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<p>Fake IDs can open up a world of booze and adult opportunities to minors and adults under 21, but unfortunately, this also means they can trick people in the dating pool.</p><p>While our sick culture is full of pedophiles and predators searching for young people to prey on, there are also situations where teens lie about their age to an older partner. Best case, this scenario ends up humiliating and gross, and worst case scenario it&#39;s straight up illegal.</p><h2>In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a 24-year-old woman shared how creepy and betrayed she felt after finding out her &quot;21-year-old&quot; summer fling is actually an 18-year-old highschooler.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;WIBTA? A literal kid (18 and in high school) lied to me (24) about his age and tricked me into a dating him. WIBTA if I tell his school and football coach?&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;This story his hugely embarrassing to me so I need some neutral input as to whether or not I&rsquo;m thinking of doing the right thing or doing things for revenge.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>This summer OP returned to her hometown to take a break from an extensive PhD program, and in July she crossed paths with a handsome guy at her parents&#39; golf club.</h2><p>The two immediately started hanging out, summer fling style, and often went to bars.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;I&rsquo;m in my hometown this summer taking a break from my PhD program which has about killed me. I met the sweetest, cutest, built like a Greek god guy at my parents golf club in July. We hit it off like crazy and I was honestly in love with him after about 1.5 days. It was just such a relief to have someone seem so genuinely interested in me and get a break from my dissertation, advisors, students, papers, etc... and just be 24 again. He said he was 21 and would regularly buy drinks when we&rsquo;d go out and he certainly maneuvered through the world like he knew what he as doing.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>After two weeks, he dumped OP out of nowhere, and she was both saddened and confused as to why.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;After two weeks he abruptly dumped me. I was truly devastated but I figured it was my wake up call to get back to reality and I&rsquo;m not the type of person who falls in love after one date. So as much as it hurt, I didn&rsquo;t ask him for any explanations or to reconsider. Still I pined for him like crazy.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>His reason for dumping OP was quickly revealed when she spotted him on campus while picking up her brother from highschool football practice.</h2><p>Her brother immediately sensed the tension and realized OP was the woman AJ had been talking about.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;Well revelation of all revelations, I ran into him yesterday when I was picking my 16 year old brother up from football practice. We had an awkward stare through the windshield and my brother figured out something was up immediately and was like &ldquo;dude are you the Emily he&rsquo;s been talking about?&rdquo; I told my brother to shut the fuck up and it was silent the whole way home aside from my idiot brother snickering. I wanted to crawl in my closet and die. I felt so used, gross, dirty and sick. This amazing two weeks with someone I really fell for and would always cherish was actually me being tricked by a high schooler. A high schooler.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>When OP got over her initial shock, she asked her brother AJ&#39;s real age and found out he&#39;s been 18 since June - before they met.</h2><p>While the legality was comforting, the rest of it skeeved OP out and made her feel betrayed and predatorial.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;When I felt like I could finally talk to my brother I asked him how old AJ really was and he assured me that he was 18. He knew because he&rsquo;d been to his birthday party in June. I didn&rsquo;t have the guts to ask what the &ldquo;locker room talk&rdquo; had been but I was relieved to know I didn&rsquo;t do anything illegal. I asked my brother to please use discretion and he&rsquo;s cool so I can trust him.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>Thinking about the situation has made OP so angry she feels tempted to tell the school&#39;s football coach about AJ&#39;s fake ID.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;I was sad yesterday and today I&rsquo;m really mad. Like want revenge mad. I want to call the school and say he&rsquo;s running around with a fake ID and probably using a stolen credit card (he was house sitting for his brother). I want to call the coach and tell him that he&rsquo;s a creep who used deception to build up his credibility among his peers and really hurt me in the process. I know I&rsquo;m not thinking clearly...so...WIBTA?&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>After the original post, OP soon followed up by adding that now AJ wants to have a phone conversation to talk everything out, and according to her brother, AJ really cared about her.</h2><blockquote> <p><br /> &quot;Edit: I feel like this needs a Clark Griswold drumroll...my brother is back from morning weight training. I guess AJ pulled him aside and profusely apologized for him having to hear all the &ldquo;locker room talk&rdquo; and promised he&rsquo;d knock if off now that he knows I&rsquo;m his sister. He also said he really, really liked me and didn&rsquo;t know how to keep up the charade since his brother would be coming home and he&rsquo;d be going back to his parents. He asked my brother if now that I know the truth would be it me ok to call me again and discuss what happened. I don&rsquo;t know how to respond to that but...I think AJ is far more mature than I am because I wanted scorched earth, he wants to talk.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Devil_Hand/">Devil_Hand</a> thinks everyone in the situation sucks.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;ESH. He sucks for lying, you suck for wanting revenge on a guy you &#39;fell in love with&#39; after less than two days. Just move on. Also, he is 18. He <em>is</em> an adult. Where do you live?</p> <p>I want to call the coach and tell him that he&rsquo;s a creep</p> <p>You&#39;re both adults. He&#39;s not a creep at all. You&#39;re just sad he dumped you.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dharmagypsy7/">dharmagypsy7</a> thinks it was wrong of AJ to lie but also thinks OP is responding immaturely.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;She didn&rsquo;t know he was 18. She thought he was 21. He sucks for lying about his age. She sounds like she has the maturity of a 18 year old.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;OP, this won&rsquo;t be the first time you will be disappointed or hurt in dating. Doing what you suggested would make you look like the creep. Take it as a lesson learned and move on. Also, next time ask for ID.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PrometheusTitan/">PrometheusTitan</a> thinks it&#39;s completely normal to want revenge, but it would make OP look tacky to go through with it.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;I don&#39;t think she&#39;s an asshole for <em>wanting</em> revenge, that&#39;s perfectly understandable given she feels hurt and betrayed. But part of being the adult is understanding that actually <em>doing so</em> would be petty, vindictive and ultimately not stop anything. So if she just fantasizes about getting revenge, NTA, if she does it, ESH.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/bunsyandchel/">bunsyandchel</a> brought up the fact that the locker room talk will never go away if she gets revenge.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;ESH. Some advice... if you want this to die off and locker talk to go away, calling his coach is the last thing to do. He&rsquo;ll get in zero trouble for something outside of school, and then possibly want to talk bad about you after. Let it go, leave it.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cl3ywv/wibta_a_literal_kid_18_and_in_high_school_lied_to/" target="_blank">kittysaysquack</a> thinks it&#39;s best to let go and move on.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Whatever you plan to tell the coach, he&rsquo;s probably just gonna high five the dude. You live and learn, but for you to say you were &ldquo;in love with him for 1.5 days&rdquo; I think that&rsquo;s why you guys connected so well from an emotional standpoint due to similar maturity levels. NAH&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>Hopefully this thread talks OP off the ledge of involving the coach and further propelling the uncomfortable fallout of this drama.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman debates telling highschool football coach an 18-year-old player lied about his age to date her.

Fake IDs can open up a world of booze and adult opportunities to minors and adults under 21, but unfortunately, this also means they can trick people in the dating pool.While our sick culture is full of pedophiles and predators searching for young people to prey on, there are also situations where teens lie about their age to an older partner. Best case, this scenario ends up humiliating and gross, and worst case scenario it&#39;s straight up illegal.In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a 24-year-old woman shared how creepy and betrayed she felt after finding out her &quot;21-year-old&quot; summer fling is actually an 18-year-old highschooler. &quot;WIBTA? A literal kid (18 and in high school) lied to me (24) about his age and tricked me into a dating him. WIBTA if I tell his school and football coach?&quot;  &quot;This story his hugely embarrassing to me so I need some neutral input as to whether or not I&rsquo;m thinking of doing the right thing or doing things for revenge.&quot; This summer OP returned to her hometown to take a break from an extensive PhD program, and in July she crossed paths with a handsome guy at her parents&#39; golf club.The two immediately started hanging out, summer fling style, and often went to bars. &quot;I&rsquo;m in my hometown this summer taking a break from my PhD program which has about killed me. I met the sweetest, cutest, built like a Greek god guy at my parents golf club in July. We hit it off like crazy and I was honestly in love with him after about 1.5 days. It was just such a relief to have someone seem so genuinely interested in me and get a break from my dissertation, advisors, students, papers, etc... and just be 24 again. He said he was 21 and would regularly buy drinks when we&rsquo;d go out and he certainly maneuvered through the world like he knew what he as doing.&quot; After two weeks, he dumped OP out of nowhere, and she was both saddened and confused as to why. &quot;After two weeks he abruptly dumped me. I was truly devastated but I figured it was my wake up call to get back to reality and I&rsquo;m not the type of person who falls in love after one date. So as much as it hurt, I didn&rsquo;t ask him for any explanations or to reconsider. Still I pined for him like crazy.&quot; His reason for dumping OP was quickly revealed when she spotted him on campus while picking up her brother from highschool football practice.Her brother immediately sensed the tension and realized OP was the woman AJ had been talking about. &quot;Well revelation of all revelations, I ran into him yesterday when I was picking my 16 year old brother up from football practice. We had an awkward stare through the windshield and my brother figured out something was up immediately and was like &ldquo;dude are you the Emily he&rsquo;s been talking about?&rdquo; I told my brother to shut the fuck up and it was silent the whole way home aside from my idiot brother snickering. I wanted to crawl in my closet and die. I felt so used, gross, dirty and sick. This amazing two weeks with someone I really fell for and would always cherish was actually me being tricked by a high schooler. A high schooler.&quot; When OP got over her initial shock, she asked her brother AJ&#39;s real age and found out he&#39;s been 18 since June - before they met.While the legality was comforting, the rest of it skeeved OP out and made her feel betrayed and predatorial. &quot;When I felt like I could finally talk to my brother I asked him how old AJ really was and he assured me that he was 18. He knew because he&rsquo;d been to his birthday party in June. I didn&rsquo;t have the guts to ask what the &ldquo;locker room talk&rdquo; had been but I was relieved to know I didn&rsquo;t do anything illegal. I asked my brother to please use discretion and he&rsquo;s cool so I can trust him.&quot; Thinking about the situation has made OP so angry she feels tempted to tell the school&#39;s football coach about AJ&#39;s fake ID. &quot;I was sad yesterday and today I&rsquo;m really mad. Like want revenge mad. I want to call the school and say he&rsquo;s running around with a fake ID and probably using a stolen credit card (he was house sitting for his brother). I want to call the coach and tell him that he&rsquo;s a creep who used deception to build up his credibility among his peers and really hurt me in the process. I know I&rsquo;m not thinking clearly...so...WIBTA?&quot; After the original post, OP soon followed up by adding that now AJ wants to have a phone conversation to talk everything out, and according to her brother, AJ really cared about her.  &quot;Edit: I feel like this needs a Clark Griswold drumroll...my brother is back from morning weight training. I guess AJ pulled him aside and profusely apologized for him having to hear all the &ldquo;locker room talk&rdquo; and promised he&rsquo;d knock if off now that he knows I&rsquo;m his sister. He also said he really, really liked me and didn&rsquo;t know how to keep up the charade since his brother would be coming home and he&rsquo;d be going back to his parents. He asked my brother if now that I know the truth would be it me ok to call me again and discuss what happened. I don&rsquo;t know how to respond to that but...I think AJ is far more mature than I am because I wanted scorched earth, he wants to talk.&quot; Devil_Hand thinks everyone in the situation sucks. &quot;ESH. He sucks for lying, you suck for wanting revenge on a guy you &#39;fell in love with&#39; after less than two days. Just move on. Also, he is 18. He is an adult. Where do you live? I want to call the coach and tell him that he&rsquo;s a creep You&#39;re both adults. He&#39;s not a creep at all. You&#39;re just sad he dumped you.&quot; dharmagypsy7 thinks it was wrong of AJ to lie but also thinks OP is responding immaturely. &quot;She didn&rsquo;t know he was 18. She thought he was 21. He sucks for lying about his age. She sounds like she has the maturity of a 18 year old.&quot;  &quot;OP, this won&rsquo;t be the first time you will be disappointed or hurt in dating. Doing what you suggested would make you look like the creep. Take it as a lesson learned and move on. Also, next time ask for ID.&quot; PrometheusTitan thinks it&#39;s completely normal to want revenge, but it would make OP look tacky to go through with it. &quot;I don&#39;t think she&#39;s an asshole for wanting revenge, that&#39;s perfectly understandable given she feels hurt and betrayed. But part of being the adult is understanding that actually doing so would be petty, vindictive and ultimately not stop anything. So if she just fantasizes about getting revenge, NTA, if she does it, ESH.&quot; bunsyandchel brought up the fact that the locker room talk will never go away if she gets revenge. &quot;ESH. Some advice... if you want this to die off and locker talk to go away, calling his coach is the last thing to do. He&rsquo;ll get in zero trouble for something outside of school, and then possibly want to talk bad about you after. Let it go, leave it.&quot; kittysaysquack thinks it&#39;s best to let go and move on. &quot;Whatever you plan to tell the coach, he&rsquo;s probably just gonna high five the dude. You live and learn, but for you to say you were &ldquo;in love with him for 1.5 days&rdquo; I think that&rsquo;s why you guys connected so well from an emotional standpoint due to similar maturity levels. NAH&quot; Hopefully this thread talks OP off the ledge of involving the coach and further propelling the uncomfortable fallout of this drama.

Woman debates telling highschool football coach an 18-year-old player lied about his age to date her.

In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a 24-year-old woman shared how creepy and betrayed she felt after finding out her "21-year-old" summer fling is actually an 18-year-old highschooler.

This summer OP returned to her hometown to take a break from an extensive PhD program, and in July she crossed paths with a handsome guy at her parents' golf club.