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<h2>Cooking food for particularly picky eaters, especially when they&#39;re your partner&#39;s entire extended family can be a challenging nightmare in passive aggression and quiet yet blaring judgement...</h2><p>Cooking and baking for a dinner party or holiday isn&#39;t even remotely fun if you feel like the people you&#39;re preparing a meal for will critique every bite as if you&#39;re 5-star chef. Dietary restrictions or allergies are often unavoidable, but &quot;foodies&quot; who analyze every ingredient of your grandmother&#39;s casserole recipe as if it&#39;s the finale of &quot;Masterchef.&quot;</p><p>While relationships with in-laws can be daunting at first, the stereotypes of evil and plotting mother-in-laws are fortunately usually far from the truth. Still, maintaining the peace with your partner&#39;s family despite some standard clashing of political opinions or religious beliefs is always a good idea. You don&#39;t want to dread every holiday or gathering while rage-baking a batch of cookies you know they&#39;ll all whisper about from the living room. &quot;Not enough salt?&quot; Add your own, Aunt Martha!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>So, when a frustrated woman decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; people were there to help her deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nghset/aita_for_telling_my_ils_ill_never_cook_for_them/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for telling my in-laws I&#39;ll never cook for them because I don&#39;t cook for ungrateful people?</h2><blockquote> <p>My ILs are big food people. They&#39;re also the kind of people who complain about food they get behind the cooks back. I always knew this about my ILs, my husband warned me, told me he had told them to knock it off before but they won&#39;t, so he refuses to engage. They are that ungrateful that when my GMIL (grandmother in-law) died, his family were all b*tching about the food a neighbor brought out to them (casserole, salad, sandwiches, pizzas) and saying how bland or meh the food was. The food was tasty and there wasn&#39;t a damn thing wrong with it but that&#39;s just them. They never talk like that about each other&#39;s food. But as an IL you&#39;re not exactly exempt from criticism.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Another time they were at a neighborhood BBQ and complained about the stuff other people brought. Even saying something about food a 12 year old had prepared (they made little skewers) and saying it was &quot;so obviously a child&#39;s cooking&quot; meaning &quot;nothing special&quot; as they put it.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>So anyway, my SIL had her youngest&#39;s Christening recently. She had hired a caterer and they canceled at the last minute (workers came down with Covid). They ended up asking me if I would help get food together for it. I said no. My husband told them we were busy and didn&#39;t have the time for it. SIL said I usually have chill Saturdays and could easily prepare something. He spoke to them and said in no uncertain terms did I owe them food.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>What followed was they stopped by while he was working and I was home and asking me to make a couple of pizzas for the Christening party. I told them they already had their answer. They told me I could get some money thrown my way for it. I told them even if they paid me double the standard price of two pizzas I still wouldn&#39;t cook for them with how they treat food made by other people. They told me being part of the family means having to sometime and I said I would never cook for them because I don&#39;t cook for ungrateful people.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>They&#39;re pissed and a few of them called me an as*hole, my husband told me they were acting like kids and I was fine. Part of me feels like the as*hole, because I know how they are and I engaged with them.</p> <p>AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). Stand your ground. They sound awful. You&rsquo;re completely right- there&rsquo;s no point making anything when you already know they&rsquo;ll criticize it. - Sleepy_felines</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. They were told no several times. Only when they continually pressed did you lay it all out for them. Do not let them bully you. Kudos to your husband for having your back with his family. - Wordwordnerdlinger</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Who <em>would</em> want to cook for such ungrateful condescending people? You and your husband both tried to politely decline their request multiple times but they continued to push. You simply told them a truth then did not want to hear. You have done nothing wrong. - Dont-trust-it</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Ungrateful is a very tame word to use in that context. I think you&#39;re honestly being more forgiving than they deserve for their consistent behavior. - sacco645</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this woman was not at all wrong for refusing to cook for people who she&#39;s witnessed being notoriously and infamously picky, rude and ungrateful while eating food prepared by someone other than the immediate family. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she was wrong to refuse to cook food for ‘ungrateful’ in-laws.

Cooking food for particularly picky eaters, especially when they&#39;re your partner&#39;s entire extended family can be a challenging nightmare in passive aggression and quiet yet blaring judgement...Cooking and baking for a dinner party or holiday isn&#39;t even remotely fun if you feel like the people you&#39;re preparing a meal for will critique every bite as if you&#39;re 5-star chef. Dietary restrictions or allergies are often unavoidable, but &quot;foodies&quot; who analyze every ingredient of your grandmother&#39;s casserole recipe as if it&#39;s the finale of &quot;Masterchef.&quot;While relationships with in-laws can be daunting at first, the stereotypes of evil and plotting mother-in-laws are fortunately usually far from the truth. Still, maintaining the peace with your partner&#39;s family despite some standard clashing of political opinions or religious beliefs is always a good idea. You don&#39;t want to dread every holiday or gathering while rage-baking a batch of cookies you know they&#39;ll all whisper about from the living room. &quot;Not enough salt?&quot; Add your own, Aunt Martha!So, when a frustrated woman decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; people were there to help her deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for telling my in-laws I&#39;ll never cook for them because I don&#39;t cook for ungrateful people? My ILs are big food people. They&#39;re also the kind of people who complain about food they get behind the cooks back. I always knew this about my ILs, my husband warned me, told me he had told them to knock it off before but they won&#39;t, so he refuses to engage. They are that ungrateful that when my GMIL (grandmother in-law) died, his family were all b*tching about the food a neighbor brought out to them (casserole, salad, sandwiches, pizzas) and saying how bland or meh the food was. The food was tasty and there wasn&#39;t a damn thing wrong with it but that&#39;s just them. They never talk like that about each other&#39;s food. But as an IL you&#39;re not exactly exempt from criticism.   Another time they were at a neighborhood BBQ and complained about the stuff other people brought. Even saying something about food a 12 year old had prepared (they made little skewers) and saying it was &quot;so obviously a child&#39;s cooking&quot; meaning &quot;nothing special&quot; as they put it.   So anyway, my SIL had her youngest&#39;s Christening recently. She had hired a caterer and they canceled at the last minute (workers came down with Covid). They ended up asking me if I would help get food together for it. I said no. My husband told them we were busy and didn&#39;t have the time for it. SIL said I usually have chill Saturdays and could easily prepare something. He spoke to them and said in no uncertain terms did I owe them food.   What followed was they stopped by while he was working and I was home and asking me to make a couple of pizzas for the Christening party. I told them they already had their answer. They told me I could get some money thrown my way for it. I told them even if they paid me double the standard price of two pizzas I still wouldn&#39;t cook for them with how they treat food made by other people. They told me being part of the family means having to sometime and I said I would never cook for them because I don&#39;t cook for ungrateful people.   They&#39;re pissed and a few of them called me an as*hole, my husband told me they were acting like kids and I was fine. Part of me feels like the as*hole, because I know how they are and I engaged with them. AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). Stand your ground. They sound awful. You&rsquo;re completely right- there&rsquo;s no point making anything when you already know they&rsquo;ll criticize it. - Sleepy_felines  NTA. They were told no several times. Only when they continually pressed did you lay it all out for them. Do not let them bully you. Kudos to your husband for having your back with his family. - Wordwordnerdlinger  NTA. Who would want to cook for such ungrateful condescending people? You and your husband both tried to politely decline their request multiple times but they continued to push. You simply told them a truth then did not want to hear. You have done nothing wrong. - Dont-trust-it  NTA. Ungrateful is a very tame word to use in that context. I think you&#39;re honestly being more forgiving than they deserve for their consistent behavior. - sacco645 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this woman was not at all wrong for refusing to cook for people who she&#39;s witnessed being notoriously and infamously picky, rude and ungrateful while eating food prepared by someone other than the immediate family. Good luck, everyone!

Cooking food for particularly picky eaters, especially when they&#39;re your partner&#39;s entire extended family can be a challenging nightmare in passive aggression and quiet yet blaring judgement...  Cooking and baking for a dinner...