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<p>To bridesmaid or not to bridesmaid, that is (sometimes) the question. When you are emotionally close to someone, being a bridesmaid can be a truly meaningful experience. You get to help your loved one physically and mentally prepare for their wedding day, and you share the moment with them in a deep and well-documented way.</p><p>However, if you aren&#39;t actually close to the bride, shelling out cash to wear a dress you didn&#39;t pick while coddling a woman throwing a party worth thousands of dollars can be a nightmarish chore.</p><h2>In a recent post on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/" target="_blank">the Choosing Beggars subreddit</a>, a woman shared a series of text messages from her supremely entitled bride-to-be cousin.</h2><p>She kicked off the post by clarifying that her and bride truly have no relationship beyond the occasion run-in at a family gathering, and the times the bride has asked her for favors.</p><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/" height="924" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/cousinone-E5goME.png" width="1000" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>At first, the exchange started civil. OP politely declined when asked if she could fill in for a bridesmaid who dropped out of the wedding.</h2><p>In response, the bride was quick to let OP know the dress would be much cheaper than expected.</p><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/" height="793" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/cousintwo-EfCYlL.png" width="1000" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>When OP refused, the bride doubled down by trying to guilt her since she&#39;s the &quot;only one who can fit&quot; the dress.</h2><p>Unsurprisingly, this manipulation tactic did not work.</p><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/" height="505" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/cousinthree-Z6U1RS.png" width="1000" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The bride quickly showed her true colors when she started calling the OP selfish and made it clear she doesn&#39;t care about the comfort of others.</h2><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/" height="986" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/cousinfour-KGdL0B.png" width="1000" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>OP patiently explained why the situation made her feel uncomfortable, and countered that it would make more sense for the bride to pick a closer family member for the wedding.</h2><p>This did not sit well with the bride.</p><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/" height="616" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/cousinfive-NdIZsl.png" width="1000" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The strained exchange came to a screeching halt when the bride called her cousin profanities while fat-shaming her.</h2><p>This naturally confirmed OP&#39;s decision to not be in the wedding.</p><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/" height="532" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/cousinsix-NjugWs.png" width="1000" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/ca8qhf/i_barely_speak_to_my_cousin_like_maybe_once/">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>This situation is a perfect example of why blood doesn&#39;t actually trump your real relationship. They can be family and still supremely suck, and no one should shell out for a bridesmaid dress for a verbally abusive bridezilla.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman calls out bridezilla cousin for fat-shaming her for refusing to be her bridesmaid.

To bridesmaid or not to bridesmaid, that is (sometimes) the question. When you are emotionally close to someone, being a bridesmaid can be a truly meaningful experience. You get to help your loved one physically and mentally prepare for their wedding day, and you share the moment with them in a deep and well-documented way.However, if you aren&#39;t actually close to the bride, shelling out cash to wear a dress you didn&#39;t pick while coddling a woman throwing a party worth thousands of dollars can be a nightmarish chore.In a recent post on the Choosing Beggars subreddit, a woman shared a series of text messages from her supremely entitled bride-to-be cousin.She kicked off the post by clarifying that her and bride truly have no relationship beyond the occasion run-in at a family gathering, and the times the bride has asked her for favors.  RedditAt first, the exchange started civil. OP politely declined when asked if she could fill in for a bridesmaid who dropped out of the wedding.In response, the bride was quick to let OP know the dress would be much cheaper than expected.  RedditWhen OP refused, the bride doubled down by trying to guilt her since she&#39;s the &quot;only one who can fit&quot; the dress.Unsurprisingly, this manipulation tactic did not work.  RedditThe bride quickly showed her true colors when she started calling the OP selfish and made it clear she doesn&#39;t care about the comfort of others.  RedditOP patiently explained why the situation made her feel uncomfortable, and countered that it would make more sense for the bride to pick a closer family member for the wedding.This did not sit well with the bride.  RedditThe strained exchange came to a screeching halt when the bride called her cousin profanities while fat-shaming her.This naturally confirmed OP&#39;s decision to not be in the wedding.  RedditThis situation is a perfect example of why blood doesn&#39;t actually trump your real relationship. They can be family and still supremely suck, and no one should shell out for a bridesmaid dress for a verbally abusive bridezilla.

To bridesmaid or not to bridesmaid, that is (sometimes) the question.