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Woman asks if she's wrong to not attend wedding where she's asked to watch kids.

Woman asks if she's wrong to not attend wedding where she's asked to watch kids.


The subject of child-free weddings or how to include families with young children into wedding festivities has long been a subject of debate...

While some parents believe that an invitation to a wedding should always include all of their children as well, other parents prefer to take the night away from the kids and relax at the open bar and dance floor.

So, when a concerned woman decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole?' about her friend volunteering her to work for free at a wedding she wasn't even originally invited to, people were there to help.

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not wanting to babysit children at a wedding?

My (23F) friend's sister-in-law is getting married in November. My friend is helping to plan the wedding and has been sharing some of the details with me. It has been previously understood that I would not be going to the wedding because I'm not a close friend of the bride or groom nor am I a relative.

This has never bothered me and I've just been excited to know that two people that love each other are getting married.

Today, my friend texted me and told me that I might have to go to the wedding. When I asked her why, she told me it would be to take care of the guests' children. I thought she was joking but then she insisted that she was serious. I asked if I would at least get paid for taking care of kids that aren't mine and that I barely know and she said that going to the wedding was enough pay.

Personally, I find it a little disrespectful that I would be invited as a nanny and not as an actual guest that would get to enjoy the wedding as much as the other guests. I'm not even interested in being invited but if they actually wanted me to go I would want to be a normal guest, not someone taking care of at least 3 kids under 10 years old that I don't know how to handle.

However, I considered the fact that they might actually need someone to help out. So, am I being dramatic and an as*hole or should I stand my ground?

Here's what people had to say:

NTA (Not the As*hole). If they need a babysitter, they should pay for one. I would suggest staying far away from that wedding. - Adara_Wyvern

Stay away from “friends” that will use you like this as well. NTA. - lomabjm

NTA. Tell her you don't know how to handle kids well and they would be much better off with a nanny or babysitter. - Mera1506

It's called 'voluntold' when you get told what you've 'volunteered' to do. It happens all the time in Corporate America. NTA. - Fredredphooey

NTA. Stand your ground. That is a ridiculous thing to ask. If they don’t want kids at the wedding, tell their guests not to bring them. If they want a babysitter, hire a babysitter. They shouldn’t expect you to watch their guests kids for no pay and no reason - PrettyLittleAccident

So, there you have it!

Everyone agreed across the board on this one that this young woman would not at all be wrong to refuse to work for free at a wedding she's not even invited to, and if the children are a problem for guests then the couple getting married should have a child-free wedding or hire a professional. Good luck, everyone!

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