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<p>In a recent viral thread, the journalist Johnnie Jae opened up about the man who stalked her when she was 19.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">When I was 19, I had a stalker. I would go to the library almost every day to study and use the computers. I just left the library and I heard someone calling my name, I turned around and this white guy was running up to me, never saw this guy before.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150833112953192450?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Apparently, I had left my library card on the computer. I said thank you and turned to continue walking home when I noticed he was walking behind me, he started asking me questions, where I lived, why was I at the library so much, how old was I. I answered vaguely to be polite.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150833975679578112?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">He told me about him, he was 28, worked at the library, he was single, he watched me while I was at the library, occasionally followed me home, said I was the best part of his day &amp; then he asked me out. I declined and said I forgot I had to stop at the bank across the street.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150835059747741696?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>When he first approached her at the local library, he revealed that he regularly watched her and sometimes followed her home.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I ran across the street to the bank and hid in the bathroom for about 30min, occasionally looking out the door to make sure he didn&#39;t follow me and then I called my mom and asked her to pick me up cuz I was creeped and freaked out by this guy.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150835670287446016?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I had been going to the library almost every day for months and never saw this guy there, never noticed anyone following me while walking home. My mom picked me up and as we pulled out, I saw him sitting on a bench in the plaza and he waved as we drive off.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150836489531473920?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>When she stopped going to the library, she started receiving strange calls at her house, and eventually spotted him hanging out around her block.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Making that first contact with me must have really emboldened him. I quit going to the library and after the third day of me not going, I started getting calls to the house from the library &amp; I would see him hanging around the block where we lived. After about 2 weeks, it stopped</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150837840189644800?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I started working at McDonald&#39;s and kind of forgot about this dude. A month goes by and all is good til I notice him in line. I take his order and he says it&#39;s good to see me and I try to hurry through the whole transaction, he gets his food, eat it &amp; then just stays watching me</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150838986035720192?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>After a month of not seeing him, she started to feel safe. However, it wasn&#39;t long before he showed up at her job at McDonalds.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">My shift ends and my dad always picked me up, so I left out the back entrance. Next day, he is back and does the same thing. He does this for about 4 days and I don&#39;t know what to do and I also don&#39;t know if I&#39;m just being paranoid and dramatic.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150840859811672068?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I tried to ignore it. On the 5th day things escalated. He came in, ordered food, but he left &amp; I thought okay I was being paranoid. Then I went to take some trash out with one of my co-workers &amp; he was out by the dumpsters. He got all happy &amp; said I knew you&#39;d come out eventually</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150842523549462528?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">My co-worker got freaked out for me and was like Hey man, you can&#39;t be here, you need to leave. This dude squared up like he was going to fight my co-worker and then he just took off running. My co-worker asked if I knew him and I explained but I really downplayed it</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150843485739601920?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Again, I didn&#39;t want to seem paranoid, dramatic or weak even. I didn&#39;t work the next two days cuz they were my days off and when I went back, I had gotten the closing shift, so I was happy thinking I wouldn&#39;t have to see that dude cuz I had been working the morning shift</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150844420041740289?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Nope, I show up for my shift and when I walk in there is he. I run to the back, clock in and dread going up front. I get there and he&#39;s just standing behind the lines now just watching. My supervisor sees him just standing there &amp; asks if he&#39;s been helped &amp; he doesn&#39;t even answer</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150845455217000448?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Eventually, Jae&#39;s coworkers caught on to his stalker behavior and they stepped in to help.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">He just stands there. After about 10 minutes of him just standing there watching me, my supervisor asks if that&#39;s my boyfriend and then reminds me it is unprofessional for me to have visitors...she says this where he can hear and he starts smiling and just leaves.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150846076372471808?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">After he&#39;s gone I pull my supervisor aside and tell her about this guy and this time I don&#39;t downplay &amp; I tell her that I am afraid of him and I don&#39;t know what to do. She apologizes for getting on to me and says they&#39;ll look out for me and handle it.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150847314870714368?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">She also calls my parents and fills them in for me. That night after closing up, we&#39;re leaving and we discover when he left, he didn&#39;t really leave. He was sitting in the back by the dumpsters and when he saw us coming out, started walking towards us.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150848094637965314?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">She also calls my parents and fills them in for me. That night after closing up, we&#39;re leaving and we discover when he left, he didn&#39;t really leave. He was sitting in the back by the dumpsters and when he saw us coming out, started walking towards us.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150848094637965314?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Eventually, Jae&#39;s supervisor called the cops and filed a restraining order, and Jae did the same. Unfortunately, even the restraining order didn&#39;t stop him.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">The next day he was back and my supervisor called the cops. She filed a restraining order and I did too. Was that the end of it.....Nope. He started hanging out across the street, every day. Calling my house, hanging around my block.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150850050886516736?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I called the library to file a complaint and make them aware of the restraining order, they fired him and barred him from the premises. He started showing up while I was in classes and thankfully security put a quick stop to that cuz he didn&#39;t have a student ID</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150851878210527232?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">It was like I couldn&#39;t escape this guy and I couldn&#39;t make sense of it because I couldn&#39;t figure out why me or how this was happening when the only conversation I ever had with this guy lasted no longer than maybe 5 minutes</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150853236170997760?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The stalking, which had now moved from Jae&#39;s workplace to her school and home, continued on for four months after the restraining order until it stopped completely.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">It was like I couldn&#39;t escape this guy and I couldn&#39;t make sense of it because I couldn&#39;t figure out why me or how this was happening when the only conversation I ever had with this guy lasted no longer than maybe 5 minutes</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150853236170997760?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">This went on for about 4 months and then it just stopped. It was like he disappeared from the face of the Earth and he literally did. He was in a car accident and died, saw it in the paper and I had never felt more relieved in my life and that is horrible to say</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150855990322982912?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>As it turns out, the only reason it stopped is because the man died in a car accident.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">But I spent months being terrified and it took me a long to stop feeling guilty, ashamed and afraid of everything. I didn&#39;t know this guy, I had one very brief conversation and somehow he felt entitled to me, he felt emboldened to terrorize me because I rejected him.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150857648486567936?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Jae shared that all of these memories were triggered when she read the recent story of a 17-year-old who was murdered because she rejected a man.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I am sharing my story because at 5 am this morning, I read where a 17 year old girl was brutally murdered because she rejected the advances of a man she met on Discord. <a href="https://t.co/75Znn2nP8v">https://t.co/75Znn2nP8v</a></p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150859110708989952?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">It breaks my heart because so many women have these stories, some of us are lucky to have survived them because so many don&#39;t.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150862578572075008?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">I read about this young woman&#39;s death and it triggered everything I felt when I was 19, I remember everything so clearly and even though I now know it wasn&#39;t my fault, that I did nothing....I still wonder why.</p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1150863483950387200?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 15, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">This is also not the only incident. Indigenous women, Black Women, LGBTQIA2S people all experience this form of violence against women all the time &amp; it is often ignored, overlooked until actual harm &amp; death happens. <a href="https://t.co/bBc2U9H34H">https://t.co/bBc2U9H34H</a></p>&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) <a href="https://twitter.com/johnniejae/status/1151292457679589376?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 17, 2019</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>She ended her thread by lamenting how common these stories are for women, and how often the threats of violence are ignored or overlooked by authorities, bosses, and even friends. The more these experiences are talked about in the open, the more people (particularly good men) will be aware of how to help step in when possible.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman shares story of 28 year old man who stalked her when she was 19.

In a recent viral thread, the journalist Johnnie Jae opened up about the man who stalked her when she was 19.When I was 19, I had a stalker. I would go to the library almost every day to study and use the computers. I just left the library and I heard someone calling my name, I turned around and this white guy was running up to me, never saw this guy before.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 Apparently, I had left my library card on the computer. I said thank you and turned to continue walking home when I noticed he was walking behind me, he started asking me questions, where I lived, why was I at the library so much, how old was I. I answered vaguely to be polite.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 He told me about him, he was 28, worked at the library, he was single, he watched me while I was at the library, occasionally followed me home, said I was the best part of his day &amp; then he asked me out. I declined and said I forgot I had to stop at the bank across the street.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 When he first approached her at the local library, he revealed that he regularly watched her and sometimes followed her home.I ran across the street to the bank and hid in the bathroom for about 30min, occasionally looking out the door to make sure he didn&#39;t follow me and then I called my mom and asked her to pick me up cuz I was creeped and freaked out by this guy.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 I had been going to the library almost every day for months and never saw this guy there, never noticed anyone following me while walking home. My mom picked me up and as we pulled out, I saw him sitting on a bench in the plaza and he waved as we drive off.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 When she stopped going to the library, she started receiving strange calls at her house, and eventually spotted him hanging out around her block.Making that first contact with me must have really emboldened him. I quit going to the library and after the third day of me not going, I started getting calls to the house from the library &amp; I would see him hanging around the block where we lived. After about 2 weeks, it stopped&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 I started working at McDonald&#39;s and kind of forgot about this dude. A month goes by and all is good til I notice him in line. I take his order and he says it&#39;s good to see me and I try to hurry through the whole transaction, he gets his food, eat it &amp; then just stays watching me&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 After a month of not seeing him, she started to feel safe. However, it wasn&#39;t long before he showed up at her job at McDonalds.My shift ends and my dad always picked me up, so I left out the back entrance. Next day, he is back and does the same thing. He does this for about 4 days and I don&#39;t know what to do and I also don&#39;t know if I&#39;m just being paranoid and dramatic.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 I tried to ignore it. On the 5th day things escalated. He came in, ordered food, but he left &amp; I thought okay I was being paranoid. Then I went to take some trash out with one of my co-workers &amp; he was out by the dumpsters. He got all happy &amp; said I knew you&#39;d come out eventually&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 My co-worker got freaked out for me and was like Hey man, you can&#39;t be here, you need to leave. This dude squared up like he was going to fight my co-worker and then he just took off running. My co-worker asked if I knew him and I explained but I really downplayed it&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 Again, I didn&#39;t want to seem paranoid, dramatic or weak even. I didn&#39;t work the next two days cuz they were my days off and when I went back, I had gotten the closing shift, so I was happy thinking I wouldn&#39;t have to see that dude cuz I had been working the morning shift&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 Nope, I show up for my shift and when I walk in there is he. I run to the back, clock in and dread going up front. I get there and he&#39;s just standing behind the lines now just watching. My supervisor sees him just standing there &amp; asks if he&#39;s been helped &amp; he doesn&#39;t even answer&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 Eventually, Jae&#39;s coworkers caught on to his stalker behavior and they stepped in to help.He just stands there. After about 10 minutes of him just standing there watching me, my supervisor asks if that&#39;s my boyfriend and then reminds me it is unprofessional for me to have visitors...she says this where he can hear and he starts smiling and just leaves.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 After he&#39;s gone I pull my supervisor aside and tell her about this guy and this time I don&#39;t downplay &amp; I tell her that I am afraid of him and I don&#39;t know what to do. She apologizes for getting on to me and says they&#39;ll look out for me and handle it.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 She also calls my parents and fills them in for me. That night after closing up, we&#39;re leaving and we discover when he left, he didn&#39;t really leave. He was sitting in the back by the dumpsters and when he saw us coming out, started walking towards us.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 She also calls my parents and fills them in for me. That night after closing up, we&#39;re leaving and we discover when he left, he didn&#39;t really leave. He was sitting in the back by the dumpsters and when he saw us coming out, started walking towards us.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 Eventually, Jae&#39;s supervisor called the cops and filed a restraining order, and Jae did the same. Unfortunately, even the restraining order didn&#39;t stop him.The next day he was back and my supervisor called the cops. She filed a restraining order and I did too. Was that the end of it.....Nope. He started hanging out across the street, every day. Calling my house, hanging around my block.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 I called the library to file a complaint and make them aware of the restraining order, they fired him and barred him from the premises. He started showing up while I was in classes and thankfully security put a quick stop to that cuz he didn&#39;t have a student ID&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 It was like I couldn&#39;t escape this guy and I couldn&#39;t make sense of it because I couldn&#39;t figure out why me or how this was happening when the only conversation I ever had with this guy lasted no longer than maybe 5 minutes&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 The stalking, which had now moved from Jae&#39;s workplace to her school and home, continued on for four months after the restraining order until it stopped completely.It was like I couldn&#39;t escape this guy and I couldn&#39;t make sense of it because I couldn&#39;t figure out why me or how this was happening when the only conversation I ever had with this guy lasted no longer than maybe 5 minutes&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 This went on for about 4 months and then it just stopped. It was like he disappeared from the face of the Earth and he literally did. He was in a car accident and died, saw it in the paper and I had never felt more relieved in my life and that is horrible to say&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 As it turns out, the only reason it stopped is because the man died in a car accident.But I spent months being terrified and it took me a long to stop feeling guilty, ashamed and afraid of everything. I didn&#39;t know this guy, I had one very brief conversation and somehow he felt entitled to me, he felt emboldened to terrorize me because I rejected him.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 Jae shared that all of these memories were triggered when she read the recent story of a 17-year-old who was murdered because she rejected a man.I am sharing my story because at 5 am this morning, I read where a 17 year old girl was brutally murdered because she rejected the advances of a man she met on Discord. https://t.co/75Znn2nP8v&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 It breaks my heart because so many women have these stories, some of us are lucky to have survived them because so many don&#39;t.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 I read about this young woman&#39;s death and it triggered everything I felt when I was 19, I remember everything so clearly and even though I now know it wasn&#39;t my fault, that I did nothing....I still wonder why.&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 15, 2019 This is also not the only incident. Indigenous women, Black Women, LGBTQIA2S people all experience this form of violence against women all the time &amp; it is often ignored, overlooked until actual harm &amp; death happens. https://t.co/bBc2U9H34H&mdash; Johnnie Jae aka The Brown Ball of Fury (@johnniejae) July 17, 2019 She ended her thread by lamenting how common these stories are for women, and how often the threats of violence are ignored or overlooked by authorities, bosses, and even friends. The more these experiences are talked about in the open, the more people (particularly good men) will be aware of how to help step in when possible.

Sadly, if you look at the numbers, men present the biggest existential threat for women.