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<h2>Having a tense relationship with your in-laws is a tale as old as time, but piling onto the party of passive aggression with hurtful comments will only fuel the fires of awkward holidays...</h2><p>Money can&#39;t buy class or basic human decency, but some people still assume that having more money means they&#39;re above the law, or basic rules.</p><p>So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not she owes her mother-in-law an apology, people were there to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/njcdtz/aita_for_not_apologizing_for_making_my_mil_cry/">AITA </a>(Am I the As*hole) for not apologizing for making my mother-in-law cry?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;d say I have an ok relationship with my mother-in-law. She certainly isn&#39;t like those MILs you read about but she is fairly annoying to be around, and she doesn&#39;t like kids (I have 4) so when we got to visit it is much more for FIL than her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My husband has asked me to overlook how annoying she is because it is important to him to stay close with his dad, and for the most part I do. One important thing to know is my in-laws are rich, FIL grew up with it and MIL married into it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I feel snobby talking like that and to be clear I&#39;m not even rich, but it really shows in how MIL interacts with money. She also had a tough childhood and is hypersensitive to people laughing at her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Recently we were out getting ice cream with my in-laws and the kids. We decided to stop at this small beach, which did say residents only and yes we all kind of suck for going anyway, but it wasn&#39;t beach season and it wasn&#39;t too crowded, so we figured it wouldn&#39;t be a big deal and if anyone said anything we could leave.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We were in a pretty nice area. My in-laws also live in a ritzy neighborhood and have a nice vacation home, but no ties to where we were.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>After about an hour a security guard came over and questioned us. I figured we would just go, but MIL started arguing with him. She told him where she lived, trying to prove she has money and should be allowed to stay, I guess. He explained that it doesn&#39;t matter because her taxes don&#39;t pay for the upkeep.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>MIL started yelling at him about her vacation home and what FIL does for a living. She said she gets rules like that to keep trashy people out, but she comes from a &quot;similar town.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My husband was like mom shut up, and then I said that she was letting her &quot;new money&quot; show. MIL literally burst into tears and FIL gave me the worst look. She didn&#39;t talk at all in the car and wouldn&#39;t say goodbye. FIL called my husband pissed and said he knows she was being inappropriate but what I said was &quot;disgusting&quot; and that he won&#39;t see me again unless I apologize to his wife.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My husband tried to defend me but FIL called me a b*tch and said I used something painful and private against her. My husband got heated and they hung up.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I said I wasn&#39;t going to apologize because it was true. My husband said it was, but for the sake of FIL he wants me to apologize. I am still refusing because it was true, and she was being kind of an as*hole to all of the &quot;trashy people&quot; who can&#39;t afford a fancy zip code.</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><blockquote> <p>ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). She was out of line, but the security/father-in-law/son were already handling her. You jumped in unnecessarily just to say something mean&mdash;When your husband has already asked you to be civil with her because he values the relationship with his parents.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You need to take a harder look at all your own attitudes about money (having, not having, and marrying into) instead of focusing on her. - RB1327</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So your husband was already dealing with the situation, and you decided to jump in with a horrifically classist remark that you knew very well targeted her deepest insecurities based on how she grew up? And you think you&rsquo;re not an as*hole. YTA (You&#39;re the as*hole). - Kittysnowpants</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>ESH. You even said it yourself at the start of the post. You all went to a resident&#39;s only beach, I&#39;m assuming you guys thought it&#39;d be okay and you&#39;d all fit in enough due to also being well off. AKA, rules didn&#39;t apply to you for having money. That makes all of you TAs.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Your MIL may have gone the extra step to behave in an entitled manner when security approached your group, but all of you were entitled at least somewhat to go onto the private beach to begin with. - mightymikek7</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>ESH you&#39;re all terrible people except maybe the kids if they manage to avoid taking on all of your prejudices and elitism while they grow up. I mean really: every adult in this? Talk about trashy. - fleurpixy</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA. When you followed the family to settle on that private beach you decided that you as well were above the trashy people who were supposed to be kept out by the notices. And you jumped into a fight that wasn&#39;t yours just to hit low. - Renbarre</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>ESH, but you more than anyone. Your remark was wholly unnecessary given the fact your husband and FIL were handling it, so you took that moment for an intentional dig at your MIL in front of her family. That&rsquo;s horribly disgusting and you DO owe your MIL an apology for that. You literally could be costing your husband his relationship with his parents, which you&rsquo;ve said yourself he highly values. - WiseBat</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people agreed that everyone in this scenario was almost impressively wrong but the &quot;new money&quot; comment was an unnecessary add-on that was both cruel and unnecessary. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she was wrong to tell mother-in-law 'her new money is showing.'

Having a tense relationship with your in-laws is a tale as old as time, but piling onto the party of passive aggression with hurtful comments will only fuel the fires of awkward holidays...Money can&#39;t buy class or basic human decency, but some people still assume that having more money means they&#39;re above the law, or basic rules.So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not she owes her mother-in-law an apology, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not apologizing for making my mother-in-law cry? I&#39;d say I have an ok relationship with my mother-in-law. She certainly isn&#39;t like those MILs you read about but she is fairly annoying to be around, and she doesn&#39;t like kids (I have 4) so when we got to visit it is much more for FIL than her.  My husband has asked me to overlook how annoying she is because it is important to him to stay close with his dad, and for the most part I do. One important thing to know is my in-laws are rich, FIL grew up with it and MIL married into it.  I feel snobby talking like that and to be clear I&#39;m not even rich, but it really shows in how MIL interacts with money. She also had a tough childhood and is hypersensitive to people laughing at her.  Recently we were out getting ice cream with my in-laws and the kids. We decided to stop at this small beach, which did say residents only and yes we all kind of suck for going anyway, but it wasn&#39;t beach season and it wasn&#39;t too crowded, so we figured it wouldn&#39;t be a big deal and if anyone said anything we could leave.  We were in a pretty nice area. My in-laws also live in a ritzy neighborhood and have a nice vacation home, but no ties to where we were.  After about an hour a security guard came over and questioned us. I figured we would just go, but MIL started arguing with him. She told him where she lived, trying to prove she has money and should be allowed to stay, I guess. He explained that it doesn&#39;t matter because her taxes don&#39;t pay for the upkeep.  MIL started yelling at him about her vacation home and what FIL does for a living. She said she gets rules like that to keep trashy people out, but she comes from a &quot;similar town.&quot;  My husband was like mom shut up, and then I said that she was letting her &quot;new money&quot; show. MIL literally burst into tears and FIL gave me the worst look. She didn&#39;t talk at all in the car and wouldn&#39;t say goodbye. FIL called my husband pissed and said he knows she was being inappropriate but what I said was &quot;disgusting&quot; and that he won&#39;t see me again unless I apologize to his wife.  My husband tried to defend me but FIL called me a b*tch and said I used something painful and private against her. My husband got heated and they hung up.  I said I wasn&#39;t going to apologize because it was true. My husband said it was, but for the sake of FIL he wants me to apologize. I am still refusing because it was true, and she was being kind of an as*hole to all of the &quot;trashy people&quot; who can&#39;t afford a fancy zip code. So, there you have it! ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). She was out of line, but the security/father-in-law/son were already handling her. You jumped in unnecessarily just to say something mean&mdash;When your husband has already asked you to be civil with her because he values the relationship with his parents.  You need to take a harder look at all your own attitudes about money (having, not having, and marrying into) instead of focusing on her. - RB1327  So your husband was already dealing with the situation, and you decided to jump in with a horrifically classist remark that you knew very well targeted her deepest insecurities based on how she grew up? And you think you&rsquo;re not an as*hole. YTA (You&#39;re the as*hole). - Kittysnowpants  ESH. You even said it yourself at the start of the post. You all went to a resident&#39;s only beach, I&#39;m assuming you guys thought it&#39;d be okay and you&#39;d all fit in enough due to also being well off. AKA, rules didn&#39;t apply to you for having money. That makes all of you TAs.  Your MIL may have gone the extra step to behave in an entitled manner when security approached your group, but all of you were entitled at least somewhat to go onto the private beach to begin with. - mightymikek7  ESH you&#39;re all terrible people except maybe the kids if they manage to avoid taking on all of your prejudices and elitism while they grow up. I mean really: every adult in this? Talk about trashy. - fleurpixy  YTA. When you followed the family to settle on that private beach you decided that you as well were above the trashy people who were supposed to be kept out by the notices. And you jumped into a fight that wasn&#39;t yours just to hit low. - Renbarre  ESH, but you more than anyone. Your remark was wholly unnecessary given the fact your husband and FIL were handling it, so you took that moment for an intentional dig at your MIL in front of her family. That&rsquo;s horribly disgusting and you DO owe your MIL an apology for that. You literally could be costing your husband his relationship with his parents, which you&rsquo;ve said yourself he highly values. - WiseBat So, there you have it!While the opinions were somewhat mixed here, most people agreed that everyone in this scenario was almost impressively wrong but the &quot;new money&quot; comment was an unnecessary add-on that was both cruel and unnecessary. Good luck, everyone!

Having a tense relationship with your in-laws is a tale as old as time, but piling onto the party of passive aggression with hurtful comments will only fuel the fires of awkward holidays...  Money can&#39;t buy class or basic human...