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<h2>Being a parent or working in child care often comes with a whole lot of unsolicited opinions from mommy bloggers, strangers, and the man at the grocery store witnessing your toddler&#39;s meltdown in the cheese aisle...</h2><p>So, when a conflicted babysitter decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not she was wrong to refuse to use cloth diapers when a mother insisted, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/qx16oh/aita_for_refusing_to_babysit_a_baby_in_cloth/" target="_blank">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for refusing to babysit a baby in cloth diapers?</h2><blockquote> <p>I (23F) used to nanny from college until like a year ago before I got a my dream job. I work 65+ hour weeks so I really look forward to relaxing on the weekends. The family I used to nanny for begged me to watch their kids last weekend so they could go to a last minute birthday party, I said no at first because I need my weekends to decompress after a long week but they were in a bind so I agreed.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Since I left they had a new baby. While I was nannying both kids were potty trained so I never dealt with diapers with them. I show up and they start going over the baby&rsquo;s schedule and they then tell me they use cloth diapers so for poops I have to scrap it off into the toilet. I told them I am not doing that.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>We can either use disposable diapers just for this night or I can set the poopy ones aside and they can clean them when they get home. I said that they should have told me this ahead of time because I would have said no.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>They said there is to reason to tell me that, it&rsquo;s just normal baby care. I said that as some who nannied and babysat for 5 years this is the first time I&rsquo;ve been asked to do this, so it is out of the ordinary and it is respectful to be clear about things like that with child care providers.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I said I am not handling poop more than I need to. So I can either leave, use disposable diapers, or leave the poop ones for them to clean later. We started arguing so I just left and went home and had a relaxing night.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My mom said I should have just done it because they were in a bind but I gave them options and they vetoed all of them so I stuck to my boundary. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole) You gave them options. You are allowed to set your boundaries. - ELANNC</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Good for you! You gave them options -- they declined. Next time they need to be clear on their expectations from the beginning. Your mother is wrong on this one. - Downtown-Trouble-71</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Cloth diapers are becoming the trend within this last year. All my friends/SIL who have had babies use them. So I get why they didn&#39;t tell you. But they also should have accommodated to when you said no as a boundary. I think leaving them off to the side was a fair deal. Nta - Lt-shorts</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I cloth diapered my daughter and plan to cloth diaper my second baby. Whenever we left baby with anyone else, I provided disposable diapers. My mom was fine with using the cloth diapers so I always told her if it was a poopy one, to just set it aside and I&rsquo;d take care of it when we got home. Also use to work in a daycare and it was always the parents responsibility to take care of poopy ones for the kiddos that were in cloth diapers. - poppyseed</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. The entitlement is strong with these ones, especially when they are desperate for babysitting. Boundaries are important, but I would be telling them to lose your number. - giantbrownguy</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA - that&#39;s so weird, they were in this terrible 'bind' but couldn&#39;t be like: 'ok, put the used diapers in the bathroom and we&#39;ll deal with them when we get home.' I wonder how much of a bind they were in where they chose that hill to die on. - loudent2</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this young woman isn&#39;t at all wrong to refuse to babysit for a child in cloth diapers as she shouldn&#39;t be expected to handle bodily fluids she isn&#39;t comfortable with, especially with no warning. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she’s wrong to refuse to babysit child who wears cloth diapers.

Being a parent or working in child care often comes with a whole lot of unsolicited opinions from mommy bloggers, strangers, and the man at the grocery store witnessing your toddler&#39;s meltdown in the cheese aisle...So, when a conflicted babysitter decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not she was wrong to refuse to use cloth diapers when a mother insisted, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for refusing to babysit a baby in cloth diapers? I (23F) used to nanny from college until like a year ago before I got a my dream job. I work 65+ hour weeks so I really look forward to relaxing on the weekends. The family I used to nanny for begged me to watch their kids last weekend so they could go to a last minute birthday party, I said no at first because I need my weekends to decompress after a long week but they were in a bind so I agreed.   Since I left they had a new baby. While I was nannying both kids were potty trained so I never dealt with diapers with them. I show up and they start going over the baby&rsquo;s schedule and they then tell me they use cloth diapers so for poops I have to scrap it off into the toilet. I told them I am not doing that.   We can either use disposable diapers just for this night or I can set the poopy ones aside and they can clean them when they get home. I said that they should have told me this ahead of time because I would have said no.   They said there is to reason to tell me that, it&rsquo;s just normal baby care. I said that as some who nannied and babysat for 5 years this is the first time I&rsquo;ve been asked to do this, so it is out of the ordinary and it is respectful to be clear about things like that with child care providers.   I said I am not handling poop more than I need to. So I can either leave, use disposable diapers, or leave the poop ones for them to clean later. We started arguing so I just left and went home and had a relaxing night.   My mom said I should have just done it because they were in a bind but I gave them options and they vetoed all of them so I stuck to my boundary. AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) You gave them options. You are allowed to set your boundaries. - ELANNC   NTA. Good for you! You gave them options -- they declined. Next time they need to be clear on their expectations from the beginning. Your mother is wrong on this one. - Downtown-Trouble-71   Cloth diapers are becoming the trend within this last year. All my friends/SIL who have had babies use them. So I get why they didn&#39;t tell you. But they also should have accommodated to when you said no as a boundary. I think leaving them off to the side was a fair deal. Nta - Lt-shorts   NTA. I cloth diapered my daughter and plan to cloth diaper my second baby. Whenever we left baby with anyone else, I provided disposable diapers. My mom was fine with using the cloth diapers so I always told her if it was a poopy one, to just set it aside and I&rsquo;d take care of it when we got home. Also use to work in a daycare and it was always the parents responsibility to take care of poopy ones for the kiddos that were in cloth diapers. - poppyseed   NTA. The entitlement is strong with these ones, especially when they are desperate for babysitting. Boundaries are important, but I would be telling them to lose your number. - giantbrownguy   NTA - that&#39;s so weird, they were in this terrible 'bind' but couldn&#39;t be like: 'ok, put the used diapers in the bathroom and we&#39;ll deal with them when we get home.' I wonder how much of a bind they were in where they chose that hill to die on. - loudent2 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this young woman isn&#39;t at all wrong to refuse to babysit for a child in cloth diapers as she shouldn&#39;t be expected to handle bodily fluids she isn&#39;t comfortable with, especially with no warning. Good luck, everyone!

Being a parent or working in child care often comes with a whole lot of unsolicited opinions from mommy bloggers, strangers, and the man at the grocery store witnessing your toddler&#39;s meltdown in the cheese aisle...  So, when a...