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<h2>Is your sister truly a &quot;Bridezilla&quot; or are you just the maid-of-honor from hell?</h2><p>Conflicts between close friends and family members can often arise during the wedding planning process as it&#39;s difficult to turn your loved ones into unpaid employees of an event company the second you get engaged. While your wedding day seems like the biggest party of the season, most people on your guest list will have to spend a lot of time and money to be there for you.</p><p>So, when a frustrated sister-of-the-bride decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her sister&#39;s disappointing wedding guest list, people were quick to offer advice.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/n425cr/aita_for_telling_my_sister_its_her_fault_she/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for Telling My Sister It&#39;s Her Fault She Wasted Money on a Wedding Few People Are Planning to Attend?</h2><blockquote> <p>The important thing to know about our family is that it has a decent chunk of elderly people, and a <em>lot</em> of families. My sister and I are in a group of about five within our age range. Most of our relatives are about ten-fifteen years older or younger. In other words, everybody else is already an &quot;established&quot; (read non-partying) adult, or they are still kids who are too young to drink alcohol.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My sister is a party girl, and it was clear from the start of planning that she was more concerned with making her friends comfortable than our family, which caused issues. She chose a venue four hours from home but which is closer to them - and which allows alcohol to be served without the expensive insurance the venues at home are required to mandate.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So now, people are going to have spend <em>at least</em> one night in a hotel, on top of everything else. That really isn&#39;t likely, and that&#39;s before you get into the fact that my sister decided to make the wedding &quot;no kids,&quot; and that the invitation read, &quot;Cocktail reception to follow.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Okay, so you want us to rent at least one, if not two hotel rooms, pay for overnight childcare (I don&#39;t even think that&#39;s a thing here), go to a ceremony, and then you&#39;re not even going to feed us? No way.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My sister and her fiance invited 150 people to the wedding. So far, 107 have RSVP&#39;d with no.</p> <p>My sister went on an <strong>epic</strong> Facebook rant earlier, then called me to complain.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Apparently, they&#39;ve already signed contracts with the vendors and paid nonrefundable deposits covering half of the amount of people my sister and future-BIL thought were attending, instead of waiting until after the RSVPs were returned.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>After about the third-fourth hour on the phone of trying to calm her down, I finally couldn&#39;t stop myself from asking her what she really expected to happen. Did she really expect our 97 year-old great grandpa to travel that far, then spend the night at a reception without food? Did she really expect our cousins with the quadruplets to pay a babysitter to watch them for better part of two days?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s hysterical and made another Facebook rant. She posted about being the &quot;black sheep&quot; and how nobody ever supports her, and how even I (in her words, &quot;my own baby sister&quot;) abandoned her when it came to &quot;the biggest day of my life.&quot; I was feeling fine about what I said before, but that post is weighing on me a bit.</p> <p>IDK, AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). While she has the right to have the wedding she wants (unless she&rsquo;s using family money and going against their wishes), NO ONE is obligated to go, especially with how demanding she&rsquo;s being. You were honest and made good points. - SolidarityTeaParty</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) Your sister shouldn&#39;t have gone on those Facebook rants. She also probably should have been a little more realistic about RSVPs when she was booking venues, but I&#39;m not going to hold that against her. It&#39;s hard to estimate especially if you have a lot of obligatory invites who you&#39;re not close to.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>That being said, nothing about your sister&#39;s wedding is unreasonable. It&#39;s very common for couples to have their weddings near where they live (you also didn&#39;t mention where her fiance&#39;s family lives...could this location also be a compromise for both families?). It&#39;s not unreasonable to have a kid-free wedding. It&#39;s not unreasonable to expect guests to travel a few hours.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>And a cocktail reception, if you serve enough food, can end up being just as filling as a meal. Had she not made the public posts and instead just vented to immediate family this would have been a yta (You&#39;re the As*Hole) for me. - Ms_Cats_Meow</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA for the judgmental attitude. I&#39;m having a hard time understanding why everyone here seems to think someone is an asshole for planning their wedding in the town they live in, or how serving alcohol makes someone a &quot;party girl&quot; lol.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To have well over two thirds of your guests decline to attend has got to feel fucking awful. With those sorts of numbers, it sounds like almost the <em>entire</em> family has RSVP&#39;d no and only their local friends are coming. What a kick in the gut.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To me, getting a hotel room for a single night is an expected expense of attending most weddings. It&#39;s not ridiculous. Attending events when you have kids is always hard, but it&#39;s not like it&#39;s impossible.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Get a grandparent or other family member to watch them, or have the parent who&#39;s a blood relative of the family attend while the other stays home, or bring the kids and have a local babysitter watch them for a few hours in the hotel, etc. It makes things harder for sure, but it&#39;s not an impassable roadblock for someone who really wants to attend.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So why is it that the bride is entitled for planning a wedding where she lives and requesting that people from her hometown travel a few hours and have childcare, but the invitees aren&#39;t entitled for expecting her to plan an event that&#39;s not local to her (a logistical NIGHTMARE) and plan it around their children? - pomegrantegladiator</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA I may be biased as I&#39;m currently wedding planning but wow yeah you and your family are as*holes for sure. It is super common to have to get a hotel room and childcare for a wedding. In fact I&#39;m also doing a child free wedding where everyone will basically have to spend the night at a hotel. Similar size wedding and I&#39;m also in a cluster of the family where everyone is either older or younger than me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Deposits need to be paid before you know your exact numbers that&#39;s just fact of the industry. Because you&#39;re planning a year out usually and don&#39;t send invites until a month out from the wedding. Generally you expect a regret rate of about 15%. So yeah, I&#39;d be super pissed if I put down all this money for a huge life event only to find that my family won&#39;t show because they&#39;re to selfish to find a sitter and get a room for the night. - tploeger1</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m really confused about the statement that a cocktail reception has no food??? Normally there&#39;s more food than a sit down dinner. Waiters are constantly circling with food. Nobody is obliged to go to any wedding, but everything the sister did seems totally normal to me?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;d be upset if most of my family made absolutely no effort to attend the wedding, especially if they are &#39;established adults&#39; - arranging childcare and a hotel for one night isn&#39;t that complicated. If money is an issue just drive both ways so you can at least see some of it! Make a sacrifice for somebody you care about. OP&#39;s family seems super mean spirited and selfish. - Whatsfordinner4</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>YTA. It&rsquo;s very normal for a wedding to be near where the bride and groom live. Nothing about this wedding sounds out of the norm for society as a whole but it does sound like it is a little out of the norm for your family.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Your family sucks for not going and you suck for not being supportive because it sounds like she was just venting to you but you&rsquo;re just as judgy as your family. Good for your sister / cousin for going out and making her own way in the world. - snarkingintheusa</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Most people agreed that while the social media rant was a little over the line, this bride isn&#39;t being as unreasonable as her family thinks she is. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman tells sister it's her own fault she spent money on wedding people won't attend.

Is your sister truly a &quot;Bridezilla&quot; or are you just the maid-of-honor from hell?Conflicts between close friends and family members can often arise during the wedding planning process as it&#39;s difficult to turn your loved ones into unpaid employees of an event company the second you get engaged. While your wedding day seems like the biggest party of the season, most people on your guest list will have to spend a lot of time and money to be there for you.So, when a frustrated sister-of-the-bride decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her sister&#39;s disappointing wedding guest list, people were quick to offer advice.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for Telling My Sister It&#39;s Her Fault She Wasted Money on a Wedding Few People Are Planning to Attend? The important thing to know about our family is that it has a decent chunk of elderly people, and a lot of families. My sister and I are in a group of about five within our age range. Most of our relatives are about ten-fifteen years older or younger. In other words, everybody else is already an &quot;established&quot; (read non-partying) adult, or they are still kids who are too young to drink alcohol.  My sister is a party girl, and it was clear from the start of planning that she was more concerned with making her friends comfortable than our family, which caused issues. She chose a venue four hours from home but which is closer to them - and which allows alcohol to be served without the expensive insurance the venues at home are required to mandate.  So now, people are going to have spend at least one night in a hotel, on top of everything else. That really isn&#39;t likely, and that&#39;s before you get into the fact that my sister decided to make the wedding &quot;no kids,&quot; and that the invitation read, &quot;Cocktail reception to follow.&quot;  Okay, so you want us to rent at least one, if not two hotel rooms, pay for overnight childcare (I don&#39;t even think that&#39;s a thing here), go to a ceremony, and then you&#39;re not even going to feed us? No way.  My sister and her fiance invited 150 people to the wedding. So far, 107 have RSVP&#39;d with no. My sister went on an epic Facebook rant earlier, then called me to complain.  Apparently, they&#39;ve already signed contracts with the vendors and paid nonrefundable deposits covering half of the amount of people my sister and future-BIL thought were attending, instead of waiting until after the RSVPs were returned.  After about the third-fourth hour on the phone of trying to calm her down, I finally couldn&#39;t stop myself from asking her what she really expected to happen. Did she really expect our 97 year-old great grandpa to travel that far, then spend the night at a reception without food? Did she really expect our cousins with the quadruplets to pay a babysitter to watch them for better part of two days?  She&#39;s hysterical and made another Facebook rant. She posted about being the &quot;black sheep&quot; and how nobody ever supports her, and how even I (in her words, &quot;my own baby sister&quot;) abandoned her when it came to &quot;the biggest day of my life.&quot; I was feeling fine about what I said before, but that post is weighing on me a bit. IDK, AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). While she has the right to have the wedding she wants (unless she&rsquo;s using family money and going against their wishes), NO ONE is obligated to go, especially with how demanding she&rsquo;s being. You were honest and made good points. - SolidarityTeaParty   ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) Your sister shouldn&#39;t have gone on those Facebook rants. She also probably should have been a little more realistic about RSVPs when she was booking venues, but I&#39;m not going to hold that against her. It&#39;s hard to estimate especially if you have a lot of obligatory invites who you&#39;re not close to.  That being said, nothing about your sister&#39;s wedding is unreasonable. It&#39;s very common for couples to have their weddings near where they live (you also didn&#39;t mention where her fiance&#39;s family lives...could this location also be a compromise for both families?). It&#39;s not unreasonable to have a kid-free wedding. It&#39;s not unreasonable to expect guests to travel a few hours.  And a cocktail reception, if you serve enough food, can end up being just as filling as a meal. Had she not made the public posts and instead just vented to immediate family this would have been a yta (You&#39;re the As*Hole) for me. - Ms_Cats_Meow  YTA for the judgmental attitude. I&#39;m having a hard time understanding why everyone here seems to think someone is an asshole for planning their wedding in the town they live in, or how serving alcohol makes someone a &quot;party girl&quot; lol.  To have well over two thirds of your guests decline to attend has got to feel fucking awful. With those sorts of numbers, it sounds like almost the entire family has RSVP&#39;d no and only their local friends are coming. What a kick in the gut.  To me, getting a hotel room for a single night is an expected expense of attending most weddings. It&#39;s not ridiculous. Attending events when you have kids is always hard, but it&#39;s not like it&#39;s impossible.  Get a grandparent or other family member to watch them, or have the parent who&#39;s a blood relative of the family attend while the other stays home, or bring the kids and have a local babysitter watch them for a few hours in the hotel, etc. It makes things harder for sure, but it&#39;s not an impassable roadblock for someone who really wants to attend.  So why is it that the bride is entitled for planning a wedding where she lives and requesting that people from her hometown travel a few hours and have childcare, but the invitees aren&#39;t entitled for expecting her to plan an event that&#39;s not local to her (a logistical NIGHTMARE) and plan it around their children? - pomegrantegladiator  YTA I may be biased as I&#39;m currently wedding planning but wow yeah you and your family are as*holes for sure. It is super common to have to get a hotel room and childcare for a wedding. In fact I&#39;m also doing a child free wedding where everyone will basically have to spend the night at a hotel. Similar size wedding and I&#39;m also in a cluster of the family where everyone is either older or younger than me.  Deposits need to be paid before you know your exact numbers that&#39;s just fact of the industry. Because you&#39;re planning a year out usually and don&#39;t send invites until a month out from the wedding. Generally you expect a regret rate of about 15%. So yeah, I&#39;d be super pissed if I put down all this money for a huge life event only to find that my family won&#39;t show because they&#39;re to selfish to find a sitter and get a room for the night. - tploeger1  I&#39;m really confused about the statement that a cocktail reception has no food??? Normally there&#39;s more food than a sit down dinner. Waiters are constantly circling with food. Nobody is obliged to go to any wedding, but everything the sister did seems totally normal to me?  I&#39;d be upset if most of my family made absolutely no effort to attend the wedding, especially if they are &#39;established adults&#39; - arranging childcare and a hotel for one night isn&#39;t that complicated. If money is an issue just drive both ways so you can at least see some of it! Make a sacrifice for somebody you care about. OP&#39;s family seems super mean spirited and selfish. - Whatsfordinner4  YTA. It&rsquo;s very normal for a wedding to be near where the bride and groom live. Nothing about this wedding sounds out of the norm for society as a whole but it does sound like it is a little out of the norm for your family.  Your family sucks for not going and you suck for not being supportive because it sounds like she was just venting to you but you&rsquo;re just as judgy as your family. Good for your sister / cousin for going out and making her own way in the world. - snarkingintheusa So, there you have it!Most people agreed that while the social media rant was a little over the line, this bride isn&#39;t being as unreasonable as her family thinks she is. Good luck, everyone!

Is your sister truly a &quot;Bridezilla&quot; or are you just the maid-of-honor from hell?  Conflicts between close friends and family members can often arise during the wedding planning process as it&#39;s difficult to turn your loved...

Woman tells sister it's her own fault she spent money on wedding people won't attend.

Is your sister truly a "Bridezilla" or are you just the maid-of-honor from hell?

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for Telling My Sister It's Her Fault She Wasted Money on a Wedding Few People Are Planning to Attend?