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<h2>Wedding and baby shower registries can be helpful, but things can get awkward when everything on the list has a hefty price tag attached.</h2><p>Asking your family and friends to fork over a ton of cash so that you can have a flying sequined stroller that can convert itself into an electric car and coffee maker can be a pretty big ask.</p><p>While aiming high and shooting your shot in case there&#39;s a mystery millionaire benefactor out there is admirable, graciously accepting any gifts that weren&#39;t on your registry is always the polite thing to do.</p><p>So, when an irritated woman decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to be brutally honest about her sister&#39;s baby shower registry, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/p14z0c/aita_for_telling_my_sister_she_shouldve_been_more/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for telling my sister she should&#39;ve been more reasonable with her baby registry and not expect everything for the baby from it?</h2><blockquote> <p>To start, my dad&#39;s side of the family isn&#39;t really supportive of wedding or baby showers. Papaw&#39;s side is very much, &quot;If you can&#39;t afford to raise a baby, don&#39;t have one&quot; (there are of course exceptions for things like sudden job loss or house fires).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Mamaw&#39;s side is a little more lenient, but they don&#39;t do registries. Instead, if you have a bridal shower, your mom tells people if you&#39;re doing the kitchen in apples or grapes or bats or whatever. And if you&#39;re doing a baby shower, people bring clothes, diapers, books, and other little things. It&#39;s meant to be more of a party than a gift-giving thing.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We&#39;re far more likely to have eight cousins show up each with a casserole or soup after the baby is born than to have people buy a stroller. I don&#39;t know my BIL&#39;s side of the family well, but they seem a lot like Mamaw&#39;s with a lot more offers of hand-me-downs thrown in.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Well, my sister moved off to the city, and I guess she&#39;s used to her friends making these huge registries? She put things on like a $60 bathtub, four baby carriers that are $50 each, a Pack-n-Play for $250, etc.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She then made this big post on Facebook saying that they had worked really hard on the registry and didn&#39;t want anything not from it unless it was clothes. On the invitation, she requested a baby book instead of a card and a pack of diapers.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So at the baby shower, probably 80% of the gifts were a couple of outfits, a book, and diapers. The few other things were mostly from her friends. Mom bought a car seat. You could see my sister&#39;s rage slowly building. She ended up leaving early.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She spent the next week calling and texting everybody, trying to figure out why we didn&#39;t get her anything she wanted. She made a few posts on Facebook, and one of my BIL&#39;s aunts offered to buy a $70 Pack-n-Play instead, which she turned down. Now my sister is pissy and has been aggravating everyone for three weeks.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She is having to buy all six baby containers (swing, sit-me-up floor seat, etc.) she wanted, the $300 baby monitor, etc. Everybody is telling her that that&#39;s what you do when you have a kid, that you can&#39;t expect people to buy everything.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Last night, after trying to be patient for over an hour, I snapped, &quot;Look, the Health Dept. would&#39;ve mailed you birth control for free. You&#39;re having a baby, so it&#39;s you guys&#39; job to get the stuff for it, nobody else&#39;s.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Anyway, I&#39;m feeling kind of guilty because she probably wanted to vent, but at the same time, how do you get pregnant and not expect to buy the stuff for the baby?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). She doesn&rsquo;t need a $60 bathtub! Sinks exist. Four carriers??? Is she going to theme them to what the baby is wearing? She was highly excessive in her asking.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Sure, you could have been a little kinder in your wording and just said she can&rsquo;t expect everyone to buy her every single item, but she&rsquo;s the one who is asking people to spend tons of money when she doesn&rsquo;t need all those items!</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Plus, to turn down a pac-n-play because it&rsquo;s not the exact $250 she wanted? How rude. Baby doesn&rsquo;t need a $250 one, a $70 would have worked the exact same way. She&rsquo;s expecting everyone else to finance a designer baby and harassing people when they don&rsquo;t want to! DO NOT BUY HER ANYTHING! - yukidaviji</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Suggest that she add &quot;a freaking clue&quot; to her registry and people might be willing to chip in and buy her that. - Anakerie</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. There&#39;s venting, and then there&#39;s &quot;harass your baby shower guests via multiple communication channels because you&#39;ve decided they didn&#39;t spend enough money on you in the exact ways you feel they should have spent money on you.&quot; Which is not an acceptable way to handle disappointment over gifts even if you come from a family that expects and refuses to deviate from registry suggestions. - mm172</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). Your sister is entitled and tacky, but plenty of first time parents overbuy. There are 79 billion options for every baby item, safety standards to consider (with recalls at any moment), your particular residence (will a crib fit, for example), and the baby&rsquo;s personality (what if the baby hates the car seat or pacifier brand you get).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>The others don&rsquo;t sound great for getting exactly what she asked them NOT to get and being surprised she was upset. You sound awful for outright saying she shouldn&rsquo;t have gotten pregnant. It&rsquo;s normal to use registries and buy things for new families, whatever your casserole-crazed family thinks. - meg_murray4000</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH. This is very much a cultural thing. But, honestly, if my family and friends knew I wanted certain things and then just decided they wanted to buy another &ldquo;version&rdquo; of what I wanted for whatever reason, I might be a bit annoyed too.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;d rather get a gift card and I can just put it towards the thing I want. And you were a bit unkind (don&rsquo;t really blame you though). That being said, she is being utterly ungrateful. And the Facebook posting is just so tacky. - thereforthecomments</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH. Your sister&#39;s expectations are wildly off, and it is absolutely tacky to complain on social media. Be real; your cousins aren&#39;t going to drive all the way to the city to deliver soup. Support isn&#39;t coming in that sense. Your family sucks if they have the same complete lack of interest and excitement about your new niece/nephew as you do. You speak as if the baby is an unwanted burden. Gross. - 3340bronqen</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>While the opinions were slightly mixed for this one, most people agreed that both sides were at fault here. Expecting family to buy expensive items seems ungrateful, but guiding people toward gifts you actually need and will use is part of the reason why registries are so popular. Plus, telling your sister she should&#39;ve just used birth control as a cheaper alternative to starting a family is a weird take. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for telling sister her baby registry is too expensive.

Wedding and baby shower registries can be helpful, but things can get awkward when everything on the list has a hefty price tag attached.Asking your family and friends to fork over a ton of cash so that you can have a flying sequined stroller that can convert itself into an electric car and coffee maker can be a pretty big ask.While aiming high and shooting your shot in case there&#39;s a mystery millionaire benefactor out there is admirable, graciously accepting any gifts that weren&#39;t on your registry is always the polite thing to do.So, when an irritated woman decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to be brutally honest about her sister&#39;s baby shower registry, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for telling my sister she should&#39;ve been more reasonable with her baby registry and not expect everything for the baby from it? To start, my dad&#39;s side of the family isn&#39;t really supportive of wedding or baby showers. Papaw&#39;s side is very much, &quot;If you can&#39;t afford to raise a baby, don&#39;t have one&quot; (there are of course exceptions for things like sudden job loss or house fires).  Mamaw&#39;s side is a little more lenient, but they don&#39;t do registries. Instead, if you have a bridal shower, your mom tells people if you&#39;re doing the kitchen in apples or grapes or bats or whatever. And if you&#39;re doing a baby shower, people bring clothes, diapers, books, and other little things. It&#39;s meant to be more of a party than a gift-giving thing.  We&#39;re far more likely to have eight cousins show up each with a casserole or soup after the baby is born than to have people buy a stroller. I don&#39;t know my BIL&#39;s side of the family well, but they seem a lot like Mamaw&#39;s with a lot more offers of hand-me-downs thrown in.  Well, my sister moved off to the city, and I guess she&#39;s used to her friends making these huge registries? She put things on like a $60 bathtub, four baby carriers that are $50 each, a Pack-n-Play for $250, etc.  She then made this big post on Facebook saying that they had worked really hard on the registry and didn&#39;t want anything not from it unless it was clothes. On the invitation, she requested a baby book instead of a card and a pack of diapers.  So at the baby shower, probably 80% of the gifts were a couple of outfits, a book, and diapers. The few other things were mostly from her friends. Mom bought a car seat. You could see my sister&#39;s rage slowly building. She ended up leaving early.  She spent the next week calling and texting everybody, trying to figure out why we didn&#39;t get her anything she wanted. She made a few posts on Facebook, and one of my BIL&#39;s aunts offered to buy a $70 Pack-n-Play instead, which she turned down. Now my sister is pissy and has been aggravating everyone for three weeks.  She is having to buy all six baby containers (swing, sit-me-up floor seat, etc.) she wanted, the $300 baby monitor, etc. Everybody is telling her that that&#39;s what you do when you have a kid, that you can&#39;t expect people to buy everything.  Last night, after trying to be patient for over an hour, I snapped, &quot;Look, the Health Dept. would&#39;ve mailed you birth control for free. You&#39;re having a baby, so it&#39;s you guys&#39; job to get the stuff for it, nobody else&#39;s.&quot;  Anyway, I&#39;m feeling kind of guilty because she probably wanted to vent, but at the same time, how do you get pregnant and not expect to buy the stuff for the baby? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). She doesn&rsquo;t need a $60 bathtub! Sinks exist. Four carriers??? Is she going to theme them to what the baby is wearing? She was highly excessive in her asking.  Sure, you could have been a little kinder in your wording and just said she can&rsquo;t expect everyone to buy her every single item, but she&rsquo;s the one who is asking people to spend tons of money when she doesn&rsquo;t need all those items!  Plus, to turn down a pac-n-play because it&rsquo;s not the exact $250 she wanted? How rude. Baby doesn&rsquo;t need a $250 one, a $70 would have worked the exact same way. She&rsquo;s expecting everyone else to finance a designer baby and harassing people when they don&rsquo;t want to! DO NOT BUY HER ANYTHING! - yukidaviji   NTA. Suggest that she add &quot;a freaking clue&quot; to her registry and people might be willing to chip in and buy her that. - Anakerie   NTA. There&#39;s venting, and then there&#39;s &quot;harass your baby shower guests via multiple communication channels because you&#39;ve decided they didn&#39;t spend enough money on you in the exact ways you feel they should have spent money on you.&quot; Which is not an acceptable way to handle disappointment over gifts even if you come from a family that expects and refuses to deviate from registry suggestions. - mm172   ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). Your sister is entitled and tacky, but plenty of first time parents overbuy. There are 79 billion options for every baby item, safety standards to consider (with recalls at any moment), your particular residence (will a crib fit, for example), and the baby&rsquo;s personality (what if the baby hates the car seat or pacifier brand you get).  The others don&rsquo;t sound great for getting exactly what she asked them NOT to get and being surprised she was upset. You sound awful for outright saying she shouldn&rsquo;t have gotten pregnant. It&rsquo;s normal to use registries and buy things for new families, whatever your casserole-crazed family thinks. - meg_murray4000   ESH. This is very much a cultural thing. But, honestly, if my family and friends knew I wanted certain things and then just decided they wanted to buy another &ldquo;version&rdquo; of what I wanted for whatever reason, I might be a bit annoyed too.   I&rsquo;d rather get a gift card and I can just put it towards the thing I want. And you were a bit unkind (don&rsquo;t really blame you though). That being said, she is being utterly ungrateful. And the Facebook posting is just so tacky. - thereforthecomments   ESH. Your sister&#39;s expectations are wildly off, and it is absolutely tacky to complain on social media. Be real; your cousins aren&#39;t going to drive all the way to the city to deliver soup. Support isn&#39;t coming in that sense. Your family sucks if they have the same complete lack of interest and excitement about your new niece/nephew as you do. You speak as if the baby is an unwanted burden. Gross. - 3340bronqen So, there you have it!While the opinions were slightly mixed for this one, most people agreed that both sides were at fault here. Expecting family to buy expensive items seems ungrateful, but guiding people toward gifts you actually need and will use is part of the reason why registries are so popular. Plus, telling your sister she should&#39;ve just used birth control as a cheaper alternative to starting a family is a weird take. Good luck, everyone!

Wedding and baby shower registries can be helpful, but things can get awkward when everything on the list has a hefty price tag attached.  Asking your family and friends to fork over a ton of cash so that you can have a flying sequined...