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<h2>Receiving a gift you&#39;re not happy with can be an uncomfortable, anxiety-inducing blur of fake-smiling and casual lying, but ultimately it always is &quot;the thought that counts.&quot;</h2><p>Whenever someone goes out of their way to purchase something they thought you&#39;d enjoy, you owe them a sincere &quot;thank you&quot; and at least an attempt to make the gift work. Just because a gift might not necessarily be an item you&#39;d ever buy for yourself doesn&#39;t mean you can&#39;t consider becoming a hat person or a smoothie-maker.</p><p>So, when as conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to insult her brother&#39;s spoiled fianc&eacute;e in front of her whole family, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rvapaa/aita_for_calling_my_brothers_fianc%C3%A9e_an/">AITA </a>(Am I the As*hole) for calling my brother&#39;s fianc&eacute;e an ungrateful b*tch?</h2><blockquote> <p>My parents (65&amp;53) paid off everyone&rsquo;s (my siblings and their partners) student loan debt as a Christmas gift this year. I am very aware of how privileged I am to have parents that were able to do this for me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My parents were able to help their three children (M30, M27, F27) through college so we collectively had little student loan debt compared to most. I think between the three of us they paid around 80k (and two of us have higher level degrees).</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My boyfriend is going through paramedic/rookie school and they&rsquo;re paying for the half the city he works in isn&rsquo;t paying. He&rsquo;s incredibly grateful and actually cried when he read the Christmas card.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>However, my oldest brothers fianc&eacute;e was actively rude and incredibly ungrateful about her gift. Keep in mind her student loan debt/credit card debt so high it became a source of contention between my brother and her because once they get married he will take on her debt.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My parents have been aware and worried because right now my brother is in good financial standing. So, they gave both my brother and his fianc&eacute;e the gift of not only paying off her student loan debt (she has a Masters in education and 120k in student loan debt) but also her credit card debt as a Christmas/early Wedding gift. In total probably about 250k! Not to compare $$$ but my student loan debt was 25k and I was thrilled to not have to worry about that anymore.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My brothers fianc&eacute;e couldn&rsquo;t even pretend to be grateful. She kind of gave a fake smile and then went off to the guest bedroom to literally CRY ABOUT IT! Not happy tears, but &ldquo;tears of disappointment.&quot; She made a massive scene and acted super sad and told my brother my parents were acting selfishly because they were worried about him and not what would make <em>her</em> happy (which apparently was a particular $3,000 handbag).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She claimed she wasn&rsquo;t worried about her student loan debt because it will probably be forgiven anyway (I doubt that) and that my brother makes enough to pay off her credit card debt himself (he makes 80k btw, she makes like 65k&hellip;not enough to comfortably get rid of over $100,000 worth of credit card debt that is growing rapidly!)</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My parents were upset but kept quiet, but I had enough and loudly proclaimed while she was in the next room that she was an &ldquo;ungrateful little b*tch.&quot; Everyone got angry at me. My brother and his fianc&eacute;e left and my parents said I didn&rsquo;t need to escalate the situation but I can&rsquo;t handle anymore holidays with someone so entitled. Am I the as*hole?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Imagine getting a $250,000 gift and complaining because it&#39;s not a purse?</h2><p>The fact that this woman received this wildly generous financial gift from a family she&#39;s marrying into and she still had the audacity to cause a scene is a blaring, burning, blinking-with-glitter red flag. Even if you aren&#39;t happy with a gift, the bare minimum requirement for basic etiquette is to express gratitude.</p><p>Eliminating debt should be a massive weight off her chest and the fact that she doesn&#39;t seem too concerned with how much she has accumulated so far is alarming for the future.</p><h2>Luckily, people were here to help. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole) but they need to take the money back and stop the marriage. - jtj5002</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA - It&#39;s stunning how unaware your future sister-in-law is of the fact that your parents gave her $250,000. Never mind the fact that your brother should probably have second thoughts about marrying someone who carried $130K in credit card debt. Like, what in the actual f***, complaining about a $250,000 gift.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Your parents should withdraw their gift and any future support (because y&#39;all know brother and future SIL will come knocking for debt help when they realize their combined salaries won&#39;t make a dent in her cc AND student debt.) - Oldgamerday</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Holy crap, what did I just read? Her level of entitlement is through the roof! Perhaps you could have worded it better, but I&rsquo;m sure you just said what everyone was thinking. I hope your brother rethinks marriage to this woman, if for no other reason than they clearly have much different financial priorities. - Alibeeee64</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>If I was your parents I would have canceled that offer. She&rsquo;s delusional if she thinks a $3k bag is a better gift than getting rid of $250k in debt that she would otherwise be drowning in. And as a bonus, with that debt gone, she can actually build some savings and buy that $3k bag herself. NTA. - cashycallow</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your parents are right that you didn&rsquo;t need to escalate it, but I don&rsquo;t think you&rsquo;re an as*hole necessarily. - TheAshInTrash</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH (Everyone Sucks). You were 100% right about her, but because you escalated it, you&rsquo;ve driven a wedge between your brother and the family at a time when he needs to trust you all. This woman is terrible and he needs someone to compassionately discuss this relationship with him and hopefully open his eyes to how awfully she behaved.</p> <p>Because she is a much larger, massive AH. I cannot imagine being disappointed at receiving a 120k gift. That is so generous!! Your brother needs to watch out for this one, she will ruin his finances. And I&rsquo;m sorry that your parents would be out of that money if they break up. But she&rsquo;s awful. - Unusual_Swordfish_89</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were slightly mixed here, mostly people agreed that this woman wasn&#39;t wrong to shame her brother&#39;s soon-to-be wife in front of the family, but the problems here probably run deeper than just a meltdown on Christmas morning. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for shaming brother’s fiancée for reaction to gift.

Receiving a gift you&#39;re not happy with can be an uncomfortable, anxiety-inducing blur of fake-smiling and casual lying, but ultimately it always is &quot;the thought that counts.&quot;Whenever someone goes out of their way to purchase something they thought you&#39;d enjoy, you owe them a sincere &quot;thank you&quot; and at least an attempt to make the gift work. Just because a gift might not necessarily be an item you&#39;d ever buy for yourself doesn&#39;t mean you can&#39;t consider becoming a hat person or a smoothie-maker.So, when as conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to insult her brother&#39;s spoiled fianc&eacute;e in front of her whole family, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for calling my brother&#39;s fianc&eacute;e an ungrateful b*tch? My parents (65&amp;53) paid off everyone&rsquo;s (my siblings and their partners) student loan debt as a Christmas gift this year. I am very aware of how privileged I am to have parents that were able to do this for me.   My parents were able to help their three children (M30, M27, F27) through college so we collectively had little student loan debt compared to most. I think between the three of us they paid around 80k (and two of us have higher level degrees).    My boyfriend is going through paramedic/rookie school and they&rsquo;re paying for the half the city he works in isn&rsquo;t paying. He&rsquo;s incredibly grateful and actually cried when he read the Christmas card.   However, my oldest brothers fianc&eacute;e was actively rude and incredibly ungrateful about her gift. Keep in mind her student loan debt/credit card debt so high it became a source of contention between my brother and her because once they get married he will take on her debt.    My parents have been aware and worried because right now my brother is in good financial standing. So, they gave both my brother and his fianc&eacute;e the gift of not only paying off her student loan debt (she has a Masters in education and 120k in student loan debt) but also her credit card debt as a Christmas/early Wedding gift. In total probably about 250k! Not to compare $$$ but my student loan debt was 25k and I was thrilled to not have to worry about that anymore.   My brothers fianc&eacute;e couldn&rsquo;t even pretend to be grateful. She kind of gave a fake smile and then went off to the guest bedroom to literally CRY ABOUT IT! Not happy tears, but &ldquo;tears of disappointment.&quot; She made a massive scene and acted super sad and told my brother my parents were acting selfishly because they were worried about him and not what would make her happy (which apparently was a particular $3,000 handbag).    She claimed she wasn&rsquo;t worried about her student loan debt because it will probably be forgiven anyway (I doubt that) and that my brother makes enough to pay off her credit card debt himself (he makes 80k btw, she makes like 65k&hellip;not enough to comfortably get rid of over $100,000 worth of credit card debt that is growing rapidly!)   My parents were upset but kept quiet, but I had enough and loudly proclaimed while she was in the next room that she was an &ldquo;ungrateful little b*tch.&quot; Everyone got angry at me. My brother and his fianc&eacute;e left and my parents said I didn&rsquo;t need to escalate the situation but I can&rsquo;t handle anymore holidays with someone so entitled. Am I the as*hole? Imagine getting a $250,000 gift and complaining because it&#39;s not a purse?The fact that this woman received this wildly generous financial gift from a family she&#39;s marrying into and she still had the audacity to cause a scene is a blaring, burning, blinking-with-glitter red flag. Even if you aren&#39;t happy with a gift, the bare minimum requirement for basic etiquette is to express gratitude.Eliminating debt should be a massive weight off her chest and the fact that she doesn&#39;t seem too concerned with how much she has accumulated so far is alarming for the future.Luckily, people were here to help. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole) but they need to take the money back and stop the marriage. - jtj5002   NTA - It&#39;s stunning how unaware your future sister-in-law is of the fact that your parents gave her $250,000. Never mind the fact that your brother should probably have second thoughts about marrying someone who carried $130K in credit card debt. Like, what in the actual f***, complaining about a $250,000 gift.  Your parents should withdraw their gift and any future support (because y&#39;all know brother and future SIL will come knocking for debt help when they realize their combined salaries won&#39;t make a dent in her cc AND student debt.) - Oldgamerday   NTA. Holy crap, what did I just read? Her level of entitlement is through the roof! Perhaps you could have worded it better, but I&rsquo;m sure you just said what everyone was thinking. I hope your brother rethinks marriage to this woman, if for no other reason than they clearly have much different financial priorities. - Alibeeee64   If I was your parents I would have canceled that offer. She&rsquo;s delusional if she thinks a $3k bag is a better gift than getting rid of $250k in debt that she would otherwise be drowning in. And as a bonus, with that debt gone, she can actually build some savings and buy that $3k bag herself. NTA. - cashycallow   NTA. Your parents are right that you didn&rsquo;t need to escalate it, but I don&rsquo;t think you&rsquo;re an as*hole necessarily. - TheAshInTrash   ESH (Everyone Sucks). You were 100% right about her, but because you escalated it, you&rsquo;ve driven a wedge between your brother and the family at a time when he needs to trust you all. This woman is terrible and he needs someone to compassionately discuss this relationship with him and hopefully open his eyes to how awfully she behaved. Because she is a much larger, massive AH. I cannot imagine being disappointed at receiving a 120k gift. That is so generous!! Your brother needs to watch out for this one, she will ruin his finances. And I&rsquo;m sorry that your parents would be out of that money if they break up. But she&rsquo;s awful. - Unusual_Swordfish_89 So, there you have it!While the opinions were slightly mixed here, mostly people agreed that this woman wasn&#39;t wrong to shame her brother&#39;s soon-to-be wife in front of the family, but the problems here probably run deeper than just a meltdown on Christmas morning. Good luck, everyone!

Receiving a gift you&#39;re not happy with can be an uncomfortable, anxiety-inducing blur of fake-smiling and casual lying, but ultimately it always is &quot;the thought that counts.&quot;  Whenever someone goes out of their way to...

Woman asks if she's wrong for shaming brother’s fiancée for reaction to gift.

Receiving a gift you're not happy with can be an uncomfortable, anxiety-inducing blur of fake-smiling and casual lying, but ultimately it always is "the thought that counts."

AITA (Am I the Ashole) for calling my brother's fiancée an ungrateful btch?