Between hectic work schedules and children, finding the time for romance can be a challenge that often gets overlooked. However, prioritizing nights to simply have fun with your partner without the stress of your routine is the foundation for a healthy relationship.
Many people, particularly mothers, can often feel guilty about asking for time away from their children. Being a good mother means taking care of yourself, though! Take the night off and remember it's ok to take your parents or friends up on that offer to watch your kids for awhile.
When a recent reddit user shared a story in the "Am I the As*hole?" section about a weekend she spent having quality time with her boyfriend, it opened up a discussion about the value of adult time. Praise be, the moral compass of the internet!
I (20s, f) have a 3 year old daughter with my boyfriend. We both work full time, so when our daughter gets back from daycare we tend to spend all of our time with her, which we both love. We have a pretty active sex life (I think this is relevant to why my sister thinks I am TA), we do it probably four times a week. However, we haven't had a whole day to ourselves in a long time. My sister has been asking if she can have my daughter for a sleepover for ages, but we've never got round to it, because we always agreed that if we were having a weekend without our kid, we should plan something interesting to do that we wouldn't be able to do with her. This was something I'd told my sister, but she didn't say we have to do something cool for her to agree to have her niece.
So, recently my boyfriend and I found a show we both wanted to go to. I asked my sister if she still wanted to have my daughter for a night, and she said yes. I didn't mention the show because it was just one of our favourite bands performing in a local bar so it wasn't that big of a deal. My bf and I have both had stressful weeks at work, so we decided we would just chill out the next day. The show was on Friday, we got our daughter at around 7pm Saturday. We got her so late because my sister booked them tickets to go to the zoo, and then they went out for dinner, and then they had to drop my mom home, because she went with them. I didn't really mind when we got her, my sister said she had plans for the whole day.
We spent the Saturday just chilling out, watching our favorite show, and having sex, to be honest. It had been a while since we last got the chance to just spent a lot of time having fun in that way; because of the work stress we've been just having quickies. When I went to pick up my daughter, my sister asked what we'd been up to. I told her that we went to a show on Friday, and we basically just chilled today. She asked if we'd been having sex because I looked 'messy', and I told her yes. We're close with things like this, so I laughed a little. She immediately soured, and when I got home I got a message from her saying it's wrong of me to palm my kid on her because I wanted to fuck, and she said that she thought if I was giving her my kid I would be out doing something beneficial and memorable. I said that we did do something memorable Friday, and it's not my fault she booked up the next day, but she still thinks we should have taken better advantage of the time. I feel like I'm right but can't find any way of justifying my point without sounding shallow. AITA?