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<h2>The decision to invite young children to a wedding can be a divisive topic, as many parents think every member of their family should be included while couples getting married don&#39;t want a screaming infant interrupting their vows...</h2><p>So, when a conflicted brother-of-the-bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to ditch his sister&#39;s wedding after he was expected to babysit, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/sjc0fe/aita_for_walking_out_of_my_sisters_wedding_after/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for walking out of my sister&#39;s wedding after she tried to use me as free childcare?</h2><blockquote> <p>A few months ago my (31M) sister (29F) announced that she was going to get married. The planning process took a while but the date and venue were agreed on. Now, my sister has a baby (1M) that just loves to cry. He cries all the time, unless someone takes him outside for fresh air.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>So a few days ago the wedding started. Because I was out of town, I missed the night before the wedding (basically a get-together period for family members and a big party) but showed up for the ceremony and reception.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>The second I got there, my sister asked me to take the baby outside in order to calm him down. I agreed because the ceremony hadn&#39;t started yet, but she asked me to take the baby outside again a while later. When I asked why the baby didn&#39;t have a sitter, she said that they spent all the money on the ceremony and parties.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I was kind of annoyed because I wanted to sit in on the ceremony, but just about everyone jumped on me telling me to do my sister a favor and that &quot;it was her day.&quot;</p> <p> </p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I asked her about when I was expected to take the baby out for fresh air, and she gave me this huge list of times that basically meant I missed out on the important parts. I wouldn&#39;t be there for the exchanging of vows, the reception, the aisle walk, the readings, the kiss, etc.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I figured out that in total I would have about 30 minutes actually sitting inside, and the rest was just about the baby. When I pointed this out to her she said someone would videotape it for me but I wasn&#39;t convinced.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I wanted to watch my sister reach a milestone, and that was what I came for. I told her that someone else could watch the baby for her, and that as her brother I wanted to watch the wedding, and not have to miss her getting married. Again, she told me to &quot;just do it&quot;.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I was really mad, but tried not to show it on the outside. When I asked about the reception, she told me, &quot;Oh, you&#39;ll have to miss out. [Baby&#39;s name] needs to be outside and has to be fed.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>That was the final straw, and when my mother was holding the baby I slipped out and just left. The next day I get a call from my sister, and she&#39;s screaming about how I ruined her wedding and how the baby wouldn&#39;t stop crying.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I told her that I left because she treated me like a babysitter instead of a guest/family member, and said that it was her fault if she couldn&#39;t get a nanny or ask a friend to do it. Since then I&#39;ve been nuked with calls from family calling me selfish and telling me that I&#39;m effectively disowned unless I apologize. I see no reason to. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Yikes...what&#39;s the point of having your brother there to celebrate with you if you&#39;re forcing him to miss every special moment?</h2><p>The bride is particularly rude and inconsiderate for not even bothering to ask her brother if he&#39;d mind playing nanny for the entire event, but why did a baby need to attend in the first place?</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Kids will NOT be allowed at my wedding, idc who you are, arrange for a babysitter ahead of time or don&#39;t come. Dogs will be welcome though 😌</p>&mdash; drea 🌸 (@andreaedith_) <a href="https://twitter.com/andreaedith_/status/1385412308675878913?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">April 23, 2021</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><p>While kids can be a cute addition to the ceremony and reception, ultimately most weddings are adult events that leave kids in the corner with iPads or throwing a temper tantrum over bits of parsley on their catered chicken nuggets.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I just read a tweet that said you have no kids policy at your wedding then you must arrange for and pay a babysitter for the people&#39;s uninvited kids <br><br>I must WHAT?? <a href="https://t.co/hDCsWVfl9H">pic.twitter.com/hDCsWVfl9H</a></p>&mdash; Reeves 🪐 (@singfromthehair) <a href="https://twitter.com/singfromthehair/status/1119898848451805184?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">April 21, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Some parents with young children don&#39;t mind child-free weddings as long as a babysitter is provided for free on-site, but why should couples paying for every other expense also have to pay for childcare?</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">The more I see wedding drama about people voluntelling folks to provide free childcare for weddings the more I’m inclined to just let parents do their child care arrangements.</p>&mdash; Elizabeth (@elizposadas) <a href="https://twitter.com/elizposadas/status/1446877288369250307?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">October 9, 2021</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><p> </p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">not tacky to have a child-free wedding, but it IS tacky not to include one or several childcare providers and a kid space somewhere at your venue, paid from YOUR wedding budget and not an added expense &amp; logistical coordination that parents have to orchestrate in order to attend <a href="https://t.co/jsZt2n2bRC">https://t.co/jsZt2n2bRC</a></p>&mdash; bean (@skeevie_nicks) <a href="https://twitter.com/skeevie_nicks/status/1485715493453398018?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 24, 2022</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I love when the child-free wedding convo comes up 🤣🤣 the correct answer is: the people paying for and being celebrated at the party get to decide who is invited. Period.</p>&mdash; ish. (@lifeisaeisha) <a href="https://twitter.com/lifeisaeisha/status/1486039121067868163?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 25, 2022</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">My position on child-free weddings is that it&#39;s your right to have them but you can&#39;t get offended if your friends and relatives with kids don&#39;t want to go to them, especially if they would have to travel to attend.</p>&mdash; Lethality Jane🌻 (@LethalityJane) <a href="https://twitter.com/LethalityJane/status/1486102751700418561?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 25, 2022</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Of course, people were quick to weigh in on this classic wedding-related drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole) - Why couldn&rsquo;t she rotate baby duty between family members? She basically implied you were the least important person for her at the wedding. Plus how expensive would it have been to hire a babysitter? Or your parents could have chipped in and gotten one. - lumpthefoff</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Why couldn&rsquo;t the rest of the family take turns taking the baby outside? I find it funny that they&rsquo;re calling you selfish when it doesn&rsquo;t seem like any one of them volunteered to take turns so it would be fair and you at least got to witness some parts of the wedding. - AJSK18</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. She should have had at least the decency to ask you if you wanted to babysit. - somethingblvck</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. But your sister ( and your mom) are huge as*hole. Ask those family members who keep calling you why didn&#39;t they offered to babysit. Let them disown you, they sound awful anyway. - Glitter_Pink5452</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA were you the only person certified to hold a baby? tell every single one of those family members &quot;weird. I didn&#39;t see you stepping up to take care of the baby&quot; - mcdonaldsfrenchfri</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man wasn&#39;t at all wrong to bail on his sister&#39;s wedding considering he was going to have to miss every important moment to provide free childcare. The behavior displayed here by the bride and her family is incredibly entitled and disappointing, but the audacity to call him the &quot;selfish&quot; one is truly rich. If they needed someone to look after the baby, they should&#39;ve hired a babysitter end of story. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong to leave sister's wedding when he was asked to babysit.

The decision to invite young children to a wedding can be a divisive topic, as many parents think every member of their family should be included while couples getting married don&#39;t want a screaming infant interrupting their vows...So, when a conflicted brother-of-the-bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to ditch his sister&#39;s wedding after he was expected to babysit, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for walking out of my sister&#39;s wedding after she tried to use me as free childcare? A few months ago my (31M) sister (29F) announced that she was going to get married. The planning process took a while but the date and venue were agreed on. Now, my sister has a baby (1M) that just loves to cry. He cries all the time, unless someone takes him outside for fresh air.   So a few days ago the wedding started. Because I was out of town, I missed the night before the wedding (basically a get-together period for family members and a big party) but showed up for the ceremony and reception.   The second I got there, my sister asked me to take the baby outside in order to calm him down. I agreed because the ceremony hadn&#39;t started yet, but she asked me to take the baby outside again a while later. When I asked why the baby didn&#39;t have a sitter, she said that they spent all the money on the ceremony and parties.   I was kind of annoyed because I wanted to sit in on the ceremony, but just about everyone jumped on me telling me to do my sister a favor and that &quot;it was her day.&quot;     I asked her about when I was expected to take the baby out for fresh air, and she gave me this huge list of times that basically meant I missed out on the important parts. I wouldn&#39;t be there for the exchanging of vows, the reception, the aisle walk, the readings, the kiss, etc.   I figured out that in total I would have about 30 minutes actually sitting inside, and the rest was just about the baby. When I pointed this out to her she said someone would videotape it for me but I wasn&#39;t convinced.   I wanted to watch my sister reach a milestone, and that was what I came for. I told her that someone else could watch the baby for her, and that as her brother I wanted to watch the wedding, and not have to miss her getting married. Again, she told me to &quot;just do it&quot;.   I was really mad, but tried not to show it on the outside. When I asked about the reception, she told me, &quot;Oh, you&#39;ll have to miss out. [Baby&#39;s name] needs to be outside and has to be fed.&quot;   That was the final straw, and when my mother was holding the baby I slipped out and just left. The next day I get a call from my sister, and she&#39;s screaming about how I ruined her wedding and how the baby wouldn&#39;t stop crying.   I told her that I left because she treated me like a babysitter instead of a guest/family member, and said that it was her fault if she couldn&#39;t get a nanny or ask a friend to do it. Since then I&#39;ve been nuked with calls from family calling me selfish and telling me that I&#39;m effectively disowned unless I apologize. I see no reason to. AITA? Yikes...what&#39;s the point of having your brother there to celebrate with you if you&#39;re forcing him to miss every special moment?The bride is particularly rude and inconsiderate for not even bothering to ask her brother if he&#39;d mind playing nanny for the entire event, but why did a baby need to attend in the first place?Kids will NOT be allowed at my wedding, idc who you are, arrange for a babysitter ahead of time or don&#39;t come. Dogs will be welcome though 😌&mdash; drea 🌸 (@andreaedith_) April 23, 2021 While kids can be a cute addition to the ceremony and reception, ultimately most weddings are adult events that leave kids in the corner with iPads or throwing a temper tantrum over bits of parsley on their catered chicken nuggets.I just read a tweet that said you have no kids policy at your wedding then you must arrange for and pay a babysitter for the people&#39;s uninvited kids I must WHAT?? pic.twitter.com/hDCsWVfl9H&mdash; Reeves 🪐 (@singfromthehair) April 21, 2019 Some parents with young children don&#39;t mind child-free weddings as long as a babysitter is provided for free on-site, but why should couples paying for every other expense also have to pay for childcare?The more I see wedding drama about people voluntelling folks to provide free childcare for weddings the more I’m inclined to just let parents do their child care arrangements.&mdash; Elizabeth (@elizposadas) October 9, 2021  not tacky to have a child-free wedding, but it IS tacky not to include one or several childcare providers and a kid space somewhere at your venue, paid from YOUR wedding budget and not an added expense &amp; logistical coordination that parents have to orchestrate in order to attend https://t.co/jsZt2n2bRC&mdash; bean (@skeevie_nicks) January 24, 2022 I love when the child-free wedding convo comes up 🤣🤣 the correct answer is: the people paying for and being celebrated at the party get to decide who is invited. Period.&mdash; ish. (@lifeisaeisha) January 25, 2022 My position on child-free weddings is that it&#39;s your right to have them but you can&#39;t get offended if your friends and relatives with kids don&#39;t want to go to them, especially if they would have to travel to attend.&mdash; Lethality Jane🌻 (@LethalityJane) January 25, 2022 Of course, people were quick to weigh in on this classic wedding-related drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) - Why couldn&rsquo;t she rotate baby duty between family members? She basically implied you were the least important person for her at the wedding. Plus how expensive would it have been to hire a babysitter? Or your parents could have chipped in and gotten one. - lumpthefoff   NTA. Why couldn&rsquo;t the rest of the family take turns taking the baby outside? I find it funny that they&rsquo;re calling you selfish when it doesn&rsquo;t seem like any one of them volunteered to take turns so it would be fair and you at least got to witness some parts of the wedding. - AJSK18   NTA. She should have had at least the decency to ask you if you wanted to babysit. - somethingblvck   NTA. But your sister ( and your mom) are huge as*hole. Ask those family members who keep calling you why didn&#39;t they offered to babysit. Let them disown you, they sound awful anyway. - Glitter_Pink5452   NTA were you the only person certified to hold a baby? tell every single one of those family members &quot;weird. I didn&#39;t see you stepping up to take care of the baby&quot; - mcdonaldsfrenchfri So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man wasn&#39;t at all wrong to bail on his sister&#39;s wedding considering he was going to have to miss every important moment to provide free childcare. The behavior displayed here by the bride and her family is incredibly entitled and disappointing, but the audacity to call him the &quot;selfish&quot; one is truly rich. If they needed someone to look after the baby, they should&#39;ve hired a babysitter end of story. Good luck, everyone!

The decision to invite young children to a wedding can be a divisive topic, as many parents think every member of their family should be included while couples getting married don&#39;t want a screaming infant interrupting their vows... ...

Man asks if he's wrong to leave sister's wedding when he was asked to babysit.

The decision to invite young children to a wedding can be a divisive topic, as many parents think every member of their family should be included while couples getting married don't want a screaming infant interrupting their vows...

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for walking out of my sister's wedding after she tried to use me as free childcare?