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<h2>If your family is fortunate enough to have an heirloom engagement ring to pass on, you might have a few uncomfortable Thanksgiving discussions coming your way...</h2><p>So, when a conflicted keeper of a family heirloom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she&#39;s wrong to refuse to pass it on, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/t0cjkx/aita_for_not_giving_my_brother_my_mothers/">AITA </a>(Am I the As*hole) for not giving my brother my mother&#39;s engagement ring even though I agreed in the past?</h2><blockquote> <p>Me (21F) and my brother (25M) have agreed that my mom&#39;s engagement (6 women in my family wore it) ring would be mine until he finds a girl he really wants to propose to. I agreed.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Now, he has a girlfriend of 5 years, and told me that he is planning to propose and would like the ring back. I immediately told him no. And that&#39;s because as much his girl likes jewelry, she also &quot;likes&quot; to lose it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The amount of jewelry she has lost is outstanding. I remember getting her very pretty earrings that I made myself and she lost it like after two days.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Ofc he got angry, so I told him that if he wants her to have that ring he needs to give her a random ring now, and if she doesn&#39;t lose it until he proposes (he has a specific day planned), I will it to him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He was annoyed but agreed. And well guess what...She lost it. Tbh I don&#39;t know how she does it....</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Well I decided not to give the ring because it&#39;s a very important thing for my family and said that if he wants to propose, he can buy another ring, I am not letting her to lose it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When she found out, she was also furious because apparently she loved the ring. She promised to keep it safe because she knows how important it is to us. I told her that I will keep it as my wedding ring if I ever get married. Idk, maybe I&#39;m dumb for not giving her a chance</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p><strong>Edit:</strong> She knew about the &quot;don&#39;t lose this first ring and then you will get the heirloom&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>Losing an important and valuable piece of jewelry can be devastating, but even the most responsible people among us have sacrificed a left earring after the back fell off while dancing a bit too hard at a wedding...</h2><p>Being a responsible jewelry owner and putting all your items back in a box when you&#39;re done wearing them instead of leaving them next to sink only to have to fish them out later with a drain snake proves you&#39;re someone who can have nice things. If you&#39;re still surrendering necklaces to the sea every time you leave the house, perhaps you&#39;re still in your Claire&#39;s discount rack and ring pop phase of life.</p><p>While the tradition in many families is to pass on engagement rings to sons to give to whoever they plan on marrying, that often means that items with sentimental value might leave the family in the event of a divorce or an &quot;oops it just fell off the boat&quot; accident.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this wedding drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole), I think that&rsquo;s a pretty valid concern and reason to not want to lose a family heirloom. - StorageFunny175</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Make a replica and give it to her. Then if it gets &ldquo;lost&rdquo; again, you&rsquo;re not out much&hellip; - Jewish-Mom-123</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. This is a family heirloom and is important to you. Losing things is not going to change because she likes the ring a lot. - lellya</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA, but I had to chuckle at the part where you say she &quot;lost&quot; the homemade earrings you gave her. Oh you sweet summer child. - AdventuresofRikke</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. You agreed to give it to him when he found someone. &quot;NOW&quot; he has a girlfriend of 5 years. It sounds like you made this agreement while you were quite young.. His GF loses jewelry quite easily. I wouldn&#39;t want to chance losing an important/sentimental heirloom either.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>If it is yours, you can do with it what you want - which isn&#39;t give it to him. You already gave him an out buy purchasing a ring and if she didn&#39;t lose it, you would concede. She lost it, he loses. Good luck. - dalekmasterplan</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA &#39;cause I also wouldn&rsquo;t give a family heirloom to someone that &ldquo;loses&rdquo; jewelry all the time, but have you considered that she just doesn&rsquo;t like the earrings or the ring your brother gave her and doesn&rsquo;t want to offend either of you so she&rsquo;s claiming she lost them rather than the truth? That she probably threw them out? - prettyb*tchang</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA it is a ring the woman in your family wear. It should belong to you not your bothers gf/fianc&eacute;e. When he proposes he needs to insure the ring he buys before he gives it to her. - winesis</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. If you want to keep a heirloom of sorts safe then the best option is to not let her have it. You&rsquo;re in the right for wanting to keep it safe - Methionylth</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this young woman isn&#39;t at all wrong to refuse to give her future sister-in-law a family heirloom she&#39;ll surely leave on a plane or somewhere deep in the woods after having it for only two hours. She failed the test and now she must suffer the consequences. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong to hold on to heirloom ring she promised to brother.

If your family is fortunate enough to have an heirloom engagement ring to pass on, you might have a few uncomfortable Thanksgiving discussions coming your way...So, when a conflicted keeper of a family heirloom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she&#39;s wrong to refuse to pass it on, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not giving my brother my mother&#39;s engagement ring even though I agreed in the past? Me (21F) and my brother (25M) have agreed that my mom&#39;s engagement (6 women in my family wore it) ring would be mine until he finds a girl he really wants to propose to. I agreed.  Now, he has a girlfriend of 5 years, and told me that he is planning to propose and would like the ring back. I immediately told him no. And that&#39;s because as much his girl likes jewelry, she also &quot;likes&quot; to lose it.  The amount of jewelry she has lost is outstanding. I remember getting her very pretty earrings that I made myself and she lost it like after two days.  Ofc he got angry, so I told him that if he wants her to have that ring he needs to give her a random ring now, and if she doesn&#39;t lose it until he proposes (he has a specific day planned), I will it to him.  He was annoyed but agreed. And well guess what...She lost it. Tbh I don&#39;t know how she does it....  Well I decided not to give the ring because it&#39;s a very important thing for my family and said that if he wants to propose, he can buy another ring, I am not letting her to lose it.  When she found out, she was also furious because apparently she loved the ring. She promised to keep it safe because she knows how important it is to us. I told her that I will keep it as my wedding ring if I ever get married. Idk, maybe I&#39;m dumb for not giving her a chance  Edit: She knew about the &quot;don&#39;t lose this first ring and then you will get the heirloom&quot; Losing an important and valuable piece of jewelry can be devastating, but even the most responsible people among us have sacrificed a left earring after the back fell off while dancing a bit too hard at a wedding...Being a responsible jewelry owner and putting all your items back in a box when you&#39;re done wearing them instead of leaving them next to sink only to have to fish them out later with a drain snake proves you&#39;re someone who can have nice things. If you&#39;re still surrendering necklaces to the sea every time you leave the house, perhaps you&#39;re still in your Claire&#39;s discount rack and ring pop phase of life.While the tradition in many families is to pass on engagement rings to sons to give to whoever they plan on marrying, that often means that items with sentimental value might leave the family in the event of a divorce or an &quot;oops it just fell off the boat&quot; accident.Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this wedding drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole), I think that&rsquo;s a pretty valid concern and reason to not want to lose a family heirloom. - StorageFunny175  Make a replica and give it to her. Then if it gets &ldquo;lost&rdquo; again, you&rsquo;re not out much&hellip; - Jewish-Mom-123  NTA. This is a family heirloom and is important to you. Losing things is not going to change because she likes the ring a lot. - lellya  NTA, but I had to chuckle at the part where you say she &quot;lost&quot; the homemade earrings you gave her. Oh you sweet summer child. - AdventuresofRikke  NTA. You agreed to give it to him when he found someone. &quot;NOW&quot; he has a girlfriend of 5 years. It sounds like you made this agreement while you were quite young.. His GF loses jewelry quite easily. I wouldn&#39;t want to chance losing an important/sentimental heirloom either.  If it is yours, you can do with it what you want - which isn&#39;t give it to him. You already gave him an out buy purchasing a ring and if she didn&#39;t lose it, you would concede. She lost it, he loses. Good luck. - dalekmasterplan  NTA &#39;cause I also wouldn&rsquo;t give a family heirloom to someone that &ldquo;loses&rdquo; jewelry all the time, but have you considered that she just doesn&rsquo;t like the earrings or the ring your brother gave her and doesn&rsquo;t want to offend either of you so she&rsquo;s claiming she lost them rather than the truth? That she probably threw them out? - prettyb*tchang  NTA it is a ring the woman in your family wear. It should belong to you not your bothers gf/fianc&eacute;e. When he proposes he needs to insure the ring he buys before he gives it to her. - winesis  NTA. If you want to keep a heirloom of sorts safe then the best option is to not let her have it. You&rsquo;re in the right for wanting to keep it safe - Methionylth So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this young woman isn&#39;t at all wrong to refuse to give her future sister-in-law a family heirloom she&#39;ll surely leave on a plane or somewhere deep in the woods after having it for only two hours. She failed the test and now she must suffer the consequences. Good luck, everyone!

If your family is fortunate enough to have an heirloom engagement ring to pass on, you might have a few uncomfortable Thanksgiving discussions coming your way...  So, when a conflicted keeper of a family heirloom decided to consult the...