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Child-free woman asks if she’s wrong for telling siblings they might regret having kids.

Child-free woman asks if she’s wrong for telling siblings they might regret having kids.

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In theory, your choice to have kids or go childless would be yours alone, but that's not how it always pans out. If you come from an outspoken family, it can be very difficult to navigate the minefield of unsolicited opinions about children, particularly if they're pro-kid and that's not on your agenda.

As with many pressures, this dynamic is far worse if you're a woman, because there's a strong cultural attachment to the idea of women coming into themselves as mothers.

Since the emphasis on building a family is still so embedded in our culture, women who forgo having kids are often met with condescending assumptions that they'll change their mind, or don't know what they really want for themselves.

In a recent post on the Am I The A*shole subreddit, a woman asked if she was wrong for telling her siblings they might regret their kids one day, as a rebuttal to the pressure she faced to have kids.

AITA for telling my siblings that they'll stop loving their kids someday?

OP kicked off the thread by sharing that both of her siblings have three kids each, but she's not planning to have any.

I'm 36 and my sister and brother are 34 and 37, respectively. They each have 3 children. I have none and never want any. I like being able to travel, spend my money on myself, my pets and charities I support and I don't want to ruin my sex life. However my siblings and my parents act like I'm the most selfish person who ever lived, because I "don't want to experience the magic of motherhood". They call me selfish even though I've helped out both of my siblings financially on several occasions and never asked for the money back.

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