Being a surrogate means sacrificing nine months of your life or more to give someone else a family, but someone changing their mind halfway through the process is always a risk. Locking down the conditions in a binding agreement can protect not only the parents but also the surrogate, especially when there is a large sum of money at stake.
So, when a conflicted soon-to-be mom decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole" about whether or not she was wrong to set firm boundaries with her surrogate, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
My husband and I have been together for 5 years. We wanted kids but because of my health problems this wasn't possible. We decided to go with surrogacy, my friend nominated her sister (Brittany 29), I agreed right away cause I know Brittany and the family. We've set everything up. Discussed payment, short and long-term plans, counseling and dr appointments. We explored IVF and chose a private clinic to get it done.