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Woman boards plane without BF after he blames her for forgetting his passport. AITA?

Woman boards plane without BF after he blames her for forgetting his passport. AITA?


Traveling can be both incredibly romantic and also deeply stressful. Before you can snap pictures of historical monuments, lush beaches, and delicious local delicacies, you have to pack your bags, gather your passport, and make it through security.

After that, you're tasked with navigating a new location and all the small subtleties that make transportation and errands work differently.

Given all the built-in complications of travel, it's hardly surprising it can be a make-or-break activity for couples. Particularly, when one half of the couple is better at logistics than the other.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she was wrong for leaving her boyfriend behind when he ignored all her warnings about bringing his documents for a trip.

She wrote:

"AITA for leaving my boyfriend behind and going on the trip with our friends?​​​​​​"

I've been with my boyfriend (I'll call him Paul) for 3 years and living together for 6 months. Paul has serious problems with forgetting important documents and after the 4x he did this, I became responsible for carrying our documents in my purse.

According to him, all documents have a digital version and that is enough, not all are digital (passport) and not all places accept the digital form, but he is stubborn and maintains this position. I don't mind being responsible for the documents and most of the time, I have them in my purse.

That is until one day (2 months ago) he called me asking about his ID card, because he needed it for something and they didn't accept the digital version, I was at work and I informed him that I had with me.

He gave me a huge scolding, saying that their documents should be at home and told me to stop 'holding' his documents.

I handed his documents over to him and said that I would no longer be responsible for this or warn him about it, because I was doing a favor for someone I love who is a capable adult (27). For the situation:

We and our friends decided to travel to another country on New Years from the 12/27-01/03 and a passport is needed since it's on another continent. We would go to the capital where we would stay at our friend's house until our flight time.

Our city is 2 hours away. We decided to go to the airport 4 hours before (visit the VIP room) and I went to check all my documents first. Paul was by my side and when he saw only one passport, he asked about his and I just said 'you have it'.

He panicked, saying he thought I had taken even more passports than usual and left it at home. He decided to run home and come back, he asked me to go with him but I didn't want to spend 4 hours in the car.

He went to get his passport (but complained) and I went with my friends to the airport. In short, he didn't arrive on time and I decided I wouldn't miss my trip because of him. I turned off my cell phone and made my 12h trip.

When I arrived, several messages from him saying that he couldn't believe that I had gone on a trip without him and that I had done it as form of revenge because of his scolding.

The flights are all booked up or too expensive, so he probably won't come. He's still accusing me of leaving him behind after purposely not remembering something I know he struggles with. My friends are on my side, but I feel doubtful. AITA?

I forgot one detail: I always make a list for our trips of what to take, his passport was on the list and he still forgot it.

People jumped in with their thoughts and opinions on the situation.

gingergal3 wrote:

NTA. He wanted his documents back. You gave him his documents back. He forgot his documents.

No-Train8518 wrote:

NTA. He is a grown a*s man who is blaming you for his irresponsibility. He self sabotaged the trip and expected you yo miss it by coming home with him. He is pissed because his plan did not work.

Skizzybee wrote:

NTA. This is a red flag and you need to move on.

Party-Yak-2894 wrote:

NTA. He’s not a baby. You’re not his mommy.

SamRhage wrote:

So he b**$hed you out for holding on to his documents after asking you to do just that. Now he's b**ching because you followed his wish but afterward did not baby him and remind him of his password.

He needs a mommy, not a girlfriend. Maybe your solo vacation is enough of a wake-up call for him, good on you for sticking to your guns. NTA.

Suffice it to say, no one thinks OP is TA in this situation. The big question mark that remains is whether the relationship at large is worth it.

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