you on his behalf why you aren&rsquo;t wearing your uniform within our dress code.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My co-worker knows the reason why, but the doctor kind of forced her to be his little messenger anyway. I could tell she was embarrassed to ask me. I think it&rsquo;s pretty obvious considering I still look like I&rsquo;m pregnant.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I stepped into the hallway and confronted Dr. B and said, &ldquo;In case you&rsquo;re wondering why I&rsquo;m not dressed like everyone else, it&rsquo;s because I&rsquo;m still too fat to squeeze into regular clothes.&rdquo; I was partially joking but also annoyed that I even had to explain myself.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>He seemed really embarrassed and caught off guard that I confronted him face to face about it. But also, I was really embarrassed that he felt the need to bring up something with an obvious explanation and then drag my co-worker into it as well.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Not only that, but my practice manager (Nicole) is well aware that I can only fit in maternity clothing still.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>AITA for the way I handled this situation? Should I had just kept to myself and not say anything to him?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p><strong>Note:</strong> The style of scrubs we are required to wear are not made for plus sized people. They are &ldquo;designer scrubs&rdquo; and only made for slimmer body types. Our senior vet tech who is a good friend and has worked with Dr. B for 15+ years is a larger woman, and Dr. B allows her to wear a different brand/color/style than everyone else because she also cannot fit in the preferred style of uniform that they require us to wear.</p> </blockquote><h2>Yikes. Unfortunately this situation is a perfect case for an uncomfortable HR meeting between neutering.</h2><p>Commenting on anyone&#39;s bodies is never a good idea (even when you think you&#39;re giving a compliment), but observations should be especially when that person works for you. Asking another staff member to do his investigative work by avoiding the uniform conflict entirely was a cowardly choice and he deserved to get shut down by his employee. When you&#39;re mature enough to operate a business in the medical field, there&#39;s no excuse for not understanding basic facts about human reproduction. Do your horse patients immediately get back into their pre-pregnancy saddles, sir?</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Luckily, people were here to help. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). You didn&#39;t insult him. You made a joke about yourself, and he felt embarrassed. Good. He should mind his own business. - Mysterious-Tea-7218</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA- this guy needs to engage his common sense. He presumably has some vague understanding of how pregnancy changes a body. I understand that his patients usually aren&rsquo;t humans, but an adult man has no excuse for this level of ignorance. - Cha_r_ley</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. If he wants everyone in a certain dress code, he can update the dress code/colors to be inclusive of all bodies. This should never have had to happen, if they&#39;d chosen scrubs/colors that accommodate larger sizes then you could have happily adjusted. This is a problem he created when he chose the specific dress code with size restrictions, not something you created by having the body you have post-partum. - KittenSnowMittens</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA, you answered the question honestly, and he was the one who wanted to know. He acted unprofessionally by delegating someone else to ask, plus I think it&#39;s also unprofessional to expect the staff to comply to uniform regulations when the uniforms are not provided in the right size. - DrunkOnRedCordial</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA, this is an example of all the education in the world can&#39;t teach you social skills or tact. He could have easily found out why you weren&#39;t wearing your uniform. - DDecimal</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone was in full agreement here that this new mom wasn&#39;t at all wrong to confront her boss about his ignorance, especially when the required uniform isn&#39;t made in all sizes. Shaming a woman for not immediately losing weight after delivering a baby as if everyone has celebrity trainers, chefs, nannies, and money for a &quot;Mommy Makeover&quot; tummy tuck is not only rude from an authority figure, but also incredibly unprofessional and misinformed. All her boss needed to do here was a quick Google, keep his mouth shut, and focus on the golden retrievers. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong to shame boss for expecting her to fit in pre-baby uniform.

The pressure for women who just gave birth to a human life to immediately get back into their favorite bikini and be abs-ready for a Sports Illustrated cover is a toxic delusional nightmare.The toll labor takes on someone&#39;s body while they&#39;re also navigating sleepless nights, breastfeeding, work, and a screaming new addition to their family means their waist measurement probably isn&#39;t on their radar. Regardless, the silhouette of someone whose body just built a person certainly isn&#39;t any of your business.So, when a frustrated woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to call out her boss for his foolishness concerning her pregnancy, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for embarrassing my boss when he asked why I&rsquo;m not back in my regular work uniform after I just gave birth? I just had a baby a couple of months ago, and as you can imagine, the weight doesn&rsquo;t just magically disappear right away. I work at a prestigious animal hospital and we have a strict dress code and are all required to wear matching scrubs in a very specific color.    I spoke with my practice manager (we&rsquo;ll call her Nicole) when I became pregnant and told her that unfortunately, they don&rsquo;t make maternity scrubs in our colors. She was very understanding and said it wasn&rsquo;t a big deal.    She is also understanding of the fact that I still only fit in my maternity scrubs. Today, however, my co-worker came up to me and said, &ldquo;Hey, Dr. B (veterinarian/hospital owner) wanted me to ask you on his behalf why you aren&rsquo;t wearing your uniform within our dress code.&rdquo;    My co-worker knows the reason why, but the doctor kind of forced her to be his little messenger anyway. I could tell she was embarrassed to ask me. I think it&rsquo;s pretty obvious considering I still look like I&rsquo;m pregnant.   I stepped into the hallway and confronted Dr. B and said, &ldquo;In case you&rsquo;re wondering why I&rsquo;m not dressed like everyone else, it&rsquo;s because I&rsquo;m still too fat to squeeze into regular clothes.&rdquo; I was partially joking but also annoyed that I even had to explain myself.    He seemed really embarrassed and caught off guard that I confronted him face to face about it. But also, I was really embarrassed that he felt the need to bring up something with an obvious explanation and then drag my co-worker into it as well.    Not only that, but my practice manager (Nicole) is well aware that I can only fit in maternity clothing still.    AITA for the way I handled this situation? Should I had just kept to myself and not say anything to him?   Note: The style of scrubs we are required to wear are not made for plus sized people. They are &ldquo;designer scrubs&rdquo; and only made for slimmer body types. Our senior vet tech who is a good friend and has worked with Dr. B for 15+ years is a larger woman, and Dr. B allows her to wear a different brand/color/style than everyone else because she also cannot fit in the preferred style of uniform that they require us to wear. Yikes. Unfortunately this situation is a perfect case for an uncomfortable HR meeting between neutering.Commenting on anyone&#39;s bodies is never a good idea (even when you think you&#39;re giving a compliment), but observations should be especially when that person works for you. Asking another staff member to do his investigative work by avoiding the uniform conflict entirely was a cowardly choice and he deserved to get shut down by his employee. When you&#39;re mature enough to operate a business in the medical field, there&#39;s no excuse for not understanding basic facts about human reproduction. Do your horse patients immediately get back into their pre-pregnancy saddles, sir?Luckily, people were here to help. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). You didn&#39;t insult him. You made a joke about yourself, and he felt embarrassed. Good. He should mind his own business. - Mysterious-Tea-7218   NTA- this guy needs to engage his common sense. He presumably has some vague understanding of how pregnancy changes a body. I understand that his patients usually aren&rsquo;t humans, but an adult man has no excuse for this level of ignorance. - Cha_r_ley   NTA. If he wants everyone in a certain dress code, he can update the dress code/colors to be inclusive of all bodies. This should never have had to happen, if they&#39;d chosen scrubs/colors that accommodate larger sizes then you could have happily adjusted. This is a problem he created when he chose the specific dress code with size restrictions, not something you created by having the body you have post-partum. - KittenSnowMittens   NTA, you answered the question honestly, and he was the one who wanted to know. He acted unprofessionally by delegating someone else to ask, plus I think it&#39;s also unprofessional to expect the staff to comply to uniform regulations when the uniforms are not provided in the right size. - DrunkOnRedCordial   NTA, this is an example of all the education in the world can&#39;t teach you social skills or tact. He could have easily found out why you weren&#39;t wearing your uniform. - DDecimal So, there you have it!Everyone was in full agreement here that this new mom wasn&#39;t at all wrong to confront her boss about his ignorance, especially when the required uniform isn&#39;t made in all sizes. Shaming a woman for not immediately losing weight after delivering a baby as if everyone has celebrity trainers, chefs, nannies, and money for a &quot;Mommy Makeover&quot; tummy tuck is not only rude from an authority figure, but also incredibly unprofessional and misinformed. All her boss needed to do here was a quick Google, keep his mouth shut, and focus on the golden retrievers. Good luck, everyone!

The pressure for women who just gave birth to a human life to immediately get back into their favorite bikini and be abs-ready for a Sports Illustrated cover is a toxic delusional nightmare.  The toll labor takes on someone&#39;s body...